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    Anita44
    Senior Member
    Posts: 384
    Joined: Sat May 08, 2021 9:30 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sat Jul 31, 2021 9:42 pm

    Hi @User 61047ff408644
    So sorry to hear your partner been lying to you, must be very frustrated.
    But don't be too hard on yourself.
    Please make sure you look after yourself first, maybe your family are right.
    I gamble but I never telling lie to my partner, if he asking I telling the true, honesty it's go along way.
    Sometimes people can change but only if they wanted too.
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    Damaged_Armour
    Senior Member
    Posts: 104
    Joined: Tue Dec 29, 2020 3:17 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sat Jul 31, 2021 10:52 pm

    User 61047ff408644 wrote:
    Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:53 am
    I am the partner of a long term gambler, I feel very alone. My family and friends would tell me to leave. I have no one to talk to.

    He gambles online and does some morally flexible things.

    It's the lying and deceit that is the hardest to take.
    Seems like he's past caring what you think. It's no fun being a doormat. Ask yourself if you need him anymore because there's no point in watering a plant that's dead.
    If you've confronted him before and this is on going, you might already have the answer in your heart. Give him a taste of his own medicine, go out and buy a dress, if he gets up you tell him if he can gamble you can buy a dress, and if inside yourself you're say " I can't do that" well it might be time to move on.
    When you're at rock bottom the only way is up.
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    There's No such thing as "Just Once"

    You want to stop gambling? Ok great, put your boxing gloves on.
    Paris196563*
    Junior Member
    Posts: 20
    Joined: Sun Jul 11, 2021 6:19 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sun Aug 01, 2021 2:41 pm

    User 61047ff408644 wrote:
    Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:53 am
    I am the partner of a long term gambler, I feel very alone. My family and friends would tell me to leave. I have no one to talk to.

    He gambles online and does some morally flexible things.

    It's the lying and deceit that is the hardest to take.
    Hey there, we are all here to offer support, you are not alone. Unsure if this is a new situation for you or it’s long term? You obviously love and care for your partner or do you feel stuck in the situation? If you have family and friends you are not alone. Some great advice has been given to you here by someone in a similar situation. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost this is not an easy road for you, keep in touch x
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    Max189
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Tue Aug 24, 2021 7:36 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Tue Aug 24, 2021 7:44 am

    Hi I'm Maxi, my son has a sportsbet gambling addiction for last few years. I am educating myself.
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    Haylee1604
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Sat Aug 28, 2021 6:27 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sat Aug 28, 2021 6:32 pm

    Hi my name is Haylee, I am here to learn how I can support my partner :D
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    Lovely Cat Lady
    Moderator
    Posts: 671
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:30 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Mon Aug 30, 2021 11:45 am

    Haylee1604 wrote:
    Sat Aug 28, 2021 6:32 pm
    Hi my name is Haylee, I am here to learn how I can support my partner :D
    Hi @Haylee1604,
    Welcome to the forums! It's great that you want to learn how to support your partner. I would highly recommend going through the Helping others section here. Hope this helps as a starting point and please don't hesitate to use the forums for any questions you may have that we might be able to help out with.
    Looking forward to reading you around in the forums. :);
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    Cara Ganbold
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Fri Oct 08, 2021 11:19 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Fri Oct 08, 2021 11:53 pm

    I am new here.
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    Printemps
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    Posts: 461
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 8:12 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sat Oct 09, 2021 10:57 am

    hi @Cara Ganbold welcome! these forums are a place for you to share your story and find support from others. When you feel ready you can share a little about yourself in this thread. If you have any question you can tag myself or our other community builder @Lovely Cat Lady
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    CaffinatedCathy
    Junior Member
    Posts: 9
    Joined: Sat Oct 30, 2021 1:22 pm

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sat Oct 30, 2021 1:27 pm

    Hi I'm Cat and I'm a partner of an online gambling addict. He has a history of addictive issues. He is a successful aanon story. Has been clean for many years but now is engrossed in his gambling.

    I'm a full time student of psychology so I know a bit about the psychological processes of addicts but it doesn't help when you're actually experiencing it first hand. If anything it makes one a bit to empathetic when it's someone you love.
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    Rainbow30
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Sun Oct 31, 2021 4:18 am

    Re: New here? Friends & family introduce yourself here!

    Sun Oct 31, 2021 8:58 am

    Hi I thought I would join as i have never seeked
    Help before. I’m a 35 year old female. I do horse betting as well as pokies and recently wasted approx $600 I would say it could be more but I haven’t checked. I can go a week or so without betting then I feel when the weekend hits I will spend so much without realising it thinking about the consequences at the time. I have tried to exclude myself from online betting but have found that as soon as you do that you can easily download another and resume betting.
    I need to change something
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