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    dragon1
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Fri Jan 01, 2021 1:45 pm

    i need help from my gambling addiction

    Fri Jan 01, 2021 3:15 pm

    Hi,
    i lost all my money on poker machines, i really hate myself. i'm 42 now, most of my friends have house and family, and here i am, lost all my money, no house, not even married because of this gambling addiction. everytime i play, the amount i bet gets higher, everytime i win, i want to go again the next day and win more, and everytime i lose, i want to go back and win back what i have lost. and of course that will never happen, i know i have gambling problem, and want to fix it, i have tried many times, sometimes i will go couple of months without playing. but then go back into it. i have no confident in myself anymore. friends call me to go out, i don't even want to see them, when i was 25, i have saved up to $100,000 of saving, i could have purchased a house at that time, and with a house, i could of started a family. and here i am at 42 with no money, family or friends , i wish australia never had poker machines, many other country doesn't allow poker machine, and is illegal to gamble in their country, why can't australia be the same? i lost so many friends, as they call me out, and i don't even go out with them, everytime i see them, the first thing they ask, is when you getting married, as they are all married with kids, i don't even feel confident to even get a girlfriend, and she finding out i have no money. i'm the type of person who save of other things, i buy no brand clothes, i don't eat expensive food or go out to fancy restaurant, i don't spend on luxury things for myself, but when it comes to gambling i don't even care about the money i spend, i do $4 hits each time, sometimes $10 hits. thats what i hate about myself, i never really got to enjoy my life and go on holidays or to treat myself and others, i really don't know what to do with my life anymore. my life is so meaningless. please help me. how do i turn my life back to normal.
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    Damaged_Armour
    Senior Member
    Posts: 104
    Joined: Tue Dec 29, 2020 3:17 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Fri Jan 01, 2021 4:15 pm

    you're looking for tried and tested methods, read on...
    I've been battling this horrible beast (pokies) for almost 25 years, with periods of inactivity due to success of some methods...Alcohol dosnt help your state of mind and can cause you to trigger.
    * First and most obvious is see a councillor and get yourself excluded from the venues you frequent ie the ones near your house, on the way to and from work, around the train station.
    * Don't carry a key card. You don't need it. Period. Carry a bit of cash - keep reading...
    * A game changer for me was opening a joint account with my partner, I had the mentality that it was "my" money, doing this helped limit the amount I gambled/lied about.
    * Unfortunately this one dosnt work any more, but for the last one and a half years I havnt known the pin to my credit card, it only became apparent to me a couple of months ago I could manage the pin through my banking app, which is has cost my about $6000, until today where I accepted I didn't have to strength to do this on my own, and here it is, my secret weapon, which I have turned to before...
    * The Australia post prepaid credit card. It costs $7.95. It's a single use card which can be loaded with up to $500 in credit, it has a pin (which I recorded else where and scratched off the back). It can only be used for purchases. So no need to carry a key card, I've got $40 cash and one of these in my wallet. If your very weak chop your cards up or give them to a relative or friend.
    If there's one thing I know for sure, the battle is on going, qaurter century later and I'm a little wiser, but still can't help myself.
    Please message me if you want to know any of the finer points or details.
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    There's No such thing as "Just Once"

    You want to stop gambling? Ok great, put your boxing gloves on.
    the_penguin
    Moderator
    Posts: 95
    Joined: Sat Nov 14, 2020 12:16 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Mon Jan 25, 2021 7:08 pm

    Hey @dragon1

    We haven't heard from you in a while... how's it going?
    @Damaged_Armour Made some really good points... Have you had a chance to look over these?

    Take care.
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    ryan1019
    Member
    Posts: 38
    Joined: Wed Nov 27, 2019 5:43 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Mon Jan 25, 2021 7:49 pm

    Hi Dragon, your definitely not alone like me no house no car as no need for on with public transport and yes play the machines. I guess we shouldn’t be looking at the material value of what others have thats my weaknesses and dig deep look and oneself to take stock all i can say is im in the same boat in many aspects
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    gigi2971
    Junior Member
    Posts: 3
    Joined: Sun May 01, 2022 5:36 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Sun May 01, 2022 5:39 pm

    Yeah i feel exchausted playing pokies last few years and savings gone feel cold and hopeless, casino obviously always wants your business and always want to chase my winnings back, doesn't really work. Trying to stay away a few hard months coming while people at work go on about there high life.
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    Andy
    Member
    Posts: 39
    Joined: Wed Dec 26, 2012 1:13 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Tue May 03, 2022 12:37 am

    I definitely relate to not spending $ on clothes, decent car or eat at nice restaurants but I don’t flinch at making $300 bets on Baccarat.

    I feel embarrassed driving a car to the casino but play with a higher bank roll each time worth more than my vehicle!
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    TheTeam
    Member
    Posts: 32
    Joined: Fri Nov 16, 2018 4:38 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Tue May 03, 2022 12:58 pm

    hey @gigi2971 how have you been going with keeping away from the pokies?

    I'm wondering if you have any strategies for managing urges when they hit?
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    gigi2971
    Junior Member
    Posts: 3
    Joined: Sun May 01, 2022 5:36 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Sat May 07, 2022 7:53 pm

    Yeah kept away this week, but had a tab account to wager with but didn’t do to well.
    When hitting on a machine make u want to stay mor and try get more thats a fact.
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    Egiman
    Junior Member
    Posts: 3
    Joined: Mon May 09, 2022 4:05 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Mon May 09, 2022 4:18 pm

    Hey all I am a first time poster and can relate to the addiction and feeling you get when playing machines life just drifts away

    I have blown close to $35 k this year alone
    My addiction may cost me my wife and 3 beautiful kids

    I am.hoping this platform helps on the road to recovery.
    I feel like gambling is a sickness more than an addiction as it is so hard to stay away

    I own a home and cars and such but if I do not correct my behaviour I can loose the lot

    Also only 36 years old
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    Egiman
    Junior Member
    Posts: 3
    Joined: Mon May 09, 2022 4:05 pm

    Re: i need help from my gambling addiction

    Mon May 09, 2022 4:19 pm

    Hey all I am a first time poster and can relate to the addiction and feeling you get when playing machines life just drifts away

    I have blown close to $35 k this year alone
    My addiction may cost me my wife and 3 beautiful kids

    I am.hoping this platform helps on the road to recovery.
    I feel like gambling is a sickness more than an addiction as it is so hard to stay away

    I own a home and cars and such but if I do not correct my behaviour I can loose the lot

    Also only 36 years old
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