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    Realme
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    Joined: Sun Mar 26, 2017 11:48 am

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Wed May 01, 2019 1:06 pm

    Hi again Stacey,
    I’ve been gambling on & off. The best I did was for 3 weeks & then I started relapsing. I’m at day 1 because I went to venue yesterday & lost. The worse part is that after I got off a machine I was on for about 2 hours as it kept taking, a man got on it & won major of 2k. It was the worse feeling ever, but I don’t want to be envious as he’s probably got the same gambling problems as many of us & no doubt he is not infront. You can never beat the house. I think of my dad, he too is a regular gambler at his local pokies club for last 20 years. He’s won some big grand jackpots, but him & his wife put it all back in & overall probably at a loss of 500k between them. My step mum said with the amount he’s lost, he could of bought new cars, & much much more.
    As for the statement of my wins/losses, I didn’t know about the casino giving them out either, the letter said that the Tas casino (where I’m from), are required to give them out to all members. I’m not sure if this applies to the other casinos around Australia, you could certainly ask yours to find out.
    Great that you’ll be on the 100 day challenge site, I am there to sometimes, as said on & off, but my goal is to stick to being on & not falling to my weaknesses. The best thing I did to control my urges when I was in my 3 weeks was to keep reminding myself of my losses & how awful & emotional I would feel walking out the doors with not even one dollar left, i’d be minus in my bank, all because of them taking it all. This worked, I had to keep reminding myself that I wasn’t going to feel like that again & that I was a winner by not going. I would treat myself to new clothes & eating out as a reward while on the challenge.
    Hopefully we will see each other at the other site too, but if not, feel free to keep posting here as well xo
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    Chunkyquitter
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    Posts: 51
    Joined: Mon Dec 12, 2016 10:34 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Thu May 02, 2019 6:30 pm

    Watching someone stream their gambling that sounds “so country” lol. I reckon he has triggered me a little bit too. Good on you for stopping you can never win long term. Someone who has quit started quit and started again and now quitting again. It actually feels really good when you’ve stopped gambling it makes you proud to say you’re not a gambler, instead of the shame and disgrace of people thinking you are a gambler.

    One tip I’d give you is to limit you’re access to money and never dabble thinking you have it under control because it takes only very short period or a win and your back here again wondering how you’ve blown all you cash
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    Calvin (facilitator)
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    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 4:01 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Sat Jun 01, 2019 10:10 pm

    How has everyone been going ?

    Its a new month, already halfway through 2019.

    What has helped you in the past 6 months that you can continue using into the year? Any new ideas or goals?
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    Chunkyquitter
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    Posts: 51
    Joined: Mon Dec 12, 2016 10:34 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Wed Jun 05, 2019 2:16 am

    Yeah managed to stop. Feel happier than ever. Am highly stressed about how break some bad news to a couple of people.

    Still am wanting to gain the courage to make it to a meeting
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    flipper (facilitator)
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    Joined: Wed Aug 30, 2017 1:58 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Wed Jun 05, 2019 9:52 am

    Hi @Chunkyquitter ,

    Well done! It's great to hear you're in a good place. What have you been doing differently since you stopped gambling?

    Have a good day everyone.

    - Flipper
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    Chunkyquitter
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    Posts: 51
    Joined: Mon Dec 12, 2016 10:34 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Thu Jun 06, 2019 1:50 am

    I just stopped and self excluded . I think one of the medicines I was taking that I stopped was really numbing me to loses. I was a on really big dose of Lyrica and aswell as Cymbalta. I felt hypnotic urge to compulsively gamble. It was making me miserable, was prescribed. Also an and my regular good quality sleep on these tablets has really help my mood and happiness level
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    fmkosi
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    Joined: Sun Jun 09, 2019 2:47 am

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Sun Jun 09, 2019 2:49 am

    think about this :);
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