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    Mel
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    give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Wed Nov 07, 2012 11:54 am

    Hiya, my name is Mel and I have had a problem with the pokies for over 15 years. I have tried hypnosis, counselling and even antidepressants. I just wanted to say that after years and years of making excuses about why self-exclusion wouldn't work for me...things like “I'm too embarrassed”, “what happens if someone recognises me”... I got desperate enough and have been on the program for 7 months and haven't gambled for all of that time. It has taken out the struggle.
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    Zack
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    Joined: Sat Nov 10, 2012 9:38 am

    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Sat Nov 10, 2012 10:15 am

    Hi that's great to hear that your going good with the gambling problem, can you please tell what program you are on and how to go about joining please.
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    Mel
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    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Sat Nov 10, 2012 4:47 pm

    Hi Zack, so my problem was with the pokies and I just phoned the self-exclusion people at the AHA. Their number is 9654 3491. It's worked brilliantly for me.....what type of gambling do you do? Hang in there...
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    jerry
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    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Sun Dec 16, 2012 9:00 pm

    thanks mel, gonna start the self exclusion tomorrow, hopefully this will help me beat this horrible addiction.
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    Bull
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    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Mon Dec 17, 2012 10:50 am

    It's good to know that self-exclusion can work! I always thought the venues didn't really care and just treated it as a process...
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    Chris2
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    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:01 pm

    Hi my name is Chris and I am new to this forum. Reading Mel's post about self exclusion..I can relate to this now. I have gambled often for the last five years on and off struggling to stop and then returning. Although I didnt gamble each week or day..I could convince myself that I was in control and dealing with it..eventually after a few months I would go to my local and very comfortable venue and binge gamble. This last time (xmas day) I was out of control and gambled thousands redrawing on my mortgage which was an all time low feeling for me to see myself do. I also had convinced myself that self exclusion was unnecessary or pointless. When I got down to my last $50 and realised what I had done I knew I had to do push through my embarrassment and pain and I went straight to the managers office and talked to them. I know the door people and all that and I knew that they knew but it reached a point inside me where it didnt matter any more the embarrassment i mean. I self excluded and included a longer time frame on that contract. They understood and they deal with this often. I had to get a witness to sign the document so I went to my family. I even called my ex who is far removed from this scene and he was also very supportive. I feel glad that I did this. Although I did start councelling face to face last month and dont have an appointment till after new year..I relapsed which they say is expected and each relapse teaches us something more. I felt comfort going alone to my local club.It was close, convenient and a a comfort zone. The problem was that when I was lonely, down or needed to relax it was to easy to go there especially when I got in to that zone of wanting to win back the losses of which is still an issue and illogical false belief I am working on at the moment. Self exclusion was the best option as i realised the other night. Something I should have done earlier but was too embarrassed to do. Sometimes it is worth facing that embarrassment. It would have saved me losing my savings. Generally speaking, it is human nature to make mistakes and face issues and of all the shame, self sabotage and embarrassment I felt; when I got desperate enough and it became painful enough I realised that those people I faced (the manager of the club, my family etc) they were 'human' enough to understand and support. Knowing I did this has helped me look at my life in a deeper way.
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    Angelina.
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    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Wed Feb 27, 2013 12:24 am

    Wow...what a story Chris, it really sounds like self-exclusion worked for you. Thanks for sharing : )

    I wonder if this brings up stories for other people? We would love to hear from you (even if self-exclusion didn't work for you)...
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    Bull
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    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Wed Feb 27, 2013 11:40 am

    Fantastic story Chris.

    You know I had a friend who self-excluded and the b!tch of a venue manager knew he was still gambling, but still let him in! Can you believe that!

    I guess it really does depend on the staff at the venue as well, and whether they have the guts to do something about it when they see someone in there who has self-excluded.
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    POPEYE
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    Tue Mar 12, 2013 12:16 am

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    BriM
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    RE: give self-exclusion a go...it worked for me

    Tue Mar 12, 2013 9:47 am

    Popeye (12/03/2013)Hello how on earth did I make it to here. I have it all, yet it appears a gambling problem as well. What a joke people gamble because they need money. I have alot of money yet still gamble? I self excluded myself from the casino only to find myself at the local pokies venue. I will self exclude myself from the venues this week. Thankgod for this site at least now I have somewhere to turn to when I am feeling the urge. I lost so much today I cannot even sleep
    Hey Popeye,

    Welcome to the forum. I'm really glad you found it too! It's really nice that you recognise this is a place where you'll find support, and can be part of the way you manage any urges you have to gamble.

    I'm really interested in your story actually. I get the sense that you're comfortably well off. Of course, as you say, people don't just gamble because they need money. Why do you gamble? Maybe if you like you could log into the 'My Story' forum and let us know a little bit more about it...?

    Nice to 'meet' you and hope to see you on here again very soon

    Bri
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