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  • Day 1 LET'S GO!

    For those taking the 100 Day Challenge. Share your journey, seek support and track your progress here!
    chappy80
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    Posts: 3
    Joined: Fri May 20, 2022 5:03 pm

    Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Sat May 21, 2022 2:53 pm

    Finally admitted today to a family member that I have a problem. Felt good to get it off my chest finally but feeling incredibly embarrassed and angry that i've let it get this bad. Feeling stressed and overwhelmed about how to overcome this but feeling strong that I have the support of those around me to help.

    Day by day I will beat this. Day 1 of the 100 day challenge begins today. Let's get through this together and keep each other accountable to work towards a better future for ourselves, because we deserve it!
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    Printemps
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    Posts: 783
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 8:12 am

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Sat May 21, 2022 3:53 pm

    @chappy80 Taking the step of telling a family member show so much courage and strength! Good on you for taking such a good first step!

    Those feelings of embarrassment and anger are common. Its easy to beat ourselves up and ruminate on where we're at now, but the most important thing too focus on is the fact that you've taken the plunge and are setting yourself up o the road to recovery!

    What techniques do you have in place currently to support yourself?
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    spentitallagain
    Senior Member
    Posts: 140
    Joined: Mon Apr 08, 2019 8:36 pm

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Sat May 21, 2022 10:56 pm

    Good on ya @chappy80

    Takes a lot of balls to admit you have a problem…

    Keep coming back there is strong research evidence that interaction with online forums/communities is a strong treatment method for gambling problems. Keep coming on and stay strong 💪
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    chappy80
    Junior Member
    Posts: 3
    Joined: Fri May 20, 2022 5:03 pm

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Tue May 24, 2022 4:19 pm

    Trying to tell myself that these feelings of stress and uncertainty surrounding financial difficulty are only going to be temporary. Trying to take it one day at a time towards building a more financially stable future for myself.

    Learning what my triggers are in relation to gambling and trying to mitigate these by keeping myself busy and refocusing my attentions towards other things. Changing my mind set that trying to win money and win back losses isn't the solution, it's consuming and although I may win some money, in the end I always lose it all. The only way forward and towards a better future for myself is to work hard and treasure every dollar I earn. The recovery will be a slow process and I may have feelings of stress surrounding money for quite some time before I can resist the gambling urges and work towards my savings goals and a happier future for myself.

    It's difficult to not let the negative thoughts surrounding previous gambling habits get me down, thinking about where I would be at financially without these problems is something i'm really struggling with and comparing my financial situation with others around me is a struggle. But trying to change my mindset to start focusing on the future and looking forward rather than dwelling on previous mistakes.
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    spentitallagain
    Senior Member
    Posts: 140
    Joined: Mon Apr 08, 2019 8:36 pm

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Wed May 25, 2022 2:55 pm

    Keep it up chappy!

    Love the reflection, that's right, you just have to think about what got you into this financial position in the first place..

    Grovel and chip away one day at a time. The buck will swing eventually!! Hang in there mate!
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    gzy3
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    Posts: 148
    Joined: Thu May 09, 2019 3:39 pm

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Thu May 26, 2022 10:17 am

    Hi @chappy80

    Your reflection on what has happened and determination to keep the positive mindset is wonderful.
    It can get hard at times but that is okay. You are surely moving forward day by day.
    How have things been lately since your last post?
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    Printemps
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    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 8:12 am

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Sat May 28, 2022 5:10 pm

    hey @chappy80 I just wanted to see how you've been going this week?
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    chappy80
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    Posts: 3
    Joined: Fri May 20, 2022 5:03 pm

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Wed Jun 29, 2022 3:45 pm

    Been a tough month. A constant battle of feeling like i'm moving in the right direction and then making the same mistakes over and over again, leaving myself with nothing.

    Starting my 100 day challenge again beginning tomorrow. I know the things I need to do to change but it's resisting the urges to make more money and regain financial security quickly that's eating away at me. One day I feel happy knowing I have money in my account and the next it's gone. I keep promising myself i'll stop and the relapses just continue happening.

    Have borrowed money from my family and gambled it all away as well. The feelings of anger and disappointing are eating away at me and i'm struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

    Trying to keep reminding myself that it's not going to be a quick fix, the comeback is going to take a long time, years even. It's difficult seeing friends and family off on holidays and enjoying the things live has to offer when i'm struggling just to afford my groceries for the week or pay my bills.

    My mental health is taking a hit, I still feel like I can overcome this all but struggling to cope with the constant every day stress of not having money is having on me and my wellbeing.
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    Pikachu
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    Joined: Wed Jun 08, 2022 3:48 pm

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Wed Jun 29, 2022 4:05 pm

    Hi @chappy80 ,
    So sorry to hear that things have been tough for you in the past month. It is a tough journey, but we are here to help you.

    One thing that might help you is to visualise some of the things you are looking forward to such as print out a photo of a place you always want to visit or something you want to buy for yourself, and put the photo somewhere you can see everyday to help keep you motivated.

    Do you have any support in place at the moment? Are you interested in accessing any if not? Let us know, and we are more than happy to help you with anything.
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    spentitallagain
    Senior Member
    Posts: 140
    Joined: Mon Apr 08, 2019 8:36 pm

    Re: Day 1 LET'S GO!

    Sat Jul 02, 2022 8:44 pm

    Hey @chappy80 just hang in there mate.

    Think of these rough times as learning experiences as hard as it is to swallow when you see money evaporate from your account. Make a small goal to just hang in there one day at a time.

    You’ve taken an awesome step just coming back on here to admit to your errors in judgement.

    As much as you just wish it would change quickly it just takes time. Chip away at it . You’ll come back much stronger!
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