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RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2013 3:44 pm
by BriM
doug (1/02/2013)Brion. you made a good point that i had never reallly tought about.

That being getting stuck on something repetivive.

I will ponder on that, and try to expand my thinking.

Thanks
Hey Doug! Hmm yes. I think getting stuck on something repetitive doesn't have to be a bad thing. I quite like doing mindless things every so often. My mind's so active all the time I like the feeling of "zoning out". I reckon though you can find something productive to zone out on...Origami, ironing...what do you think?

Hey TLB. I think you could do both! it's nice to have a combo of short term and long term to fill all those bits of your brain that want different things!! What works for you? Have you tried anything?

RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2013 4:37 pm
by Bull
TLB (4/02/2013)Do you think it's better to take on something that's kind of long-term like learning a musical instrument or a language or joining a sports club, so there's some commitment? Or is it easier if you do something smaller like just go for a walk or to a movie or something? Or do both work?

I'd be interested to hear what has actually worked for people and what people struggle with when they're trying to replace gambling with new things.

Cheers.

T
I thought I replaced gambling with socialising... too bad that 'socialising' involved doing so with friends who talked about and went gambling together.

Guess the morale of this is to be careful what you replace gambling with because it could lead straight back to gambling just as it did with me



RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2013 9:29 am
by BriM
Bull (6/02/2013)
TLB (4/02/2013)Do you think it's better to take on something that's kind of long-term like learning a musical instrument or a language or joining a sports club, so there's some commitment? Or is it easier if you do something smaller like just go for a walk or to a movie or something? Or do both work?

I'd be interested to hear what has actually worked for people and what people struggle with when they're trying to replace gambling with new things.

Cheers.

T
I thought I replaced gambling with socialising... too bad that 'socialising' involved doing so with friends who talked about and went gambling together.

Guess the morale of this is to be careful what you replace gambling with because it could lead straight back to gambling just as it did with me
Oh, Bull! So you went on that gambling holiday with your mates, huh? What happened?!

RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Mon Apr 01, 2013 7:13 pm
by POPEYE
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RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Mon Apr 01, 2013 7:45 pm
by ansert
That was such a great idea Popeye, I recently got a new kitten, and even though I have a couple of other cats he is such a funny baby he keeps me really entertained, but a puppy is better because they need a lot more care, good one!

Apart from being on holidays or being ill I think this is the longest I have gone without heading to the pokies in a few years, I am heading back to an adult dance class this week which used to be my passion, so we'll see how that goes since I need to lose weight as well!

RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Mon Apr 01, 2013 7:45 pm
by ansert
Upload a picture of your baby!

RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Wed Apr 03, 2013 8:55 pm
by Chris2
Hi everyone its chris here. I havent posted in a while as I have been focussed on putting into practice some of the small goals , practical and emotional in my own recovery from pokies gambling. Its been over four months and going well. As I posted previously I self excluded from my local club which was the best thing I have done. More importantly I set small goals for myself, month to month. My goals initially were to support myself in believing that I can rise above this problem and I broke it down to even smaller goals of not coming down on myself as we do; but rather continually reinforce to myself that each relapse was a just another lesson to make me stronger on my road to recovery. I read alot especially online. I met with a cousellor for eight sessions over three months face to face. This was free and part of a research clinic on gambling at a university. I found this of great help as the conversation was only about my gambling and listening to myself talk helped me get out of my own head. Ofcourse this forum has helped me continue the road to recovery in all its facets.

What did I replace gambling with? Hmm lets see..I began reaching out again to an old friend who I havent seen for a while. This person had there own issues I didnt want to deal with before but I decided to practice a few virtues in my life more like patience, listening and rediscovering what loving oneself and others really means.I placed my focus on relaxing and enjoying the process for a change and learning to love life again in other ways and having a laugh. I have been spending my money (much less of it! than before) on enjoying regular feel good things like massages, and a nice dinner out and dessert. Things like that.

Patience with yourself, replacing gambling with feelgood options that invest in you and put a smile on your face before you sleep at night is what you can do and it does feel good guys! Take care

chris

RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:07 am
by POPEYE
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RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Thu Apr 04, 2013 1:08 pm
by BriM
Chris2 (3/04/2013)Hi everyone its chris here. I havent posted in a while as I have been focussed on putting into practice some of the small goals , practical and emotional in my own recovery from pokies gambling. Its been over four months and going well. As I posted previously I self excluded from my local club which was the best thing I have done. More importantly I set small goals for myself, month to month. My goals initially were to support myself in believing that I can rise above this problem and I broke it down to even smaller goals of not coming down on myself as we do; but rather continually reinforce to myself that each relapse was a just another lesson to make me stronger on my road to recovery. I read alot especially online. I met with a cousellor for eight sessions over three months face to face. This was free and part of a research clinic on gambling at a university. I found this of great help as the conversation was only about my gambling and listening to myself talk helped me get out of my own head. Ofcourse this forum has helped me continue the road to recovery in all its facets.

What did I replace gambling with? Hmm lets see..I began reaching out again to an old friend who I havent seen for a while. This person had there own issues I didnt want to deal with before but I decided to practice a few virtues in my life more like patience, listening and rediscovering what loving oneself and others really means.I placed my focus on relaxing and enjoying the process for a change and learning to love life again in other ways and having a laugh. I have been spending my money (much less of it! than before) on enjoying regular feel good things like massages, and a nice dinner out and dessert. Things like that.

Patience with yourself, replacing gambling with feelgood options that invest in you and put a smile on your face before you sleep at night is what you can do and it does feel good guys! Take care

chris
Hi Chris, so nice to hear from you. Congrats on making it to four months, that's an incredible effort. Yes, I think sometimes when life gets to us we forget how to be good to ourselves. I've found that doing things like yoga, meditation, eating healthily, going out for a really nice meal and hanging out with friends really changes my mindset when I'm feeling a bit blue - I feel like I'm being good to myself Thanks for keeping us updated! Looking forward to seeing you back here soon . Bri

RE: Activities to do instead of gambling!

Posted: Wed May 01, 2013 11:14 am
by Loui
I pay chess online. Also Sudoku. chess site is "Play free flash chess against the computer". another game is Bejeweled, and you can spend hours on this one.