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  • Three times a charm?

    For people making and maintaining change in their gambling. Connect, ask questions, offer advice, and share your story in here. If you are new to the site drop in and say hello!
    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1713
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: Three times a charm?

    Sun Jun 16, 2019 9:57 pm

    Well done on recognising and admitting to your problem..it is a very easy rollercoaster to get caught in...but you can get off whenever you choose..
    You have to change how you think..and what drives you to gamble..and once you can change that ,the road to being gamble free becomes clearer.
    We have all made bad decisions ..now it's time to make different ones
    Good luck
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    Tom1999
    Junior Member
    Posts: 11
    Joined: Wed Feb 28, 2018 7:16 pm

    Re: Three times a charm?

    Mon Jun 17, 2019 6:26 pm

    This evening, I am nearing the end of Day 4! I got through the weekend (my biggest weak spot) quite easily, easier than I anticipated! Today is Monday evening and 4 days has been the longest I have been GF for a long time, I am quite happy. In saying this, the next few days could be make or break! In the UK there is a big racing carnival; Royal Ascot, similar to the Melbourne Cup here. I had been looking at this for a while prior and was planning to bet and bet big this week, with some premiere races on! In saying that, I had begun my gambling withdrawal last Friday and I cannot buy into this urge. On one hand I am thinking, maybe just a bet or two won't hurt, but then it would ruin all my progress and I would be back to the drawing board again, this cannot happen. Royal Ascot will have to take a miss and it is only for my own good, this is for my future.

    Will update tomorrow on Day 5 GF!
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    flipper (facilitator)
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Tue Jun 18, 2019 12:30 pm

    Hi @Tom1999,

    Well done on 4 days GF! It sounds like the weekend was a real test for you and to have made it through without gambling is a great achievement! What helped you stay on track?

    You're spot on with your thoughts around the racing carnival in the UK- It is natural to think you are back in control and can put a harmless bet or two on, however the reality is that it is a slippery slope and it never stops there. You have to remind yourself in those moments of why you chose to stop gambling in the first place- what was this reason for you?

    Looking forward to hearing your update!

    - Flipper
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    Tom1999
    Junior Member
    Posts: 11
    Joined: Wed Feb 28, 2018 7:16 pm

    Lend a helping hand

    Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:53 pm

    Relapse, it happened. Seemingly most of these threads are filled with people relapsing and I guess I have to accept it had a high chance of happening for me. I had gone 5 days GF, for me, something that was not typical and I was feeling in control. Low and behold, as per my last post, Royal Ascot, the carnival everyone seemed to be betting on, it got me. Now when I say got me, it wasn't stupid amounts like before, over the past two days relapsing, I had lost around $300-$400, a fair amount but not as large as some of my other gambling sprees. Now the thing is, with the races, I kept it controlled (Controlled in my head), I didn't bet large and it was only because I wanted to be apart of the action, I felt left out. Silly, I know. With these bets, I won, I won well. I felt great, but with gambling, and with me, I am all in or all out. Here lies the problem. I am slowly and painfully realising I can never 'win' with sports betting/gambling. No matter what the case, no matter how much I win, I always end up losing it all and more, whether it takes one hour, one day or one week, I just cannot win. When I had won with the horses it was a good feeling for sure and yes, I felt controlled. My big problem is blackjack, the computer blackjack machines at the casinos. This is my big vice and I always think that no matter what, I have to end up winning on those machines, I mean, it has to happen right? I'm smarter than the machine, right? How silly is this thought process. So again, after I had collected my winnings, I immediately went over to the blackjack machine and in 10 minutes, everything I had won, gone. Gone, just like that.

    Can someone offer some advice? I have had numerous reality checks but this is becoming silly. I know I am repeating myself as yes, but I need some genuine advice. I am 19, I have 14,000 in my savings but if I don't begin to completely shut this down, my next relapse could be very problematic!
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    Worried and Scared
    Junior Member
    Posts: 3
    Joined: Fri Jul 12, 2019 2:50 pm

    Re: Three times a charm?

    Fri Jul 12, 2019 3:08 pm

    Wow,


    All those great things to do. Does it make you feel liberated? feel free? i bet the bank is starting to look healthy? and enjoying time away from all that noise and fuss going on around you? im looking forward to that. you are an inspiration.



    Worried and Scared
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    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1713
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: Three times a charm?

    Fri Jul 12, 2019 10:30 pm

    Giving up gambling is a tough gig..but it can be done with determination.There are many people who can help and there is lots of available resources.You need to put strategies into place to prevent you from gambling..tell a close friend or family member and ask them to help
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