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  • To The One's I Love

    For people making and maintaining change in their gambling. Connect, ask questions, offer advice, and share your story in here. If you are new to the site drop in and say hello!
    blastoise (facilitator)
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    Joined: Thu Nov 26, 2015 4:49 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Wed Mar 29, 2017 12:57 pm

    Well done Familyfirst!

    Sounds like another success over the weekend! Filling in the time with rewarding or enjoyable things is important, so I think a beer or two is well deserved. What has been helping you maintain your control and urges over the weekends?

    I'm also getting the veggie patch ready for winter, what will you be planting? Keep up the good work, great to see that you are already putting the money into things you need.

    Cheers

    Blastoise
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    FamilyFirst
    Senior Member
    Posts: 188
    Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 7:38 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Fri Mar 31, 2017 7:45 pm

    Hello all,
    Thanks Suzy and Blastoise for your kind words, I hope this finds you and everyone else well. So another weekend is upon us already.

    I'm home alone tonight and I find my thoughts have been drifting to gambling! Its the first time I've been home by myself for the whole night since my partner let me come back home 41 days ago.. It was times like these I'd head straight down to the casino or venue and then I'd be grumpy for the next week or two. So tonight after dinner I'll read for a while then maybe some browsing on here and have a few quiet ones. Then I can't be grumpy :-)

    I've also stopped playing all games on my phone since the same time as quitting pokies. I used to play for free, poker, FB slots and BJ, but I was always playing them and never interacting with my partner at night . I really miss playing the free Texas hold 'em poker and I think I will occasionally play again one day but not for a year or so, I'll put my family first for now and ever.

    Blastoise, thanks for your support, i got given a great big package of seeds from an online company in NSW from my partner. I've sown lettuce mix, kale, rocket, turnip, celery, carrots, broccoli, Brussel sprouts and cabbage. Just a bit to keep me busy. I've always composted and I have a worm farm (for fishing) but I've always been a bit slack just growing easy stuff like tomatoes and radish etc. etc...

    Anyway i'd better run, I wish everyone a Gamble Free weekend and I'll speak again soon.

    Thanks
    40 Days GF
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    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1762
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Sat Apr 01, 2017 9:22 am

    Sounds like you are doing really well.It doesnt take long before you can replace gambling with other activities and start living again..have a great weekend
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    1dayatatime
    Member
    Posts: 66
    Joined: Thu Mar 16, 2017 12:50 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Mon Apr 03, 2017 9:26 pm

    Hi all,

    Just browsing the forums to check in and see how people are going.
    Im at day 13...so far so good.

    I think its important to give yourself a pat on the back familyfirst. Sounds like your making a really big effort.
    I am not much younger and know how hard you have to work just to get ahead, yet we waste the fruits of.our labour.....i was a pokie addict....and i was thinking about how i used to pay thousands just to try and get a $5,$6,$800 jackpot. Its like going up to a stranger and swapping $1000 for $600......yet we do it over and over again.
    So stupid...

    Being able.to talk about the situation with people who understand is making a big difference to my outlook. Thanks for reading
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    Suzy2
    Senior Member
    Posts: 154
    Joined: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:57 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Mon Apr 03, 2017 10:12 pm

    Hi 1dayatatime

    I agree with you about the effect of reading others posts! It reinforces what we already know, that gambling destroys!!! I believe that checking in here has been the main reason I am 1 month gamble free!! I have tried everything without any success so am extremely grateful to have found something that is working!
    I look forward to the day where my destructive pokie playing is a bad memory however I believe I will always be at risk of it taking hold again should I relax my vigilance!

    Suzy2
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    FamilyFirst
    Senior Member
    Posts: 188
    Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 7:38 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Wed Apr 05, 2017 9:47 pm

    Hello everyone,

    Well done Suzy2 on reaching one month Gamble Free! I trust your all the better for it. Good on you 1dayatatime for taking the time to post and for choosing to not gamble any more I wish you all the best in your recovery.

    I'm just checking in to say gday. I'm going well tonight but the last couple days have been a bit of a realisation of how silly I have been with my money.

    I work under a ABN and pay quarterly PAYG installments but being the compulsive gambler that I am I have always been playing catch up. I thought that I was doing really well and almost up to date with it all and have just been informed I wasn't paying enough. Now I'm basically back to square one and kicking myself for being such a fool.

    I'm using it as yet another motivator to never gamble my hard earned money again. Still forever taking it one day at a time.

    Thanks
    45 Days GF
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    User 586eee5282d07
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    Posts: 318
    Joined: Fri Jan 06, 2017 4:37 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Wed Apr 05, 2017 10:08 pm

    Well done you are moving in the right direction.

    I have a tax bill too so am feeling your pain:-) i just think now at least i have money to pay it off rather than gambling and then having no money anyway!

    Have a good night,

    Sandra
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    Suzy2
    Senior Member
    Posts: 154
    Joined: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:57 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Thu Apr 06, 2017 8:02 pm

    Hi FamilyFirst
    Certainly am better for my gamble free life! So lovely to hear you and your family are enjoying new found happiness. I too am enjoying buying little treats and inexpensive clothes or bargains for my 12 month old granddaughter. It is a whole new world and I'm loving it.
    Major challenge today tho having to watch a client sit and play pokies! 2nd time now but I am coping with it. Played a few games of keno which doesn't excite me much but it gave me something else to focus on. Good news is that I didn't go back after work as I used to do!
    As I keep saying, I am not prepared to go back to Day 1! Too dam hard!!

    Suzy2
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    Jerry (facilitator)
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    Joined: Thu Nov 26, 2015 1:02 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Mon Apr 10, 2017 7:44 pm

    Congratulations on 45 days Gamble free familyfirst. Would that be 50 days now?

    Keep up the good work
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    FamilyFirst
    Senior Member
    Posts: 188
    Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 7:38 pm

    Re: To The One's I Love

    Tue Apr 11, 2017 5:37 pm

    Hello again everyone,

    Thanks Jerry, yep it's 51 days today! Feeling sooo much better for it too.

    I've been thinking of all the things my partner and I have now that we wouldn't of had otherwise. In 7 paydays we have paid 1400 off my tax bill, saved 2k toward our end of year trip, saved 1400 toward my next PAYG instalment so far, purchased a new sofa and 2 recliners, kids spoilt with a few things, started private health cover, both had dental work and have a separate bank account loaded with our budgeting money (quarterly/yearly bills) I truly cannot believe this turn around and its giving me more incentive to remain Gamble Free. We still have old debt that we chip away at but just focusing on my tax debt first and fixing some of the neglected things that gambling takes away from us.

    Yesterday when I arrived home from work my partner had left me a nice surprise, a beautiful motivational message on a nice piece of card along with a bottle of my favourite Scotch for being GF for 50 days. I'm so lucky to have her to help me along on my journey :-)

    Hope everyone else is staying positive about their situations, one day at a time is all it takes.
    Thanks, Lee
    51 Days GF
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