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    Dave68
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    Posts: 320
    Joined: Sun Jan 26, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: First day to freedom

    Sun Mar 29, 2015 5:40 pm

    G'day Peter. Yep, sounds a lot like me, the gambling timeframe for you is about the same as me. Dad would let me put on a couple of quinellas on the phone account in the early 80's, and TAB betting on the horses and dogs was my thing from 18 onwards. Around the turn of the millenium pokies took over, and yep, lo and behold 28 years of gambling ensued.

    Interesting you have a bit of a thing for NBA betting, i'm absolutely mad for NBA, but mainly due to a group of mates where we're in a yahoo fantasy basketball league. For all my betting over the years, i never had a bet on the NBA. But it does consume me, the league is captivating with banter between us mates, and also as to how good your players may be that you draft or 'recruit' off the waiver wires. I wonder if joining a fantasy basketball league next year can be a way of keeping the interest in the game, but also provide an alternate buzz to the punt?

    As i've said before in my posts, i have been able to kick the pokies habit now for a period which is now approaching a year. My main issue is just trying to find some positive that can occur by dint of the massive financial damage i have caused myself. I continually get annoyed (and i know i can't do anything about it) by Melbourne and Sydney's ever ballooning property markets, which seem to act to absolve all of my pokie losses on some properties on a yearly basis. Unfortunately my property i bought in 2010 is in an area which has performed about as well as my pokie betting, so no equity growth and free money to try and wind back some of the damage. I know i just have to let this go....but it's extremely frustrating for me.

    I guess the only thing that's positive is the fact that i have not lost any money on the punt in the past year. As Phoenix used to do (although i haven't seen him for a while on the forum) his tool of working out how much he hasn't lost (saved) by not gambling can show a tangible figure as time goes by. $10 a day would now be $3500 now over a year, $20 a day is $7000 for my situation. I am sure i gambled more in times gone by but my financial situation was already dire for some time before, thus i had to cut down the amounts i bet, not the time i played.

    Strangely for someone who played pokies for 15 years, and still would count among my most 'fun' times of my life as going to the casino carefree and full of hope in the late 90's and start of the 2000's, i don;t miss the machines as they are now. I am being helped by the ascension of these new jackpot based games which have never appealed to me, and when i have gone in with a mate for a few occasions, i don;t even enjoy watching them much. Having played Aristocrat games back in the day, their replacement and updating to these character-themed machines with whizz bang graphics actually turn me off anyway. A happy thing for me, as pokies were the most efficient way of me wasting my money. One day, in years to come hopefully some equity growth can occur, and some reduction in my debts can happen. It's a terribly slow process, and i can honestly say in this first year of stopping, i haven't really seen much progress. I guess that's the thing, gambling does this to you, and undoing the damage is like starting to pay off a mortgage, one cent at a time.
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    Peter
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Mon Mar 30, 2015 10:42 am

    G'day Dave,
    Thanks for popping by my post with your story. It's hard to swallow when we use words like 28 years gambling. I'm 39 so I've gambled for 26 years because I stopped for 1 year in my twenties. I would hate to know how much money I've actually lost over the years. My strategy on the NBA is to avoid it completely atm as this is working for me being only my first week off the punt. I've joined fantasy leagues in the past for the NRL and have lost interest pretty quickly probably because I wasn't winning any money. But thank you for the idea because I can't mow the lawn or weed the garden every 5 minutes. I'll have to find new things to keep myself distracted. Might be time to get the fishing gear fixed up or pull out the clubs for a hit.
    Peter
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    Time2change
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    Posts: 40
    Joined: Fri Apr 25, 2014 7:51 pm

    Re: First day to freedom

    Mon Mar 30, 2015 7:17 pm

    Great work Peter! Keep racking up the days and stay strong. I am about a week in... hope 100 days is just the beginning!!

    Interesting that you mention gambling as a young boy. That was very much in my history. My father introduced me to gambling - he was then and still is a very modest gambler (in control). Does make me wonder why I have struggled with gambling as much as I have??

    Hopefully all that is behind me.

    Keep up the good work and see you at 100 days
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    Peter
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Tue Mar 31, 2015 9:25 am

    Thanks Time2change,congratulations on reaching 7 days that's great.
    Yeah starting at a young age really wasn't a good idea, if only we knew the consequences it would create down the track. But in saying that I can't change how it all went down now, I can only change things moving forward. If I get thru today I have achieved 1 week also which is awesome.
    Peter
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    AnnaB (facilitator)
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    Posts: 363
    Joined: Wed Oct 24, 2012 1:15 pm

    Re: First day to freedom

    Tue Mar 31, 2015 8:45 pm

    Absolutely awesome work guys! :o
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    Peter
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Wed Apr 01, 2015 9:12 am

    Thanks Anna I appreciate the support.

    Well pretty happy today starting week 2 of zero gambling. My week hasn't been to bad to be honest. Since my partner knows everything going on and takes care of the financial side I have just had to concentrate on being busy. I recommend people to seek help from their loved ones on there journey. I have read many people's stories on here so I know I have to stay grounded because a lapse could be just around the corner. But so far so good and I'm going to celebrate my 1 week off the punt.
    Peter
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    Peter
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Sun Apr 05, 2015 8:35 pm

    Happy Easter everyone,
    ive had a great couple of days at home with my partner and step daughter. We have gone shopping and fishing. We had the odd bbq and also a easter breakfast. This weekend has been the first weekend in a long time that I have felt my partner really loves me. Its been awesome, but all good things come to an end. It's now Sunday night and we aren't talking like we have earlier in the morning. My step daughter changed the day by saying her boyfriend was coming over since his 4wd weekend didn't turn out the way it was planned. Instantly her attitude changes to boyfriend mode. My partner drops everything for her daughter. Plus the step daughter has annoying parrots which don't get the same attention when boyfriend turns up. (Which makes me angry, Cos I hate the birds screaming) To cut a long story short, My partner I are now arguing, I didnt eat dinner being stubborn and I said that I was going to gamble tomorrow because she's being a *****. Ive had about 6 beers now and to my partners credit she past me the tablet and said start to write something on this forum. Its day 12 and I dont plan to screw up yet.

    Thanks partner for making me write here to straighten my mind and there will be no gambling tomorrow xo
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    Charlotte (facilitator)
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    Posts: 384
    Joined: Tue Nov 18, 2014 9:53 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Thu Apr 09, 2015 4:18 pm

    Hi Peter,

    it sounds like there were some triggers for you on Sunday! Just wondering how things have been since then? And yes, a credit to your partner for steering you in the right direction.

    take care,
    Charlotte
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    Peter
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Sat Apr 11, 2015 12:42 am

    Hi Charlotte
    Thanks for asking,yeah I'm all good. Still going strong,it's day 18 today so things are going well. Taking 1 day at a time.
    Peter
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    Peter
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Wed Apr 15, 2015 9:41 am

    Well g'day everyone,
    Yesterday I completed 3 weeks no gambling which is fantastic. My bank doesn't reflect 3 weeks but its heading in the right direction.
    Peter
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