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Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2020 12:18 pm
by pamela
Hi ,i really understand how you feel.While you continue to have this battle in your head ,its very hard to think clearly.
You need to stop thinking about what could have been and what you could have won.or might win or could win.
To move forward,and you have,38 days is fantastic,you need to let the urges wash over you and try and focus on the positives.
You have set yourself goals,and thats great.
Try not to focus on what you have won in the past,but all you have lost..
I have found one of the best things to do when an unwanted thought enters my head,or an urge,is to find 5 things to touch,5 things to smell.5 things outside and 5 things inside
It might sound funny,but if you start concentrating on something else those thoughts leave
Acknowledge them,let them sit there,then let them go
Don't give in,keep up the good fight,you can do this

Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2020 2:20 pm
by Bluetack2
pamela wrote:
Fri Aug 14, 2020 12:18 pm
Hi ,i really understand how you feel.While you continue to have this battle in your head ,its very hard to think clearly.
You need to stop thinking about what could have been and what you could have won.or might win or could win.
To move forward,and you have,38 days is fantastic,you need to let the urges wash over you and try and focus on the positives.
You have set yourself goals,and thats great.
Try not to focus on what you have won in the past,but all you have lost..
I have found one of the best things to do when an unwanted thought enters my head,or an urge,is to find 5 things to touch,5 things to smell.5 things outside and 5 things inside
It might sound funny,but if you start concentrating on something else those thoughts leave
Acknowledge them,let them sit there,then let them go
Don't give in,keep up the good fight,you can do this
Thanks Pamela. Appreciate it. I’ll try that

Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Fri Aug 14, 2020 4:00 pm
by pamela
Great ,it really does work as it brings you back to the present

Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Tue Sep 01, 2020 2:40 pm
by Bluetack2
For *****’s sake. $5000 gone last week, $4000 gone today including $750 I took out of super. 1st day of the month and I’ve blown every cent to my name. Nothing coming in for a month, no savings at all AGAIN. I went 45 days without gambling and then thought I could do one big bet and win back most of what I lost last time. Then I just wanted to get back what I lost doing that. I’m ***** shattered. Seeing a gambling counsellor did nothing to help, didn’t get any useful advice on the helpline. It sounds dumb but I just wanted to get to $10,000 and then I thought I’d be “happy”. If I hadn’t gambled I would have had $10,000 next month. Instead I have nothing. I’m in an even worse situation than this time last year when I blew $25,000 and had nothing. How have I not learned or progressed AT ALL in a year??? I’ve ***** tried. No house deposit, no holidays - I’ve spent all this time busting my *** at work for absolutely ***** NOTHING. I hate myself and I’ve got no motivation to talk to seek further help because I’ve got no money now so what’s the use?!? I don’t want to go to work for the rest of this month knowing I have no money and my hard work has once again gone to waste. I don’t know what to do. And I know I shouldn’t but the cycle will probably just repeat next month because a few thousand dollars won’t seem like much compared to what I should’ve had if I didn’t gamble and I’ll convince myself that one bet is all it’ll take

Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Tue Sep 01, 2020 3:09 pm
by Calvin (facilitator)
Hi @Bluetack2
I'm sorry to hear that things are tough for you at the moment. Its always hard when we fall back into those gambling traps of 'just one bet' or thinking of the losses we can try to win back. As you know already thats a tactic gambling companies use to reel people back into it. I understand that you may be feeling discouraged at this present time, with breaking any habit sometimes it takes a bit of back and forth to eventually reach that point where we cut it out for good. Have a read through some of your previous posts in this thread to remind you what worked and what didn't and tips from other members along the way.

What do you think you can do next time to help prevent a lapse in the future?
What can you do to look after yourself at this present moment?

Any members have words of support/advice for Bluetack2 during this time?

Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Wed Sep 02, 2020 12:43 am
by pamela
I understand your frustrations Bluetack.but chasing your wins isn't the answer.
I'm sorry counselling didn't work,maybe you can try it again.Sometimes you have to "shop around" for the right one,I did.
When you get an urge to gamble,what do you do?
Is it to go straight to a venue?
Thats when you really need to rein your thoughts in to shift that urge,I have found by focusing on 5 things you can see outside,5 things you can see inside.and 5 things you can smell,actually helps you to bring your mind back to the present.
It might be worth a try
The trick is retraining our brain
You can do this..fight the good fight

Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Fri Sep 04, 2020 1:24 pm
by redv2010
Hi there, I'm new to this forum and an relate to this post a lot. Since COVID I've saved $10 000 three times and blown it all 3 times. $30 000 down the drain in a matter of minutes through online gambling. I'm left to pick up the pieces and wonder how I keep doing it and having $0.00 to my name again until payday. I'm constantly in a state of having no money because of gambling binges. It really is soul crushing once the moneys gone and the WTF did I just do thoughts kick in. I agree with others who have commented, it's best not to dwell and look back although it's impossible not to. I'm resigned to the fact I just can't save money and anytime I do have it disapears. I understand what your going through and just gotta take it a day at a time, which is easier said then done. Especially when we think what I could of done that was worthwhile with all that money. My family doesn't know about my gambling binges, I'm to scared to mention it because I can imagine the reaction I'd get. I was glad to find this site and post just to know I'm not alone and there are others who are struggling like me that I can share thoughts with freely. Hope you can get back on your feet mate and put your best foot forward.

Re: How to get over the anger and regret?

Posted: Fri Sep 04, 2020 2:23 pm
by Wenna (facilitator)
Hi Redv210,

Welcome to the forum, it takes a lot of courage to share your story and I hope this forum can be a support for you as well as a place for you to share freely.

I am wonder if there are any strategies other members would like to share which they have found useful to help minimizing losses with online gambling?

Good to see you engaging on this forum.

All the best

Wenna
Moderator