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    TheTiges
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    Re: lost over > 300k, need some serious advice

    Thu Jun 10, 2021 4:49 pm

    hey @ervgorh I just want to start off by saying good on you for reaching out. Telling people what's going on can often be the hardest step, so good job. It sounds like you've had a really rough time right now. It's important to keep in mind that even the smartest of people can get sucked in by the pokies, they're all designed to make you want to come back, even when you know it's gonna end badly. Keep reminding yourself of that, and try not to be too hard on yourself, I know that's easier said than done, but you're taking the right first steps. I would recommend you call Gamblers helpline on 1800 858 858 they offer 24/7 counselling and referrals. They will be able to link you in with service and help you with more techniques and tricks.

    You might want to start doing he 100 Day Challenge, you can find it here. This is a good way to keep yourself accountable and keep track of how many days you're gamble free.

    Do some members have advice? @Anita44 @Damaged_Armour or @Kevcollingwood

    The most important thing to remember right now is to take it one day at a time.
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    Anita44
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    Re: lost over > 300k, need some serious advice

    Thu Jun 10, 2021 10:48 pm

    Hi TheTiges and hi ervgorh yes when i win the grand jackpot that when my addiction start their, before I only play for fun and I never spend more than $200. But after the grand jackpot win that it, I spend between $4000 to $6000 each time I play, sometime I think winning big can ruin my life, I was lucky that I was here for help before it's too late.
    I am very lucky that I have a wonderful partner that he very supportive and this forum are beyond amazing help for me.
    Ervgorh don't be too hard to yourself, take one day at the time, money you always can earn back from work, learn to let go with the pass , concentrate with the future instead it will be hard start but if you stick with it you will find a new normal life stress free.
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    Damaged_Armour
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    Re: lost over > 300k, need some serious advice

    Fri Jun 11, 2021 3:52 pm

    ervgorh wrote:
    Thu Jun 10, 2021 4:40 pm
    Hello
    I am in my early 30s, not married yet.
    I don't know where to begin but
    Winning grand jackpot on pokies two years ago was probably the worst thing happened to me in my life. I kept going back thinking I maybe able to win again.
    initially, I probably lost 20~30k and because I make > 300k a year, I wasn't too worried about it.
    during lockdown, casinos/pubs closed so I had savings in excess of > 200k but after lockdown ended, I started going to casino again
    and just over last 12 months, I lost about ~300k . When I go to casino, I often do $25/50 bet and 10~20k disappear in an hour or so , sometimes in 30 minutes.
    I've had some huge wins too so I probably spent way more than million dollars on pokies but just doing quick bank statement check tells me pure loss is just above 300k, which is a lot of money.
    one day, guy sitting next to me was doing $125 bet, and not kidding, he lost 30k in 10 minutes.
    I have a job with salary >300k, so I believe I am reasonably intelligent and rational, but somehow just can't quit pokies.
    I am willing to see counsellor or whatever it takes to stop gambling.
    any ideas please?
    Being a gambler is like having an evil twin that uses your identity to get your money and gamble it away. So we need to stop this evil twin from having his way with our money.
    The number 1 tool gamblers have is self exclusion.
    If you're serious about stopping, it's the first step you should take. It's a process, there's appointments and meetings with councillors, but once it's done you have the option of doing it for 1 or 3 years, I choose 3 years. I've done it at least 3 times of my qaurter Century gambling career.
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    There's No such thing as "Just Once"

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    Kevcollingwood
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    Re: lost over > 300k, need some serious advice

    Fri Jun 11, 2021 7:57 pm

    @ervgorh welcome, some good advice from @TheTiges , @Anita44 , and @Damaged_Armour , you will here one day at a time a lot here, this can be broken down further to one hour at a time, you will be overwhelmed at times, this is when you focus on one hour at a time.

    Exclusion worked well for a while, then I found myself driving to other towns, councillors help, then I challenged myself to the 100 day challenge, that’s when I got results, over 100 days, had a slip, then i got back on the bus, 162 days today.

    Reviewed my first stint, got too cocky, thinking I could walk around venues watching, listening to races etc, learned from that.

    I was told a lot of years ago, one day I would regret my gambling, the money and time wasted, I was young, thought the good money (worked bloody hard to earn it) would never end, how wrong I was.

    As you age, it does your head in looking back, I have learned, I cannot control the past, only the future, and my future is building on my 162 days.

    @ervgorh learn from my mistakes, break the habit now while you have youth on your side, the odds are not in our favour.

    Grab yourself a calendar and mark each day off, be proud, all the best.
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    ryan1019
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    Re: lost over > 300k, need some serious advice

    Sat Jun 12, 2021 8:07 pm

    Yep more wins more keen to win more the evil twin mentioned above. A bug bear of mine is employers always ask if you have a car for a role current one no need, if a job seeker without work e.g people i know why say you must have a car most need to sell up or cant afford one. Being in the city public transport 1000s take anyway and better for the environment you can say anyway the jist is recruitment agents continually persist with the transport question i myself no need for ine and still struggle to get by. Had a few bets but decided to delete some apps this weekend want the rest of this long weekend gambling free.
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    Lovely Cat Lady
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    Re: lost over > 300k, need some serious advice

    Sun Jun 13, 2021 1:47 pm

    Hi @ervgorh,

    Welcome to the forums!

    I see you've already been given some great advice: 1) self-exclusion, 2) software that blocks gambling apps on your phone such as Gamban, 3) trying out the 100 Day Challenge, 4) going through the Success Stories on the forums, 5) having at hands the phone number to speak to one of the counsellors 1800 858 858, 6) using the [urlhttps://www.gamblinghelponline.org.au/take-a-st ... ounselling]web chat[/url]...

    I addition, I'd suggest taking the self-help modules and going through the Understanding gambling, Making a change and Take a step forward sections.

    And as some already said, take it day by day (or even hour by hour) and be kind to yourself, which is easier said than done but do remember sometimes we are our own worst judges...

    How have you been going this long weekend?
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