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    emma
    Junior Member
    Posts: 7
    Joined: Thu Mar 31, 2016 11:56 pm

    Re: My gambling story

    Thu May 12, 2016 12:39 am

    Hi Andy

    I'm a wife of a gambler and just want to say - I hate those ads on tv too! Its so awkward to be next to hubby on couch when they come on. Total silence on our parts. I wonder whats going on in his head, I wonder if he's thinking what i'm thinking when they come on etc... We're still very new in tackling this thing.. and he's still got a away to go in realizing he's got a problem. betfair - what a crap name,

    When they come on there is this super ***** in my head wanting to ask him - what bets he's currently got on, how much for etc... but i'm not sure if that's rubbing salt in the wound. Especially in case its during a game he's watching and not going his way... I just dont say anything at all - the ads just make me sad really as they are a reminder of the predicament we're in.

    Good luck!
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    Andy
    Junior Member
    Posts: 17
    Joined: Tue Mar 31, 2015 12:13 am

    Re: My gambling story

    Mon May 16, 2016 12:04 am

    Jo-Anne wrote:Hi Andy Welcome back to the forum. Sorry you have had such a difficult time. it is fantastic that you have come back and have got to day 24. Brilliant. I have found during the past 99 days (100 days finished tomorrow) that working on triggers is the most important. If I was at risk of relapsing I would come on the forum straight away and post honestly. The support and encouragement received is fantastic, and also just having to think about writing it all down reduces the urges. I agree with you about the ads.....I love the ABC, but on the odd occasion I am watching commercial TV, I get really angry about allowing these ads on TV. They should be banned like smoking ads. I wish you well Andy and look forward to supporting you through the challenge and beyond....Yes it is a cruel addiction, please do not apologise to us.......we have all been there and understand completely :)
    congratulations for reaching 100 days, a very good achievement. Do you still have gambling in the back of your mind? Oh i completely agree, the advertisements need to be banned. Its an addiction like smoking, however gambling seems to have massive flow down effect much worse then smoking in my opinion. The impacts are far larger then the individual.
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    Andy
    Junior Member
    Posts: 17
    Joined: Tue Mar 31, 2015 12:13 am

    Re: My gambling story

    Mon May 16, 2016 12:08 am

    emma wrote:Hi Andy

    I'm a wife of a gambler and just want to say - I hate those ads on tv too! Its so awkward to be next to hubby on couch when they come on. Total silence on our parts. I wonder whats going on in his head, I wonder if he's thinking what i'm thinking when they come on etc... We're still very new in tackling this thing.. and he's still got a away to go in realizing he's got a problem. betfair - what a crap name,

    When they come on there is this super ***** in my head wanting to ask him - what bets he's currently got on, how much for etc... but i'm not sure if that's rubbing salt in the wound. Especially in case its during a game he's watching and not going his way... I just dont say anything at all - the ads just make me sad really as they are a reminder of the predicament we're in.

    Good luck!
    Hmmm i always wondered if my partner was secretly thinking about it when i was watching sport. She to never asked questions, she does see me swear when those betting agencies come on between ad breaks. Its out of control Ubet have one and also TAB, its so depressing :(
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    Mark
    Junior Member
    Posts: 9
    Joined: Thu Aug 06, 2015 8:26 am

    Re: My gambling story

    Tue May 17, 2016 10:14 am

    I feel the same as you Andy,

    I always find myself checking scores, wondering if I should have placed a bet.

    Sport has become less enjoyable to watch without a bet on, and the advertisements do not help at all, I personally love having a punt on the weekends, however I am not sure if it's possible to only bet so often, I find myself betting everyday if I put money in my betting account.

    The biggest issue for me originally was pokies, however I no longer get such a desire to head to the pokies as often as I used to, I find sports betting far more enjoyable these days... guess I'm just moving from 1 problem to the next hey.

    And I agree, even doing footy tips, it calculates the odds of each game, shows how much the multi would be, it's almost everywhere we look.

    Good job on your efforts, I don't think I've gone over 2 weeks without gambling since I turned 18, one day I hope.

