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  • Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    For those taking the 100 Day Challenge. Share your journey, seek support and track your progress here!
    Frank321
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    Joined: Mon Oct 28, 2019 7:09 am

    Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Thu Oct 31, 2019 4:05 am

    Hi all,

    After reading so many inspiring journeys on here I have decided to post my own.
    Hopefully it will help motivate me to finally quit and also track my progress.

    I am 29 years old and have been addicted to pokie machines for the past 10 years.
    What started as a casual hobby with my father has turned in to a destructive addiction.

    I have been in denial for years about the severity and only more recently realised the effects it has had on me socially, mentally, physically and the obvious one financially.

    Wish me luck

    Any advice/ support would be greatly appreciated
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    Calvin (facilitator)
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    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:01 pm

    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Thu Oct 31, 2019 1:03 pm

    Hi Frank321

    I'm Calvin one of the facilitators here on the forums.

    Good on you for sharing your experiences on the forums.
    Pokies and gambling in general can have a dramatic impact on all aspects of our lives and can be really difficult to deal with at times.
    I would encourage you to have a closer look at identifying what your main urges are to gamble. For some people its financial i.e chasing losses, for some its stress, boredom etc. Theres many different reasons that motivate people to gamble.
    Have you thought about seeing a gambling counsellor? Not only can get you get some ongoing support from them you can also get some self-exclusion organised where you can ban yourself from up to 35 different venues.

    Kind regards,

    Calvin.
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    Frank321
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    Joined: Mon Oct 28, 2019 7:09 am

    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Thu Oct 31, 2019 9:10 pm

    Hi Calvin,
    Thanks for replying.

    In the past I have tried to pin point my triggers but honestly I would make any excuse to play.
    Whether I'm stressed, happy or bored.
    One thing for certain was l would leave feeling angry and ashamed

    Thank you for suggesting a gambling counsellor.
    Prior to signing up to this site I never realised there was such a thing.
    If I relapse, contacting a counsellor will be the first thing I do.

    I actually feel confident.
    I've suspended all betting apps, combined bank accounts with my partner and started new hobbies.

    Just reading other posts and even your comment.
    Knowing theres other people going through the same struggle and willing to help, means alot.
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Joined: Mon May 14, 2018 11:40 am

    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Fri Nov 08, 2019 12:08 pm

    Hi Frank, wishing you well on your challenge!
    Great to hear you're finding other posts helpful and have put some barriers in place.

    Looking forward to hearing how things are going for you.

    BrittV, community mgr
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    Sadly, it's my last week as Community Manager. Wishing everyone all the best!
    Frank321
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    Joined: Mon Oct 28, 2019 7:09 am

    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Sat Nov 09, 2019 6:19 pm

    Hi BrittV,

    Thanks for touching base
    It's been 10 days since starting and I have struggled a couple of times especially Melbourne Cup and catching up at the pub with mates

    I've tried to keep busy working extra shifts and spending my spare time exercising.
    Though the temptation is always in the back of my mind

    Fingers crossed I can stick at it
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Mon Nov 11, 2019 4:55 pm

    Getting through the Cup is something you should be really proud of :)

    Sound like you've also got some great ideas about using your time. Extra shifts is always great for the extra cash too of course.
    Have you put some barriers in place for those times of temptation?
    This list of our community's strategies might be helpful if you havent seen it?
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    Sadly, it's my last week as Community Manager. Wishing everyone all the best!
    How the F did I get here
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    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Wed Nov 13, 2019 12:57 am

    Hey Frank,

    I'm the same gamble when I'm depressed, bored, lonely, happy, feeling lucky etc

    I also have come to the realization socially how much my gambling has affected me.
    It's a given I've screwed myself financially and mentally by this, but I've realized I have no real friends and I guess that's my fault I would always blow my money and bail on events.

    Well done on coming here and ready to give it a good go! All the best on your journey, if you stuff up, start again no matter how many times it takes.
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    Frank321
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    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Tue Nov 19, 2019 10:38 pm

    Thanks for the comments

    I was going so well until the weekend.
    I caught up with a friend who I shouldn't have and ended up blowing a considerable amount of money.

    Back to feeling pathetic, disgusted with myself and wondering why I continue to do it.

    I'm in a similiar position "how the F did I get here"
    I'm at the point where its gone on for that long, I have no hobbies and I have avoided socialising to the point I've forgotten how to..
    I have friends I occasionally see but the connection isn't there like it once was.
    I am different
    I'm a depressed angry mess

    I guess it's back to day one
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    Frank321
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    Joined: Mon Oct 28, 2019 7:09 am

    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Tue Nov 19, 2019 10:42 pm

    Hi How the F did I get here

    How have you been going with quiting?
    Have you been able to stop for a long period of time?

    Wish all pokie machines were banned
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    Calvin (facilitator)
    Senior Member
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    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:01 pm

    Re: Franks 100 Day Challenge - 31-10-19 - Forever.. I hope

    Thu Nov 21, 2019 11:38 am

    Lapsing back into gambling sure can be frustrating and can make us feel helpless at times. But its also important to remember that lapses ARE a part of the recovery process of stopping gambling entirely.
    As long as we look back at what brought on that relapse. For example, taking note of how you felt physically/emotionally at the time, naming triggers that arised, thinking about what you can do next time these feelings or thoughts come up again. This better prepares you to help prevent a lapse form happening again.
    Its normal to have some bumps along the way, as long as you keep trying.

    It may feel like you have no hobbies at the moment, but maybe you can look at this time round as an opportunity to try new things, they don't have to be complicated but you may be surprised how much you'll learn about yourself and possibly some new interests may come along.
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