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    DocileDirection
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    Joined: Mon Feb 18, 2019 9:54 pm

    My Gambling Cycle/Mentality

    Tue Feb 19, 2019 12:08 am

    Ill try make this a brief as possible:

    I'm Tom, I'm 23, I've been gambling since i turned 18. In those 5 years id estimate I've only saved 20% of my income, the vast majority of the remaining 80% all lost to gambling. I've had a lot of addictions and phases in my life being an ADD kid. I've recently tackled my 5 year (daily) addiction to marijuana. However I can't seem to stop gambling. I feel I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready (and taking action) to start making smarter choices and commit to some lifestyle & career changes.

    The main reason for my post is to describe my obsessive mentality towards gambling, which for 5 years has been the primary self destructive habit in my life. I hope some can relate & hopefully offer advice based on some logic which which caused a shift in them to keep resisting the urges.

    So i started off with pokies after 2-3 years i figured out i couldn't win on those. Then i was introduced to the greyhounds i played around at first, but now for the last 1-2 years I've bet, watched & followed them daily. I was amazed at how much easier it was to WIN compared to the pokies. I'd say my winning success rate honestly would be about 70% at the moment, pretty good right? .... Wrong!

    Here's the problem. I've become mostly an all or nothing gambler since i locked my savings away, so i didn't do anything I'd majorly regret, that was 4 months ago. I mainly back favourites around the $1.20-$2.20 price. Most of the time i get a winning streak going, in 4-6 days I've turned my $500 wage into $2000, BUT I'm not satisfied! , ill keep going until i hit a LOSS. If the loss isn't all the money i have its usually a big portion of it and i chase that loss by betting the remainder of my money on something else, usually it's an 'impulse bet' something i wasn't too confident on, but did it anyway. Then that loses & CRASH back to $0.00.

    Once I can't gamble ill think about where i went wrong & how i can avoid making the same mistake again, ill still follow the races and pick multiple winners in the following days and beat myself up for not being patient and disciplined enough to wait to bet on them. Then the cycle repeats.

    I haven't saved a cent in 4 months

    I spend too much time doing this sh*t

    Whats the final straw for people who quit?

    I tried to stop twice recently but haven't lasted more than 8 days.
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    FamilyFirst
    Senior Member
    Posts: 187
    Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 6:38 pm

    Re: My Gambling Cycle/Mentality

    Tue Feb 19, 2019 9:11 pm

    Hi Tom,
    Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing your story. I can definitely relate to a lot of it.

    Unfortunately I could not stop my gambling for 17 years, until I was 35 years old and faced with potentially losing my partner of 6 years and my two young sons. That was my rock bottom, its so sad that it took this to make me realise that there was no future for me if i continued to gamble.

    My family is (more than ever) my life and they are my driving force and biggest weapon in my fight to be gamble free.

    You are young and have your whole life in front of you. Well done for beginning to take the steps to remove destructive gambling from your life. Take any steps necessary to tie your money up in term deposits or other smaller investments, delete and bar all betting accounts and stay away from the TAB, unibet and the like, if your truly serious.

    I've found though personal experience that if you are a compulsive gambler there is no other safe limit to gamble then $0.

    One day at a time, and you'll be right.

    Cheers, Lee
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    Calvin (facilitator)
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    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 4:01 pm

    Re: My Gambling Cycle/Mentality

    Wed Feb 20, 2019 12:23 pm

    Hi @TMarsh ,
    I'm Calvin, one of the facilitators.

    Sounds like you're stuck in that all too common toxic cycle of gambling.

    Its great to hear that you have acknolwedged this cycle and also how gambling has impacted on your life so far.
    These lots of help out there, through counselling, self-exclusion and also the support from this forum.
    Keep in mind of your trigger times and urges and how you can better manage them.


    Thanks for your insight @FamilyFirst ! Much appreciated.


    Kind regards,

    Calvin
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    DocileDirection
    Junior Member
    Posts: 4
    Joined: Mon Feb 18, 2019 9:54 pm

    Re: My Gambling Cycle/Mentality

    Thu Feb 21, 2019 2:41 am

    Thanks for the responses. Much appreciated.

    Last leg of my multi tonight was a tennis favourite to win just a set, paying bugger all and he lost both sets.

    Im seriously done this time.

    Gamble free life starts now.

    will update progress in coming weeks.

    Wishing All the best eveyone. 🙏
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Joined: Mon May 14, 2018 11:40 am

    Re: My Gambling Cycle/Mentality

    Thu Feb 21, 2019 8:23 am

    All the best @TMarsh, we are all here cheering for you!
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    AnonymousGA1
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    Joined: Tue Feb 05, 2019 10:46 pm

    Re: My Gambling Cycle/Mentality

    Thu Feb 21, 2019 10:58 am

    Hey @TMarsh

    I can relate, I specialised in sports betting (particularly tennis) and had roughly a 70-80% win rate which was the most dangerous part of it, my addiction started to become seriously dangerous when I started getting paid a generous amount for my work each week, and had access to the funds to be able to gamble on a larger scale, what's helped me is simulating, so I look at a game or a race i'd normally bet on and see who wins/loses and what i've found especially recently, is that the person i've picked to win the match has gone on to lose, and it just show's you how flimsy betting is, whereby a player or greyhound would normally win 9/10 times although it always seems as though that 1 loss out of 10 races is the one you manage to put money on which sucks, but it's the sad and harsh reality of betting, you never come out on top!

    Goodluck, and i'm looking forward to hearing your progress!
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    FamilyFirst
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    Posts: 187
    Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 6:38 pm

    Re: My Gambling Cycle/Mentality

    Thu Feb 21, 2019 9:53 pm

    Hi Tom,

    Good to hear your ready to call it quits :cool: Give yourself the gift of 24 hours gamble free and re-think it again tomorrow. Your much better off not gambling.
    You've got to tell yourself over and over why you want to quit e.g debt, family, self improvement. If you catch yourself thinking of gambling say aloud "NO NOT TODAY", it may sound stupid but it really is a battle in the mind and I think by asserting yourself to yourself (lol) it helps bring a small victory each urge.
    In the early days of my recovery I used to laugh and say those things to myself when I drove past my local venue on my way home (with my whole paycheck still...)

    Its harder with all the online gambling going on these day. I actually won over 10k at an online casino only to be told I hadn't followed the proper start up procedure and was " betting too high" before my start up period had finished... :mad: Despicable.....

    Anyways, I hope you can find strength and steer clear of a gambling life.

    Cheers, Lee
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