    Best of luck!
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    Andy
    Junior Member
    Posts: 17
    Joined: Tue Mar 31, 2015 12:13 am

    Re: My gambling story

    Thu May 26, 2016 10:06 am

    G'day Mark,

    Yep checking scores is definitely the biggest trigger for me. I have never been into the pokies but always gambled on sports, just knowing the french open is on and the NHL playoffs are being played makes me think about having a punt.

    Exactly spot on with not enjoying the sports anymore due to the element of gambling, in recent weeks I've been able to enjoy a couple of AFL tight games appreciating the game for itself rather then the odds.

    39 days gambling free this time round. My personal best was 46 days but fell back into the expensive habit with receive $100 bonus when you deposit $100.

    Its a good feeling, and its great not to have the anxiety and stress worrying about outcomes of games. Yes there is joy, adrenaline when your winning. Its just at the end of the day i cant control my gambling, so I'm better not doing anything at all.



    Andy
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    Tom
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Thu May 26, 2016 11:10 pm

    Re: My gambling story

    Thu May 26, 2016 11:28 pm

    Hi Andy,

    Congrats on getting over a month in mate. I can't remember the last time I went a month gamble free. I lasted 25 days in my last effort and on day 2 of another attempt at 100 days. Just had my 28th birthday and thought I'd treat myself to a bet. $500 later and another account self - excluded. Could be worse I guess.

    I too hate the adds. I wish they were banned. I am a massive sports fan and love to watch everything but the amount of gambling advertising attached to everything now is ridiculous. I actually feel sick when they come on now.

    I also love the high of having a bet on a game and it does make it more engaging for me. But that's one of the saddest things I think. As a fan, I should love the competition, skill, passion, fitness etc. Gambling has taken some of that excitement away from me and I'm determined to get it back.

    Anyway, all the best mate. Be great to continue to read about how you are getting on.

    Cheers,
    Tom
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    Andy
    Junior Member
    Posts: 19
    Joined: Wed Dec 26, 2012 12:13 pm

    Re: My gambling story

    Sat Nov 19, 2016 7:51 pm

    Short update. I managed to stay gambling free "online" for 6 months with self exclusions. Finances are looking much better and I don't have the anxiety from betting anymore.

    I have visited the casino to play a few table games but with friends and could walk away 👍

    As soon as my self exclusion expired I burned $200 and thought to myself what am I doing, then banned myself for another 6 months.

    I do like a punt and I wish i could do it without going overboard, but I've learnt to know what's best for me and that's not to do it at all.

    Thanks for all the support.
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    victorial
    Member
    Posts: 68
    Joined: Wed Oct 29, 2014 8:55 am

    Re: My gambling story

    Sun Nov 20, 2016 4:48 am

    Wow Andy,what an achievement and an inspiration the day I can say Im six months free, Ill buy a big chocolate cake.Well done young man and well done for having the insight to recognise the problem and admit you had one.I just feel like cheering hooraaaaaaaaaayy!!!!!!!
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    Dave68
    Senior Member
    Posts: 320
    Joined: Sun Jan 26, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: My gambling story

    Sun Nov 20, 2016 12:15 pm

    Hi Andy. Yep, those online match bonuses are really tempting and they kind of make you think...oh well, i can lose my 100 and still be 'even' as such.

    But the killer is that they rely on types of bets, or in online pokies it's a 'play through' multiplier, so you're kind of obliged to stay on if you get an early win to end up gambling an amount maybe 30-50 times your stake. And of course with any pokies, that's enough to take all of your money.

    I did get hooked on the online pokies (funnily enough sports betting really doesn't grab me) but once i had a win, played through playing blackjack and roulette online, only to find my win was disallowed as i had to play through the money on pokies, not other games. That was it i thought, what a joke. So i deleted that after merely getting my original $70 deposit back and just stopped playing the online ones. Just crooks by another name really.
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    blastoise (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 222
    Joined: Thu Nov 26, 2015 3:49 pm

    Re: My gambling story

    Wed Nov 23, 2016 1:23 pm

    HI Andy!

    Well done for taking the initiative and using the self-exclusion again! I love that you took a moment to think about what you were doing, and find a way to deal with it in a productive way. Sometimes, we can feel that we've let ourselves, or others down with a lapse, and then continue on and on (relapse), so I really commend you for doing that. Another option if you are concerned in 6 months is to look at extending this to 5 years.

    Such an achievement, keep it up man!

    Blastoise
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