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    Mitchk127
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    Posts: 2
    Joined: Tue Dec 03, 2019 12:35 am

    My gambling addiction

    Thu Aug 13, 2020 12:35 pm

    Hi all, thought I'd give these forums a go and seek any possible advice.

    I am a 20 year old male, always been a huge fan of my sports, aussie rules in particular. When i turned 18, one of the first things I did was download sportsbet, having some fun along the way with chucking some bets on the footy. The footy would finish, and then my money would go on the races, and then random total point over unders on basically the next available sport, things got crazy. At the time, i didn't really think it was an issue, until my stakes got bigger, money lessened. I became broke, stole from family to afford petrol to go to work, stole from work, lost my job. I don't know how it all happened so quickly, as I'm genuinely a good kid who has always followed rules, studied hard and never broken boundaries until gambling has become involved.

    As time went on, nothing changed. I spoke to gambling counsellours who I lied to, telling them I'd stop so that my parents would get off my back and I could continue gambling. I wanted to continue because I believed that If I could stick to the plan of making around $100 on short priced multis with high stakes I would be able to profit from gambling, however I knew I didn't have it in me to stick to this plan, and new It was never going to work anyway. Everytime my parents would confront me about it, we'd go through the same process of me breaking into tears, the cycle would repeat and then I'd gamble again after a few weeks off.

    I self excluded on every single betting app, however started making duplicate accounts which the bookies were allowing to happen. about 10 months ago, i got a new job, a much higher paying job, earning approximately $700 a week which is alot for a 20 year old. I would find myself staying up late at night, waiting for my pay to hit the bank, and then it would all go on the late night races or soccer or whatever was on asap.

    Recently I also obtained my tax return. The whole $8000 went down the drain. I'd never felt so annoyed at myself and have been feeling more sad than i ever have before. I have lost pay after pay, and probably lost a total of $50000 in the last two years. Last night, i thought to myself, im gonna do this one more time and have a real strategic approach, but of course, things did not go to plan, back to $0 with a $300 debt to a payday loan company. I literally have nothing to pay for at the moment due to being home during the pandemic, so the thoughts that triggered my gambling were basically, who cares if i lose It i don't need it right now and ill be wealthy one day. Today is the day I want to stop. I want my next payday to be different and want this all to go away. I'm drowning in uni work, and my abilitiy to do it in the current state i'm in is impossible. I've tried banking limits, gambling blocking software and much more, but being a fairly tech savvy person I always find my way aorud these things. I've seen some incredibly dark times, and want things to get better as soon as possible
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    Hello3 [facilitator]
    Member
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    Joined: Thu May 21, 2020 8:49 am

    Re: My gambling addiction

    Thu Aug 13, 2020 4:29 pm

    Hi @Mitchk127 thanks for sharing your story with us, it takes a lot of courage to do so.

    It sounds like it's been a bit of a roller coaster ride for you and it's taking its toll. It's great that you've recognized the pattern and that you've decided things need to change to break out of this cycle.

    I'm wondering if perhaps family assisting with managing your finances is an option?

    What are some alternative activities you could try to curb temptation and use as a bit of a distraction technique?

    You mentioned that you've seen some pretty dark times, do you currently have any supports in place? Just remember there is counselling support available 24/7 if you need someone to talk to. It can really help to get things off your chest and have that objective perspective.

    We also have a blog that was posted recently which looks at steps to move on from losing savings which you may find useful. It does focus on covid19 as well but the tips are still very much relevant, you can read it here.

    Do let us know how you go.
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    PPS56M
    Junior Member
    Posts: 10
    Joined: Fri Jul 24, 2020 12:02 am

    Re: My gambling addiction

    Sat Aug 15, 2020 11:52 am

    Hi @Mitchk127

    Good on you for coming to this space and sharing your story.

    I’m new here too and I can tell you now that this space has helped a lot! The biggest eye opener for me was coming to realise just how much gambling controlled my mind to the point where I was on auto pilot betting my pay away! As if I needed to see the shiny lights of the online pokies and be ok with having a $0 bank balance. So stupid to think I could let that happen constantly.

    Now I’m in a much better head space, it still comes to my mind BUT I constantly talk myself through it and I come to this space to read other peoples struggles and it triggers my mind to think ‘I don’t want that life anymore and it’s not the person I want to be’

    I’m still on my journey but so far feeling very accomplished and rewarding myself to treats or items that I can look at and say “that’s where my money went to and I deserved that gift” it’s a good reminder to stay on my positive path.

    My advice to you would be to talk things through with yourself OR another support person - I opened up to my best friend and it’s honestly been a life saver. I explain to her how I feel when I get urges and then talk that through. Her constant check in with me is refreshing and makes me feel good about myself when she says how proud she is of me.

    I also keep telling myself that I will not let gambling control me & my mind, I was raised by such a strong family and I will not be that disappointment - I am stronger than gambling!

    Best of luck with your journey and don’t be afraid to reach out again to counselling services
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    AnonymousGA1
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    Joined: Tue Feb 05, 2019 11:46 pm

    Re: My gambling addiction

    Tue Sep 08, 2020 1:36 am

    Heya @Mitchk127

    I'm 22, and have an extremely similar story to you, you should have a read of my story if you have time.

    My suggestion is when you're thinking rationally, and not in the 'gambling mindset' that's when you make the smartest decisions, when you get paid transfer the money to a long term savings account or friend/family who are there to support you and understand your situation, I transfer 90% of my pay check to my savings and keep 10% for everyday expenses, at the one time if I have any more then $100 I feel obliged to gamble it, and so ensure that I have $100 and if I need more money I can always ask that friend or family member to transfer me $20 or $50 or however much you need to buy dinner or drinks or whatever, it's a slow process, but it's super effective when it get's rolling and you notice the benefits, since the pandemic began in March i've saved close to $10,000 with this method, and the temptation to gamble or just gambling a lot lower as a result of not wanting to have no money to spend on essentials is all I really have anymore, virtually gone.

    I hope to hear your progress, and whether you can find a way around your situation for good, cap yourself when you gamble.

    Cheers
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    Calvin (facilitator)
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    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:01 pm

    Re: My gambling addiction

    Wed Sep 16, 2020 11:36 am

    Great to hear how much you have saved so far ! :) Well done !
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    Calvin (facilitator)
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    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 5:01 pm

    Re: My gambling addiction

    Wed Sep 16, 2020 11:38 am

    How have things been going for you @Mitchk127 ? Been a while since we heard from you
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