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    Tom1999
    Junior Member
    Posts: 11
    Joined: Wed Feb 28, 2018 6:16 pm

    Advice, falling back in a trap again.

    Sat Apr 27, 2019 6:43 pm

    Just was up $500 from $60 at blackjack (computer version) at a Casino

    Left the casino, went to do something, came back 1 HOUR later with the idea just to risk a small amount and leave with the large winnings.

    Lost all $200 in the space of 5 minutes, lost 10 hands in a row. Mind you I know this is online blackjack with a screen and I know you never win, but I'm just not using my head and have ZERO restraint.

    Always have had a problem with gambling, typically sports gambling but now I am trickling into Blackjack/Table Games and I have nothing to show for it

    When I lost that money today, I went straight to the bathroom, sat there and was shaking and sweating like a gypsy with a mortgage. I tried telling myself it wasn't much but I can't get over the fact that I CAN NEVER take a win. Obviously I need to stop as this is only going to turn into more and more money and losing more and more. I am only 19 and had lost thousands on sports when I was 18, stopped for 7 months straight and only recently am slowly getting back into it. Not the stupendous amounts online before, but now I am withdrawing cash, at least $200 weekly and losing it all, whether that is straight away, gradually or even worse, doubling it, winning big then losing it all the next day.

    I am struggling to find a stop button and I know that if I don't resent, it is only going yo get worse and worse.
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    Mona58
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1026
    Joined: Sun Oct 15, 2017 11:44 am

    Re: Advice, falling back in a trap again.

    Sun Apr 28, 2019 8:05 am

    Welcome to the forums Tom '

    I think you've found that stop button right here.

    It would be best to delete and ban gambling sites from your phone. There are ways to do this, I don't know myself. But if you wait ... one of the counsellors / facilliators will come on and advice on this.

    OR you could call the gambling helpline 1800 858 858 and they could advice.

    All the best on your journey!

    Mona
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    A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.~Confucius
    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1676
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: Advice, falling back in a trap again.

    Sun Apr 28, 2019 6:38 pm

    I absolutely agree you need to delete the app from your phone..they are addictive.and no good can come from them..you already feel bad and those feelings will only increase if you keep going down this path..but you have reached or for help and that is such a positive step..good luck
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    Calvin (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 307
    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 4:01 pm

    Re: Advice, falling back in a trap again.

    Tue Apr 30, 2019 2:28 pm

    Good on you for reaching out @Tom1999 !

    I'm Calvin one of the facilitators on the forums.

    Its good to see that you have recognised that you are slowly getting back into the habit.

    As @Mona58 mentioned, self-exclusion can be helpful at this point in time both with online gambling and venues. It can be easier for you to get a gambling counselor to help organise this and to provide you with support along the way.

    Although self-exclusion is a helpful barrier to put in place, it doesn't necessarily get rid of the temptation or urges to go and gamble.

    Sometimes we may need to challenge our own thinking and think of different ways to overcome the urges to gamble.

    How did you manage urges throughout the 7 months that you weren't gambling?

    What were the positives you noticed in that 7 months of being gambling free?

    Calvin
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