Welcome to our online peer support community - A supportive place for anyone making change in their gambling, as well as concerned friends and family.
  • Connect, be inspired, motivate others. Share your experience & strategies.
  • Safe. Anonymous. Professionally moderated. Free of judgement.

    Before you can post or reply, join our online community today.
    Join us Tuesdays from 6pm for Chatty Tuesday.
  • Gambling Makes Us Blind

    For people making and maintaining change in their gambling. Connect, ask questions, offer advice, and share your story in here. If you are new to the site drop in and say hello!
    Andrew88
    Junior Member
    Posts: 5
    Joined: Mon Mar 27, 2017 12:31 pm

    Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Tue Mar 28, 2017 1:26 pm

    Hi All

    My name is Andrew and as of yesterday I have recently signed up for the 100 day challenge.
    I am currently 29 and have been gambling ever since I was 18.

    As I hopped onto this site this morning I thought it would be a good idea to have a read of other peoples stories on this forum.
    Much to my surprise I suddenly felt sick for myself. It was like someone just slapped me across the face and said wake up you loser.
    My reasons for feeling sick are simple. We are all pulled in with colours and sounds, all these things do is send us the wrong message.
    We receive messages that make us hand over our money, voices in our heads turn us into zombies. Money is life, it dictates us.

    I currently have a severe gambling problem, this advice may be helpful or it may not.
    We all start out innocent, yes innocent until that first win. All these emotions are inflicted upon us and we receive false hope that maybe we just might be different from the rest, we might just be winners. Soon enough we find out that we are just like every other gambler, a loser.
    Just after that first win we are handed a shovel and made to dig, over time we must keep digging until we are then strong enough to pull ourselves out of the hole.
    Pulling ourselves out is the main part, that is when we wake up and see our problem. But it is only the beginning, admitting that you have a problem is where it all starts. For me personally it is never really about chasing my debt, all I want money for is to bet with. I get paid on a Thursday so I bet on a Thursday. If I lose my paycheque that day well then it's time for me to start looking for small cash loans or borrowing money off mates so that I am set for a Saturday. I have always thought that if I have money then I am happy, if I don't have money then I am angry. But it's quite the opposite, it's if I'm betting then I'm happy, and unhappy if I'm not betting. Money is just the tool we use to try and reach those highs, most probably why I have no respect for money. I mainly bet on horses and dogs online. To me betting online is the worst thing that you can do. The main reason for this is simply because your money is like play money, it's not cash in your hand. As mentioned before, it's all about the bright lights and the crazy sounds. In racing those bright lights are the jockeys colours, the race caller screaming your horse as it gets up on the line. Much like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, we can see the rainbow but we will never find that pot of gold. All we do is create that energy to make the rainbow. We are the players in this game, we make the game what it is. I don't want to play in this game anymore and that is why I am standing up. Gambling is not going to take over my life and I will no longer be blinded and pulled into this game!!

    These are my feelings and I will use them to help me beat my problem and hopefully help you beat yours!!
    3 x
    User avatar
    Noah (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 308
    Joined: Mon Nov 05, 2012 3:53 pm

    Re: Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Tue Mar 28, 2017 2:53 pm

    Hi Andrew,
    I'm Noah one of the facilitators here. Welcome!
    I hope that you will find this a useful and supportive space to be in while trying to reach your goals. Thank you so much for sharing this..so insightful and I'm sure an experience that many can relate to. Keep us posted as to how you are going on the 100 day challenge!
    All the best with it!!
    Noah
    0 x
    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1718
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Tue Mar 28, 2017 9:10 pm

    Hi Andrew and welcome..your story is one of many but the goal is the same..to stop gambling..with enough determination you will be able to beat this habit and I really hope you do..good luck
    0 x
    JAPAZ
    Member
    Posts: 30
    Joined: Sun Mar 24, 2019 9:00 pm

    Re: Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Mon Mar 25, 2019 11:03 am

    Amen amen. Excellent post mate.
    0 x
    clearthatmind
    Member
    Posts: 31
    Joined: Sun Dec 30, 2018 11:26 am

    Re: Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Sat Jun 29, 2019 9:59 am

    Hey Andrew, I hope you're doing well mate. I know it was some time ago when you posted it but I must say, I appreciate your comments
    0 x
    Trust in Jehovah with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding. In all your ways take notice of him, and he will make your paths straight...Proverbs 3:5, 6
    clearthatmind
    Member
    Posts: 31
    Joined: Sun Dec 30, 2018 11:26 am

    Re: Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Sat Jun 29, 2019 10:04 am

    Just thought I would add a bit of humour/irony to the thread. Andrew spoke about the pot at the end of the rainbow, and then the next post was from Noah, Sorry, I just couldn't resist :o
    1 x
    Trust in Jehovah with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding. In all your ways take notice of him, and he will make your paths straight...Proverbs 3:5, 6
    dragon007 (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 182
    Joined: Sun Mar 18, 2018 11:07 am

    Re: Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Sun Jun 30, 2019 10:02 am

    Hi @A@Andrew88

    How are things going?

    Regards
    dragon007
    0 x
    clearthatmind
    Member
    Posts: 31
    Joined: Sun Dec 30, 2018 11:26 am

    Re: Gambling Makes Us Blind

    Tue Jul 02, 2019 4:45 pm

    Hi Andrew, well, I've been gamble free now for 28 days but the last couple has been really trying. The old enemy/friend has really got his claws out at me and temptation has been great and I've been white-knuckling it. How are you going?
    2 x
    Trust in Jehovah with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding. In all your ways take notice of him, and he will make your paths straight...Proverbs 3:5, 6

    Return to “Change Makers”