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    Geebee
    Junior Member
    Posts: 6
    Joined: Tue Dec 18, 2018 9:50 pm

    Have to stop

    Mon Jan 07, 2019 6:31 am

    For around a year and a half my gambling addiction has taken me by the scruff of the neck and thrown me in all directions. The roller coaster has been tough, but today I want to put a stop to it.
    In the past week I hadnt been betting as much as usual, but this morning I put a big bet on and lost. It's as if when I put the bet on it was a relief to my system, which sounds ridiculous. How can placing a bet do that to ones mindset? It's crazy.
    I'm thinking of ways to avoid temptation, because basically everywhere gambling is advertised. I can't watch TV without the bookmakers being advertised. I love to watch sport, but every time an ad-break comes on theres at least 2 ads that advertise gambling.
    My first child is due to be born in the next momth, so here's to kicking this addiction.
    I've vowed to give up countless times, but I need ro persist with it and hopefully I can get there
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    TimTam
    Member
    Posts: 78
    Joined: Thu Oct 11, 2018 9:13 am

    Re: Have to stop

    Thu Jan 10, 2019 11:39 am

    Hi @Geebee

    What you described there, the relief you got of putting a bet on, can be described by the chemicals in our brain.
    Not sure if you know or not, but Dopamine, the neurotransmitter the brain releases during enjoyable activities such as eating, sex and drugs, is also released during situations where the reward is uncertain (i.e. gambling). In fact dopamine release increases particularly during the moments leading up to a potential reward. If you place a bet on a horse and anticipate that it ends up winning, the brain will release some dopamine, giving you a rush of satisfaction and encouraging you to gamble some more.

    Repeated exposure to gambling and uncertainty can even change how you respond to losing. In individuals with a gambling problem, losing money comes to trigger the rewarding release of dopamine almost to the same degree that winning does. As a result, in problem gamblers, losing sets off the urge to keep playing (i.e. chasing losses), rather than the disappointment that might prompt you to walk away.

    Keep your motivation high Geebee, remind yourself why you are doing this. Reach out for support if you need, and don't feed that urge. The more you give in, the more likely those urges will keep coming back.

    Take care

    Tim Tam
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    Geebee
    Junior Member
    Posts: 6
    Joined: Tue Dec 18, 2018 9:50 pm

    Re: Have to stop

    Thu Jan 10, 2019 3:20 pm

    Its day 3 and the urge to gamble is overwhelming..i spent the night out at the casino, drinking and watching sport. I didn't gamble, which I'm proud of. When I drink, I dont gamble. I arrived home at around 9:30 this morning, much to the dismay of my partner. It's resulted in a deafening silence, which feeds the urge to gamble. It's stupid, but it probably would make me feel better. I'm trying not to give into the temptation. If I find a way to repair the damage I done by having an all-njghter the urge will disappear
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    flipper (facilitator)
    Member
    Posts: 50
    Joined: Wed Aug 30, 2017 1:58 pm

    Re: Have to stop

    Fri Jan 11, 2019 4:07 pm

    Hi @Geebee ,

    It sounds like it took a lot of strength not to give into the urge to gamble, especially having been at the casino, you should absolutely be proud of yourself. How are you feeling today?

    - Flipper
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