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never give up

Postby downbutnotout » Tue Aug 15, 2017 6:20 pm

Hello
I have been gambling for the last 25 years...and have now progressed to online slots. Have lost thousands, and I mean thousands. Money means nothing when you are in the gambling zone. Have tried many, many times over the last 4 years to give up but the urge is relentless. So now have gone into battle...or that is what it feels like. Have a counselor's appointment in the next 24hours - face to face and first time, plus have handed over all finances to my partner. Surely, that puts 'the odds' in my favour. Just want to get back to life as I used to know it.
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Re: never give up

Postby Catherine1 » Tue Aug 15, 2017 7:04 pm

Yes. I know what you mean. When you are in the gambling zone, its like money is like paper and you keep feeding those machines with note after note until you have forgotten how much money you have blown. When you come back to earth you think what the hell. How can you spend so much $$$ ? You only earn x amount per hour but you can gamble way more than you earn. How can that make sense. It makes no sense. Thats why you need to stop gambling. I was 13 weeks gamble free until a blowout last Tuesday. I am back at day 7 today. All the best with your challenge. It is hard but it will be so worth it.
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Re: never give up

Postby downbutnotout » Tue Aug 15, 2017 7:26 pm

Would love to be 13 weeks gamble free...just want to get some distance between the machines and myself. After an episode you feel guilt, regret and a desire to be gamble free...but after a few days, I find, that I can rationalize my gambling and hence the planning to gamble starts again.
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Re: never give up

Postby FamilyFirst » Tue Aug 15, 2017 8:09 pm

Hello and welcome Downbutnotout,
Well done for making the decision to get rid of this horrible addiction.
I gave all control of my finances to my partner and have never looked back. I'm six months gamble free next week and it would not have been so easy if I was trying to go it alone.
Sure I still get urges but with no cash I can't gamble. I'm becoming more aware that I quite possibly may never be able to trust myself with cash..
But I'd rather live my life free from all the crap that being a compulsive gambler brings.
Knowing that I have my hard earned money in my bank account and not the casino's or pokie venues is a great feeling.
This is my third attempt at my partner controlling the finances, warn your partner not to give in to your demands for the money back at all costs... The gambling demon as your probably well aware will try to lure you back to your old ways.
Be strong and get through the first few weeks and slowly you will retrain your brain to rely on other forms of stimulation rather than destructive gambling.
Well done again and stay focused,
Cheers, Lee
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Re: never give up

Postby pamela » Tue Aug 15, 2017 11:36 pm

Hi and welcome. We will all support you without judging here.do whatever you can to stop gambling..limiting your access to cash is the first step..you can retrain how you think but it does take time and patience..good luck
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Re: never give up

Postby Sally » Tue Aug 22, 2017 3:46 pm

11 days gamble free. Have seen a counselor and will go back again. So far have been able to steer clear of all things gambling.
Look forward to getting to a month without gambling.
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Re: never give up

Postby hanginginthere » Thu Aug 24, 2017 7:34 am

feel so bad. Have been gamble free for 13days and yesterday paid all my credit card bills. Partner came in distressed this morning as he assumed I was covering up gambling debts...now has gone off to work depressed. :(
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Re: never give up

Postby pamela » Thu Aug 24, 2017 11:09 am

Don't give up and don't be discouraged as it takes a long time for our partners to rebuild the trust they lost in us.Know in your heart that you have done the right thing and you are doing your best to stay Gamble free
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Re: never give up

Postby Charlotte (facilitator) » Thu Aug 24, 2017 6:33 pm

Hi there downbutnotout,

welcome to the forum and good on you for taking the step to reach out. I hope you find this a supportive and understanding space - there is such a lot of wisdom in the words on this forum, that I feel certain you can get something from it. It sounds like gambling has been around for you for a while, so seeing the counsellor and handing over finances to your partner is a brave step. Well done.

Let us know how you go with the counsellor :)

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Re: never give up

Postby hanginginthere » Sun Sep 03, 2017 8:49 pm

It's been 23 days since my last money gamble. I have felt in control over the last 3 weeks but have been playing the gambling so called free apps this weekend like there is no tomorrow...and if my cards etc hadn't been blocked I would have bought some 'coins' But I couldn't, mind you I tried.
Thanks goodness for work as it will consume my time this week. Hopefully normality will return soon.
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