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    cardofhearts
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    pamela
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    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Fri Apr 26, 2019 10:04 pm

    Hello and welcome..good on you for coming here and recognising your problem..Unfortunately no good can come from gambling..when you and your partner go out think of other places you can go..
    I wish you luck
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    cardofhearts
    Junior Member
    Posts: 12
    Joined: Fri Apr 26, 2019 6:20 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Sat Apr 27, 2019 2:10 pm

    Thank you Pamela :);
    Yes, we need to find interesting things that are happening But sometimes there’s nothing on. But I won’t ever let that be an excuse again :)
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    Mona58
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1130
    Joined: Sun Oct 15, 2017 12:44 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Sat Apr 27, 2019 3:08 pm

    Hi Hearts,

    l had a bit of chuckle at ''there'S nothing on!"... I remember saying the very same when I used to gamble.

    At the start it took a lot of energy to do things ... to change things... even sitting quietly took a lot of effort.

    Life takes over when you stop gambling.

    All the best on your journey!

    Mona
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Posts: 485
    Joined: Mon May 14, 2018 11:40 am

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Tue Apr 30, 2019 4:45 pm

    Hi @cardofhearts great to hear you're taking the steps to make change! You should be proud!

    And thank you for sharing your story.

    How are things going for you this week?
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    Sadly, it's my last week as Community Manager. Wishing everyone all the best!
    cardofhearts
    Junior Member
    Posts: 12
    Joined: Fri Apr 26, 2019 6:20 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Tue Apr 30, 2019 9:08 pm

    Hi @Mona58

    I feel like I would say “there’s nothing on” because nothing was as entertaining as the casino! Winning money makes me feel good and just sitting there in that environment and lapping in the bright lights and loud noises had me engaged and wanting more.

    I’m starting to appreciate the little things in life now like going to the gym and hanging out with friends.

    I went the a local pub tonight and didn’t go anywhere near the pokies. Feeling proud. I’m definitely in the mindset to preserve and not return to old habits.
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    cardofhearts
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    Joined: Fri Apr 26, 2019 6:20 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Tue Apr 30, 2019 9:11 pm

    Hi @BrittV (facilitator)

    Thank you!
    I’m doing quite well actually. Every day I’ve woken up and reminded myself why it’s important to quit. Thought about the positives of quitting so that’s in my head before an urge to gamble arises. I haven’t been near the pokies for almost a week now.

    Tomorrow is payday and that will be the real challenge. But I’m going to set myself up to succeed and start bulk paying debt before I can think about spending a lot of money (which I’m sure I can control myself).

    Thanks for checking in with me :)
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Wed May 01, 2019 11:02 am

    Sounds great @cardofhearts.

    Sounds like you're doing lots of great things to help yourself, how awesome!
    And I love the idea of these thoughts being the first for the day - really sets you up for a good day!

    Well done and take care!
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    Sadly, it's my last week as Community Manager. Wishing everyone all the best!
    Realme
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    Joined: Sun Mar 26, 2017 12:48 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Wed May 01, 2019 11:22 am

    Hi cardofhearts, it’s nice to meet you, how are you ? Did you succeed in not going on pay day ? It can be tempting to go on that day so put a plan in place to protect yourself. Closing down your online site was a good idea. Keep thinking of other good ideas so as not to go to casino. I was going to casino on weekends with my partner too & last night was an eye opener. I received my member’s card statement in my mail - it shows how much I have won & lost & my hours spent there. I have to say, it’s shocking! I have fed their house 50k in past 5 years & my wins are very small (600 twice, & some smaller ones). I have never won any grand jackpots & even so, it’s all likely to all go back in. Rarely do my partner & I walk out with money, they have ripped so much off us. My partner has probably lost the same amount, so between him & me, calculating about 100k in losses & that’s not counting the venues in between that I have gone to. I could go on about all the negatives here as there’s no good in it at all. In a positive sentence it’s best to keep your money & find new interests. It’s going to be challenging at first, but it will be for the best & you’ll feel better. Keep us posted about your progress. Suzy xo
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    cardofhearts
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    Joined: Fri Apr 26, 2019 6:20 pm

    Re: Hopeful thinking... Wanting to control myself and not let gambling control me.

    Wed May 01, 2019 12:10 pm

    Hi @Realme

    Thanks for your comment! :) I have paid bulk money to my car loan and debt (more than expected) and left myself with enough money for petrol, food and a little extra to enjoy life. I have called the banks to suspend my debt accounts so I can’t use them online or to withdraw. I’m feeling so ready for this chapter in my life. :)

    Wow! I didn’t know you could get a statement? I think I would feel sick seeing mine but it would be an eye opener. How long have you stopped gambling for and how do you manage the urge?

    I’ll be posting on the 100 gambling free challenge threads to keep everyone updated :)


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