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    Husband spent family deposit on pokies

    Fri Oct 18, 2019 10:02 pm

    Hi everyone!
    I'm very new to this whole thing but I feel like my entire world is shattering.
    Recently, I've been noticing some weird changes in my husband's behavior. He has been spending a lot of time on his phone which started bothering me. At first, I did not think much of it but then he got very secretive. He password-protected all his devices which led me into thinking he might be having an affair. One time, I saw him using pokies24 but as soon as I innocently asked him what it is he got very angry and defensive. I managed to crack his password one time and went through his phone. As it turns out, he's been playing pokies for at least months now, and instead of spending his salary on this, he pretty much emptied our family deposit.
    I haven't confronted him yet, and I don't know how to approach this issue. Should I just pack my stuff and leave? Should I ask him to return the money first?
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    dragon007 (facilitator)
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    Re: Husband spent family deposit on pokies

    Sat Oct 19, 2019 3:06 pm

    hi @kennafinnighan

    I'm dragon007, one of the moderators here.

    Welcome to the forum.

    I'm sorry to read that you are currently in a difficult situation. I encourage you to read other stories that are similar to your circumstances and use the @mention function to send a message directly to other members you want to communicate with.

    Please continue to share your story, I wish you all the best.

    Take Care.

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    Re: Husband spent family deposit on pokies

    Mon Oct 21, 2019 3:01 pm

    Hi @kennafinnighan ,

    It would have been very difficult for you finding that your husband has spent the family deposit gambling and you are within your right to feel angry with him and consider leaving him. You also mentioned that he has been acting strange and secretive, unfortunately this is the nature of gambling. It can turn a completely normal individual in a lying, sneaky, angry and deceitful person. Gambling does this to people and gambling does NOT care who else gets hurt. You're husband sounds like he is addicted and would benefit from some form of professional intervention such as counselling services. You are also able to access these services too and may be beneficial in providing you with some strategies to help your husband and your relationship. Online gambling could be considered worst than venue based gambling because they can do it anywhere, anytime. Perhaps talk to your husband about barring from online gambling sites, installing an app that restricts content such as gambling. I think the best advice though is communicate with each other, you will both need to work together to beat this terrible addiction. Your husband probably thinks he is only losing money however he is and stands to lose so much more such as his family, home, time with his family to name a few. He is also at risk of developing physical and mental health problems as a result of his gambling. All you can do is try to get your husband to open up to you and agree to attend or seek some professional help which you can both access and make it clear what he stands to REALLY lose if he does not want to get help.

    I really hope that things work out for you and your husband.
    "Imagine a gambling free world"...................
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