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  • New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    For people making and maintaining change in their gambling. Connect, ask questions, offer advice, and share your story in here. If you are new to the site drop in and say hello!
    Printemps
    Moderator
    Posts: 340
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 8:12 am

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sat May 22, 2021 6:35 pm

    Welcome to our new member @Salomejane ! these forums are a space to share your journey through gambling addiction and recovery, to share any tips that of worked for you and to give and get support from other members. When you feel ready, we'd love to hear your story!
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    Anita44
    Senior Member
    Posts: 362
    Joined: Sat May 08, 2021 9:30 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sat May 22, 2021 8:17 pm

    Hi AddictedIdiot I know how you feel, I loose alots for the last 2 yrs , I don't gamble with share market but I play pokies the end of the day both still gamble, I hope you have a supported family n friend. The last day I loose on pokies until I'm too scare to go home, cos I was thinking what my partner gonna say to it, will he support me or he angry with me, I would not know what to expected from him, I missed 10 call from him that night, as I got home he come down say to me where the hell I been, cos he been looking for me, I telling him I been at pokies for a whole day , when I loose I keep playing try with win my money back, but as I win mostly back already I tell myself I try to win a bit more, guess what I loose it all back plus extra, I telling myself I'm so so stupid person ever, than I tell my partner I will reach out for help at the same day that evening, he even make dinner cos I have not eat all day. I'm very lucky that I have amazing partner, he said to me as long as I try my harder to stop he will by my side.
    We all make mistakes in life, just some mistakes are worst than other, please be kind and be nice and forgive yourself, money we always can earn it back just take time.
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    yep123
    Member
    Posts: 36
    Joined: Thu Aug 06, 2020 4:43 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sun May 23, 2021 10:24 am

    HI @AddictedIdiot @TheTiges

    It is extremely hard journey, but with reading all the success stories, i believe it can be done. But you have to put in the work, and want to change for your family and yourself.

    I was the same as @Anita44 , i would use a lot of money, then win more then it will all go plus more. I would use all my money right down to the last $10. After working so so so so hard every day 16 hour days. It's like nothing is good enough, no money is good enough. I am on day 8 after a relapse, i am wanting to change even more now, as i cannot go through this pain again. I still have bad days where i think very negative and how stupid i am, but with all the support on here and seeing a counsellor i am able to get through those bad days, and even have some happy moments. i have put a lot of things in place, so i cannot gamble again. i don't have access to cash and i have purchases Gamban so i cannot get on any gambling websites. It's not easy at all, but if you really want to change, it will happen and i believe it will get easier and make me resilient for other storms in my life.

    @AddictedIdiot you can do it! you have made a mistake but it can be cured and life can go on.
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    Lovely Cat Lady
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    Posts: 526
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:30 am

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sun May 23, 2021 11:28 am

    Welcome to our newest members @Gina1981, @Tkl, @Stormyweather and @Lou21!

    The forums are a safe space for you to share your experiences, get support from the community and find some useful information. Whatever your goals, we're here to support you. I highly recommend having a look at the Success Stories and the 100 Day Challenge.

    Please feel free to post an intro about yourselves, let us know what has brought you to the forums and what are you hoping to find on here.

    Looking forward to seeing you around.
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    Lovely Cat Lady
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    Posts: 526
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:30 am

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Mon May 24, 2021 8:32 am

    Welcome to our newest members @PaulaB98, @Ce1234, @Smiley_123, @Biglooser123 and @mf1988!

    The forums are a safe space for you to share your experiences, get support from the community and find some useful information.

    Please feel free to post an intro about yourselves.

    Looking forward to seeing you around in the forums.
    :);
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    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1950
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Tue May 25, 2021 8:02 am

    Welcome to the new members.
    There is always hope,no matter how despondent you may be feeling,because you can turn your life around.
    It can be a hard slog,but easier than the pain gambling causes.
    Ask for help,don't give up,
    You can be in control when you change how you think
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    Lovely Cat Lady
    Moderator
    Posts: 526
    Joined: Mon May 03, 2021 9:30 am

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Wed May 26, 2021 9:19 am

    Welcome to our newest members @tj21, @shankpup and @Whatever7!

    The forums are a safe space for you to share and connect with other people that have gone through similar experiences.

    What has brought you to the forums? Are there any goals you would like to achieve?

    Please reach out at anytime if you have any questions. :);
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    Max Powers
    Junior Member
    Posts: 5
    Joined: Sun Dec 10, 2017 6:51 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Thu May 27, 2021 9:36 pm

    Hi. I’m 41 and have basically been addicted to pokies since I was 17. Over the last few years it seems to have escalated and now find myself withdrawing from friends and family and have developed a very negative attitude towards everything. I’m in debt, barely own anything and only just manage to scrape by each week even though I earn ok money. The biggest problem I’m having at the moment is I can’t get motivated to set any goals and don’t have anything to look forward to except playing the pokies.
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    Art_Vandelay
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Fri May 28, 2021 10:29 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Fri May 28, 2021 10:38 pm

    Hi there. I’ma long time gambler who has had enough. I went about 6 years once but after a family breakdown I got back in the game. Then again I went a year or so but found myself back betting on the apps. Now I’m actually making real money and it’s dangerous. It used to be $5 here, sometimes maybe $50 bets but now I deposit $500 at a time!! I’ve self-excluded myself from most of the apps but there are always new ones and it’s easy as Pi to just waltz into a TAB and bet cash. Anyway I’m back here again at day zero and this time it’s for real. The odds are always against you, once you realise that you shouldn’t place another bet. Single bets, multis, dogs, horses, casino, doesn’t matter! The odds are swayed to favour the house. It’s time I spent more time with my kids and less checking scores on my phone and secretly betting when I’m alone. There’s more to life than this. I can do this ☺️
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    Printemps
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    Posts: 340
    Joined: Tue May 04, 2021 8:12 am

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sat May 29, 2021 11:06 am

    hi @Art_Vandelay , Welcome to the forum. I want to start off by saying reaching out here is a great first step. It can be really hard to share your story, so good on you! It sounds like you've had a really difficult time, and I'm sorry to hear about your family break down. These really stressful events can be a massive trigger for people. Self-exclusion from apps is a really good starting off point, you can also self-exclude from venues. I'd recommend you give Gamblers Helpline a call on 1800 858 858. They offer 24/7 counselling and can also direct you on to the relevant exclusion sites for you state or territory.

    If you're interested, you can try put the 100 Day Challenge. We have a thread for them here . A lot of people find it a useful way to track how they're going and to also help keep themselves accountable. Let us know how you're tracking this weekend, and just remember, one day at a time :o
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