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    Tom1999
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    Three times a charm?

    Thu Jun 13, 2019 4:54 pm

    Last time at trying to do this. Going to compound this with a 90 day weight loss challenge as well starting tomorrow, hopefully I can complete both!

    Gambling is a bit of fun, but now I am in a headspace where I think I can beat the machines. I am not that stupid, but with this addictive mindset, I am a different person. In the past 1-2 months, I have lost over $4000 on gambling, specifically blackjack, and not table blackjack...the computerised version in the casino. Stupid, I know. There is more to it but basically this is what happens; I lose the lot, curse myself and say I will never gamble again. Next few days, take out $100 or so, head to the casino. When I win, I win big, so let’s say I have turned this $100 into 1K plus, awesome, on top of the world! Only do I have joy for a few days before I lose it all as quick as I gained it. This cycle repeats, all the time and it is becoming pathetic. The problem is I am all or nothing and I need someone to keep me on track, hence why coming to this community. I will start with small goals, one week without gambling. I have not done this since I was turned 18, so if I manage to do this, we can tick it off as a small achievement. The aim is to be gamble free but if I can get a week first, that is the longest I have withstood from making a bet/risking my money.

    Here’s to hoping, I need to make myself accountable!

    I am also 19 as well, so this isn’t an out of control addiction, but I would like to stop it ASAP.
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    Tom1999
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Thu Jun 13, 2019 11:44 pm

    Please give me some help and some motivation. I would love to nip this in the bud, just need someone to keep me honest and I feel daily journals on this page will do so!
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    Tom1999
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Fri Jun 14, 2019 9:17 am

    Woke up this morning tired and still disappointed with myself, but now am at work and feeling rather energised!

    I am ready for this to begin and Day One ends today! I am hoping to at minimum put a post up per day and am hoping that this interaction spurs me on. Gambling has also led my to copious weight gain, and hopefully by nipping this gambling in the bud, my health and overall lifestyle can improve as well! I seem to notice I had great dress sense, but ever since I had begun gambling, sports or at casinos, the attire I have become used to has been tracksuits/jumpers, very casual attire. I want to at the end of these 90 days feel a new me, and one of my first goals is to be able to go and purchase some new clothing/shoes for myself and get to show them off in public! Gambling has led me to become very introverted and this needs to change. I am only young yet haven't seen my friends since HSC ended due to gambling, weight gain and an overall sense of uneasiness being out in public by myself or others.

    Normally by now I would be at work looking at the form guide for today's racing or 'practicing' online blackjack but so far, so good! Update to come this afternoon and my first small goal is to; not attend the local pub at lunch time, something I have done every day at work around lunch time for the past 3 months. Stay tuned for an update this afternoon!
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    Mona58
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Fri Jun 14, 2019 9:40 am

    Hi Tom,

    Welcome to the forum.

    You have a wise head on those shoulders of yours! 19 years old' admitting and accepting that you have a problem gambling and are taking steps to improve your health and wellbeing is admirable.

    Most gamblers, no matter the age, can relate to vicious gambling cycle of all or nothing.

    There is a program called "Ka' Ching poKie nation" worth watching to get a gist of how manipulative and controlling these machines' and gambling in general work to entice us and ruin all our rational and lateral thoughts!

    There was a question on a game show quiz which asked which country had the highest rate of gambling, The choice was China, Singapore or Australia. ?? The answer was Australia! It is really sad!

    Keep posting and sharing your journey ... we are all here in the background supporting you. The forums get very quiet much of the time ... but know that we're here. Read some of the older posts dating back 2013... and you'll find interesting things / wisdom to add to yours.

    Small goaIs are good... one day at a time.

    Being into health wellbeing... I guess... one of the things you could do is learn cooking ... new recipes. What js on my mind is that the Opportunity shops have an abundance of cookbooks ... most only $1 : you could cut out and make your own cook book... It will give you things to do fill in time and "no screen time" sort of activity and "relaxing" somewhat.

    All the best of your journey!

    Mona (20 months G.F tomorrow!)
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    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.~Confucius
    Tom1999
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Fri Jun 14, 2019 2:22 pm

    Thankyou Mona! For the first time in 4 months I didn't go to the local TAB for lunch time! Instead, I stepped out of the office, went for a walk and bought myself a Subway. Was nice to get some fresh air and not use up my lunch break sweating in the confinements of the club for once, nice change. Already feeling positive about this, hoping this is just the beginning! Will provide an update this evening, another time that I struggle is after work so let's see if I can get home without stopping off to bet/gamble, fingers crossed
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    Tom1999
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Fri Jun 14, 2019 2:22 pm

    Congrats on being one day from 20 months GF as well, that is awesome!
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    Tom1999
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Sat Jun 15, 2019 10:42 am

    Well, day 2 has begun of attempting to be GF! Yesterday was a success, for the first time in months I skipped the usual lunch break at the TAB, and rather, had a nice lunch, went for a walk and came back to the office in positive spirits!

    Today being Saturday, this is probably the worst day for me, in the sense all the big racing meets are on today and I have had a piece of the action pretty much EVERY single Saturday for the past year. So far so good, I haven’t studied any form, nor have I gone on any betting apps. I also haven’t conducted my usual trip to the Bank and withdraw money to head down to the local, so another positive! I think for me, I get bored quick, so prolonged periods by myself or in isolation, I resort to things that give me a rush; Gambling.

    I will check back in tonight and hoping that I can go 2 days GF and if I do not bet today, on racing Day, that will be a massive achievement!
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    dragon007 (facilitator)
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Sun Jun 16, 2019 12:18 pm

    hi @Tom @Tom1999

    Well done on Day 1.

    All the cliches are right, one day at a time.

    All the best.

    dragon007
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    Tom1999
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Sun Jun 16, 2019 1:37 pm

    dragon007 (facilitator) wrote:
    Sun Jun 16, 2019 12:18 pm
    hi @Tom @Tom1999

    Well done on Day 1.

    All the cliches are right, one day at a time.

    All the best.

    dragon007
    Thankyou ‘dragon007’! At the conclusion of today, it will mark my 3rd day GF! This for many may seem not long at all, but for me, this is a mini milestone and something I have not done for months! I was extremely proud of not betting yesterday, everyone seems to be on the races on Saturday and for me, this weekly routine had become second nature! Fortunately I occupied myself with other things to do and the day went by so quick, I didn’t even think about gambling! Today has been back and forth, I have thought about gambling and I was considering going to place a small bet at the local, but had to stop, remind myself of my goals and why I want to do this and that urge went away. Here is to another day GF and hopefully more to come, update will follow again tomorrow
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    dragon007 (facilitator)
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    Re: Three times a charm?

    Sun Jun 16, 2019 2:05 pm

    @Tom1999

    Well done!

    Distraction really helps, as soon as you get a thought about gambling, try to do something else, don't give the thought any power.

    You could try using your senses by themselves or in combination, it is hard to maintain the thought about gambling if you are using your senses.

    For example:
    [*]listen to music
    [*]watch your favourite movie, sport, etc
    [*]go for a walk, exercise, sport
    [*]have some of your favourite food
    [*]have a shower
    [*]do your favourite activity
    [*]laugh at your favourite comedian - I suggest Jimmy Carr

    Create your own First Aid Kit to distract yourself.

    All the best for day 3.

    dragon007
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