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    Sharkies2112
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:22 pm

    25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:55 pm

    I've basically been living in denial for the past 7 years. Started off small bets with mates but over time the bets have began to grow.I have literally self excluded myself from every available betting agency but somehow when I get an urge I find a way to gamble.
    Reality hit me like a ton of bricks when on the weekend I spent all my personal money and then dipped into my joint account i have with my partner. $300 bet, followed by a $500 bet, followed by a $1200 bet, followed by a $3000 bet. A total of 5k lost all in the space of a few hours.....
    Something in my brain tells me I need to chase the money I previously lost. I knew my partner would be so angry when she eventually checked the account but for some reason at the time that didn't even worry me.
    When the $3000 bet lost I literally had no more money I could access at the time, the feeling I felt at that time cannot be described. I basically just wanted to run away and hide from it all. I knew I couldn't explain it to her without her wanting to kill me.
    For years I've had a gambling addiction and I've basically ignored it because at the end of the day I was just wasting my own money.
    I think back to a few years ago when I placed a 10k bet on the AFL which lost. That was literally all my savings at the time and I was shattered but the feeling doesn't even come close to losing 5k from a joint account.
    My relationship with my partner has only begun to get serious as we created this joint account about 2 weeks ago. I dont know if she will ever trust me again, nor do I think I deserve it.
    Been with her for 5 years and somehow I've been able to hide the fact that gambling is a problem for me. She knows I love to have a gamble but she just assumes the amount im gambling is $20 bets when its sometimes 100x that.

    Sorry if this story just seems like a complete dribble. For some reason I just wanted to put it into words and possibly in the future reflect on this and hopefully smile at how far I've come.

    I havent had a gamble for 4 days now which might not seem like much but before then I cant really remember the last day I didnt put a bet on.
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    Cazza
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    Joined: Sat Apr 07, 2018 7:23 am

    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Thu Jul 19, 2018 6:34 pm

    Oh sharkie i really feel for you. Nothing else matter when we are in our gambling zone. In that moment chasing the loss is all that matters. The crash happens only when all the money is gone.
    The dawning horror when we realize is like nothing else.
    As hard as it may be i suggest that you talk to your partner. She is going to find out as you said anyway so it may be better that you tell her.
    Ring the helpline and maybe organize some counseling or if there are any GA meetings in your area.
    This is the hard part as a gambler, when we know that we have hurt the ones we love, you can move foward from here.
    Read some of the forums on here you will see that this is possible. Much strength to you on the start of your journey 😊
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    Suzy2
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    Joined: Sun Nov 27, 2016 9:57 pm

    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Sun Jul 22, 2018 4:07 pm

    Hi Sharkie
    You last posted on Thursday and sound desperate! I feel for you!
    By now your partner has probably found out or maybe you found the strength to tell her.
    Gambling is an all consuming vile addiction and it seems most of us have to hit rock bottom before we seek change.
    For me I know I must get to the point where I want the rewards of being gamble free (and they are many!) more than I want to play pokies!
    Those ghastly machines have near ruined my life over 17 years! I lost my home and my self worth with it!!
    Today is Day 2 and I'm amazed at how quickly I start to 'feel' again. Not just be in a zombie state!! Ive abstained for 3 months before and I will do it again. I hope when that happens I firmly believe that one push will start the horror again!!! There is no quality of life if we gamble!!
    Stay strong!!
    We can do this!!

    Suzy2
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    Sharkies2112
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:22 pm

    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Sat Jul 28, 2018 1:33 am

    Hi,
    Thanks for the replies.
    My partner found out the next day. I had to tell her, she would see it eventually so I just had to bite the bullet.
    Alot of arguments and heart to heart conversations followed but we are still strong. Promised I would change my ways and I'm sticking to that for good.
    Havent had a bet at all since that day and can honestly say I dont miss it.
    For me I just have to remember that I'll never win long term.
    Not gambling has so many benefits but the main one for me is not losing sleep. I would always stay up late watching games I dont care about or even set my alarm for 2am to check scores etc.
    No more hiding things from my partner and friends. No more lies.
    Everybody stay strong because we all know we can do it. I honestly feel like we are all in this together.
    Cheers
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    Calvin (facilitator)
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    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Wed Aug 08, 2018 2:26 pm

    Hi Sharkies2112,

    Sounds like you have really become aware of the disservice that gambling does for you.

    Its good to hear that you have changed your views and have also noticed positive benefits from stopping gambling.

    I have noticed you posted a while back.

    How are things going for you at this present time ?

    Regards,

    Calvin
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    Sharkies2112
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:22 pm

    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Thu Aug 09, 2018 8:17 am

    Hi Calvin. Still sticking strong and havent gambled in almost a month which is to me is pretty unbelievable considering the frequency I used to gamble.
    The main reason I logged on today was because at work just now I have a few hours of downtime and the thought of logging onto sportsbet and gambling did cross my mind.
    The hardest part is sticking to the original goal. I know one gamble could suck me right back into the hole.
    I just wish i could gamble just a little bit and not be addicted to it because I really did enjoy it. But I guess that's the problem...
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    Wenna (facilitator)
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    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Thu Aug 09, 2018 2:48 pm

    Hi Sharkies2112,

    You are showing good personal incite and well done for keeping on track :)
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    AZ23
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Sat Aug 11, 2018 11:04 pm

    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Sun Aug 12, 2018 12:06 am

    Posting here is small step to giving up this evil beast called pokies. Your bet amount shows that you are an extremely high risk/reward punter, and this is very very dangerous and MUST reign it in now. I was in a similar position myself a few years ago when for the first time in my life I decided to go to the casino to watch a movie, but I made a detour and stepped into a world like no else. I withdrew $150 which is peanuts but then I thought it was a lot of money to gamble with. I played 5 Dragons at $3 a spin and walked out with $2200 - bang I'm hooked. For the next 6 months I would go back 5 days a week. I was up 8k after 3 weeks, and then a fellow gambler suggested I join the signature club. Worst thing I ever did in hindsight. In less than a month I accumulated 265 member credits which equates to turning over just under 120k.

    The biggest issue is that I began to not value money and that it's only for gambling more. I continued to gamble by getting credit, then pawning valuables, then borrowing from family. Since that fateful day in 2014 I have lost close to 250k and I earn just under 100k a year and I have little money in the bank.

    Don't ever get to this point because you will never forgive yourself, and the fact you have a relationship you must make a decision- spend the rest of your life with the girl you love or spend a life of misery chasing something that will never make you happy.
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    Sharkies2112
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:22 pm

    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Sun Aug 12, 2018 11:42 pm

    Wow AZ23.

    Your story is a very moving one and one that I feel like I can easily relate too.
    I think all gambling addicts have been down the road of doing anything they can to get their hands on more money for gambling. Its crazy how much of a hold it can have on your life.
    In 2 days time I will have made the 1 month gamble free and I can honestly say I'm proud of myself. I try not to think about the amount of money I would of lost over the years due to gambling. It's done, its happened, I can only control what happens from here.
    I hope you use your story as motivation for yourself to change your ways. If anything your story has definitely motivated me to stay on track.

    Cheers
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    Abdyent241312
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    Joined: Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:13 pm

    Re: 25 Years old and have a horrible gambling problem

    Fri Jun 04, 2021 8:14 pm

    Never be afraid to share your problem to someone who is close to you, if you have an addiction I would suggest to talk to a therapist or a good friend.
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