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    JoMc
    Junior Member
    Posts: 4
    Joined: Fri May 18, 2018 6:09 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Tue Oct 13, 2020 4:26 pm

    Hi All, I'm Jo... I made the decision today to walk away from my CG for good this time. Have tried before and been sucked back in. I need to do this for myself, my health is suffering, Im losing the plot! Im sure you can relate...xx
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    Hello3 [facilitator]
    Community Manager
    Posts: 129
    Joined: Thu May 21, 2020 8:49 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Tue Oct 13, 2020 8:13 pm

    Hi @JoMc good on you for taking that step! I'm sorry to hear your health is suffering, what are you doing to look after yourself tonight?
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    ProtectiveMum
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Sun Nov 15, 2020 5:29 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sun Nov 15, 2020 6:24 pm

    Hi, I'm a mum of 2 young children and have just found that my fiance actually has a gambling problem. This is the second time I have found out but the first time I have found out how bad.
    I have already called the help line myself, which was so helpful, but he said he isn't ready yet.
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    Calvin (facilitator)
    Moderator
    Posts: 635
    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:01 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Mon Nov 16, 2020 10:51 am

    Hello @ProtectiveMum
    Welcome to the forums! Good on you for reaching out and thankyou for sharing.
    It can be quite difficult and stressful for someone in your position especially if your partner isn't quite ready to take accountability for the gambling issue just yet.
    As you know, gambling not only effects the person, but for those around them. Can you share with us how this has impacted you so far? Is there anyone in your life that supports you? Any tips from the helpline that may of stood out to you?

    Does anyone have any words of support for ProtectiveMum during this time?
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    Beachgirl
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Mon Feb 01, 2021 9:04 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Wed Feb 03, 2021 1:35 pm

    Hi

    I'm here because I am at my wit's end after more than 40 years married to a compulsive gambler. I know it is too late to change his behaviour, but now that I am retired and I have to put up with sky racing 7 days a week on the TV (or else go out of my own home) plus not get any financial support from him because he spends all his money at the TAB, I need help to cope with the situation. I am too embarrassed to talk to family or friends about the situation as I feel it is my fault in that I let it all get away from me and should have done more earlier. I've always earned sufficient money to pay for everything so he really has had a 'free ride' for many years.

    And he doesn't think he has a problem - his whole family were the same.
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    Calvin (facilitator)
    Moderator
    Posts: 635
    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:01 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Wed Feb 03, 2021 3:37 pm

    Hi @Beachgirl

    Welcome to the forums! Good on you for reaching out for help.
    Its always difficult being on the receiving end of someone elses gambling issue. It can become overly stressful and at times exhausting to deal with.
    Here on the forums, there are many others who have experienced similar situations to yourself.
    Have you got any support from family/friends in your life about this?



    Does anyone have any words of support/advice for Beach girl?
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    Mark7
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Wed Feb 03, 2021 8:51 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Wed Feb 03, 2021 9:07 pm

    Hi, I'm Mark.

    I have been gambling for a while now and come to the point where I have lost to much and need to stop. Just looking for best ways people have found to do it, tips and whatever to help if it comes back on the mind.

    Thanks alot

    Mark
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    JB-nsw
    Member
    Posts: 71
    Joined: Fri Dec 18, 2020 9:03 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Thu Feb 04, 2021 10:19 pm

    Hi @Mark7 you have come to the right place. Apart from the tips you might get here I would suggest heading over to the 100 day challenge topic and create a new post where you can keep track of progress. Also have a read through there about what some others are doing.
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    Sherriejan
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Sun Feb 07, 2021 12:25 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sun Feb 07, 2021 12:27 pm

    Hi there, I am new here as my financee has a gambling problem and seeking some support.
    Thank you
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    Hello3 [facilitator]
    Community Manager
    Posts: 129
    Joined: Thu May 21, 2020 8:49 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Mon Feb 08, 2021 11:26 am

    Hi @Sherriejan welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing. That's a difficult situation to be in, you've come to the right place for support. Would you like to tell us a bit more about what's going on?
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