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    pamela
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    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Tue Jun 09, 2020 8:36 pm

    I understand you don't want to set yourself up to fail,however saying no can be easy..its funny ..we can say no many times to all sorts of things until it comes to gambling.
    Can I suggest you go elsewhere to dine out..there are plenty of other places you can go that don't revolve around gambling ,that way you have said no..without saying no..keep strong
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    Chad20
    Junior Member
    Posts: 12
    Joined: Sat Jun 06, 2020 11:07 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Tue Jun 09, 2020 8:55 pm

    Thank you for the tip. That just set off a lightbulb in me. I’m going to find a new favourite restaurant for us that’s away from Crown, I love that idea @pamela thank you! And yes you are right about not setting myself up to fail, that’s what worried me and just saying no to going in to casino after dinner would just be a weird behavior for me. I thought about still going there for dinner but booking a movie closer to home for after dinner so we won’t have time to go to casino. Thanks for steering me in the right direction :)
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    pamela
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    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Wed Jun 10, 2020 7:45 pm

    Glad to help,sounds like you are on track..if you change your pattern it becomes easier..you just need to retrain your brain
    Good luck and keep us posted
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    User 5ed8f245ec799
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    Joined: Thu Jun 04, 2020 11:10 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Thu Jun 11, 2020 11:24 am

    Hi Chad20, I’m hearing ya,
    I’ve got a fairly similar story myself ,especially when it comes to betting on horses, even when I win I seem to cancel withdrawals and give it all back. Your right with self excluding too, although it helps, I always seem to find another way.
    I too am lucky not to go into more debt , and just keep up with mortgage payments, but all my savings get blown.I probably would have my mortgage totally paid off if I didn’t start gambling.
    I played sport at a fairly high level too, when I retired the gambling increased substantially to fill that void. Betting on sports does make it more enjoyable, and although I seem to know a lot more with sports, it’s still so unpredictable and if my Sportsbet’s loose, I head over to horses or dogs to recope and that’s when things get really ugly.
    In regards to making a deal to gamble only a few times a year when your at the crown, from my experience your better off abstaining completely, when I have long successful stretches off the punt and my life starts going good again if I decide to just have a little dable with $50 or $100, this always sets off a catastrophic return back to my old life. I’m in the middle of it right now.Its like being in the middle of the ocean in a huge swell and I’m just trying to keep my head afloat.
    I hate this feeling, I’ve been back in forth down this road so many times.
    Staying away from it all is the only answer.
    Best of luck mate, hopefully we can both ride out this storm and move on to better lives.
    Take it easy
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    Chad20
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    Joined: Sat Jun 06, 2020 11:07 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sat Jun 13, 2020 3:16 pm

    User 5ed8f245ec799 wrote:
    Thu Jun 11, 2020 11:24 am
    Hi Chad20, I’m hearing ya,
    I’ve got a fairly similar story myself ,especially when it comes to betting on horses, even when I win I seem to cancel withdrawals and give it all back. Your right with self excluding too, although it helps, I always seem to find another way.
    I too am lucky not to go into more debt , and just keep up with mortgage payments, but all my savings get blown.I probably would have my mortgage totally paid off if I didn’t start gambling.
    I played sport at a fairly high level too, when I retired the gambling increased substantially to fill that void. Betting on sports does make it more enjoyable, and although I seem to know a lot more with sports, it’s still so unpredictable and if my Sportsbet’s loose, I head over to horses or dogs to recope and that’s when things get really ugly.
    In regards to making a deal to gamble only a few times a year when your at the crown, from my experience your better off abstaining completely, when I have long successful stretches off the punt and my life starts going good again if I decide to just have a little dable with $50 or $100, this always sets off a catastrophic return back to my old life. I’m in the middle of it right now.Its like being in the middle of the ocean in a huge swell and I’m just trying to keep my head afloat.
    I hate this feeling, I’ve been back in forth down this road so many times.
    Staying away from it all is the only answer.
    Best of luck mate, hopefully we can both ride out this storm and move on to better lives.
    Take it easy
    Thank you for the reply. It’s so nice (or bad but nice if you know what I mean) of another story on this forum that is similar to mine. I really felt like I was a lone wolf with my gambling addiction and surely no one else does the same reckless sh!t as me. It actually makes this so much easier. Thank you for the tips on avoiding all together. I’m at 7 days today and I have had inner battles with myself about temptation and just wanting to have a little flutter for fun. But I know I have an addiction and have no control. I’ve literally had headaches, like I’m withdrawing or some sh!t over it this week.

    I’m learning the only way to win is to actually save your wage, there is no risk in that and plenty of reward. Thanks for sharing your story with me and also for your advice- taken on board :)
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    Honeyb
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    Joined: Sun Jun 14, 2020 2:02 am

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sun Jun 14, 2020 2:18 am

    I never thought I had a gambling problem , I used to love crown casino playing the big wheel and roulette, I thought I had worked out a system to win but always would lose more times than winning. During the covid lockdown I’ve been more interested in horse racing and I have been betting more and increasing the bets to win back my losses . Having the app on my phone gave me incentives like bonus bets and bet returns , making me think that I couldn’t lose. Well I did lose , I’ve spent thousands in the past few weeks , gambled away money that was meant for other things . I feel ashamed and hate myself for wasting so much money.
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    Chad20
    Junior Member
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    Joined: Sat Jun 06, 2020 11:07 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sun Jun 14, 2020 2:25 pm

    @Honeyb
    I think you will learn a lot about your gambling habits from reading other people’s posts throughout this forum. A lot of my behaviors, in fact all my habits and behaviors not just my gambling and thoughts, but how gambling has changed the person I am to my loved ones and core values, I have discovered so many others are like me on this forum.

    The only way to win and save money, is through not gambling at all. That’s what I’ve learnt on the money side of it. Just take a moment to think of others in your life, I think of my circle of people and they’ve been able to save and be so far ahead of me financially due to not gambling. So who is the winner really? There’s no quick get rich schemes other than by saving and not wasting money.

    I’m at day 8, I know it’s a long road ahead but the anxiety and stress of gambling has started to ease. My focus now is not on hating myself for gambling and how I am going to get money to make it to my next pay. I still think about gambling a lot but I’m forging ahead with the 100 day challenge. I downloaded the app and check in everyday and chat online.

    Goodluck honeyb, you need to start somewhere and I know this is my turning point.
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    pamela
    Senior Member
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    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sun Jun 14, 2020 7:39 pm

    We all make life choices ..and most of them we make clearly.
    Until it comes to gambling and then all our logic flies out the windows.
    That is the hardest part about stopping..making the choice ..
    That's why you have to retrain your brain..and really make a clear decision
    Just as you decide to make that bet or push that button.you need to stop and really think about what you are about to do...what is at stake and is it really worth it
    I played the pokies for 18 years and had nothing..I
    barely got through every day..it was no way to live.
    Then I stopped for one day,two days,three ..one week two,three.and it was tough but I got there and haven't gambled for almost 5 years now.
    If I can do it,you can do
    Don't give up the good fight
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    Jaremmymeow
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    Joined: Sat Jun 20, 2020 12:01 am

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sat Jun 20, 2020 12:03 am

    Hello to all! I'm new here, glad to meet everyone! Thanks for such a wonderful site!
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    pamela
    Senior Member
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    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: New here? Change makers introduce yourself here!

    Sun Jun 21, 2020 10:03 am

    Hello and welcome,what brings you here?
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