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    For people making and maintaining change in their gambling. Connect, ask questions, offer advice, and share your story in here. If you are new to the site drop in and say hello!
    clearthatmind
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Sat Apr 06, 2019 5:45 pm

    These are all helpful ways to controlling our gambling urges and they do work, however, in my experience it is absolutely vital that we nip those desiring thoughts in the bud before they take root...James 1:14,15. This is a strategy in itself and a very important one. With me, if I dwell on those thoughts over a period of time it is just inevitable that I will punt. Please, deal with these thoughts straightaway, my friends. Use self-talk, acknowledge them and have some sort of response. Otherwise, in my experience, it doesn't matter what you do other times, you will crash. We just have to deal with those thoughts and I know, they are bloody insidious. But we can beat them, and we can make it a practice to do so. This will become part of us and we will prevail. All the best with all our lives
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Mon Nov 11, 2019 5:04 pm

    I'm thinking it's time for an update on this list!

    Who's got some other strategies to share to help make change in our gambling?
    @LOSER1973 I know you mentioned something about a cashless bank card?
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    pamela
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Tue Nov 12, 2019 10:35 am

    I recommend bank accounts that don't have cards connected to them..makes it harder to get money ..buy vouchers when you get paid ..so you can buy necessities but don't have access to money
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    Mona58
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Tue Nov 12, 2019 1:48 pm

    At the beginning we NEED to make CHANGES to everyday / weekly routine. Drive or walk a different route. Like totally unravel your daily habits so as you are aware of what you are doing. This will help stop you thinking about gambling even to think "I'm not gambling anymore" is thinking about it. It is hard and often daunting but it does not take all that long before time had gone by. It takes much stress to constantly ''refocus" on what you are doing and in short period of time it becomes habit. There's good stress in the battle towards gamble free living!

    Mona.
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    LOSER1973
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Mon Nov 18, 2019 7:11 pm

    BrittV (facilitator) wrote:
    Mon Nov 11, 2019 5:04 pm
    I'm thinking it's time for an update on this list!

    Who's got some other strategies to share to help make change in our gambling?
    @LOSER1973 I know you mentioned something about a cashless bank card?
    Hi Britt, the banks are making it very difficult now as they encourage ATM transactions and want you to spend your money. Now with phone app's and cardless cash they make it even more difficult as "cardless cash" isn't a feature that can be removed. Cardless cash is where you don't need a bankcard to withdraw money and simply use your phone to withdraw from a ATM. SO WHAT'S THE SOLUTION? Open up a bank account online from "CITIBANK" they have gone cashless! They do not have this cardless cash feature, when your wage gets put into your account transfer it over to your "citibank" account and cut up your bankcard so you cannot access it. Use this account to pay all your bills like utility's etc leave enough money in a account which you have access to for grocery's and if you still don't trust yourself buy a Coles or Woolworths voucher to buy groceries with. :)









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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Wed Nov 20, 2019 9:52 am

    thanks so much, i think that will be realy helpful for people.

    So,
    - open up a citibank account
    - transfer pay in to it or get paid into it
    - get rid of cards to your other accounts to minise access
    - use citibank card for purchases so you can't get cash out.


    love it!
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Thu Feb 06, 2020 5:35 pm

    It's coming up to a year since we created this together - and with other 3 and a half thousand views it looks like it's been very helpful to people!!
    It's a great masterlist of all the tried-and-tested tips we have for people who are just starting their journey!

    Do you have some updated tips for this list?

    I'm sure you might be able to share some wisdom maybe!? @Springhope17 @How the F did I get here @BrisbaneLad @jessm86 @Tilney
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    Tilney
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Fri Feb 07, 2020 5:38 pm

    Thank you for the tag. I am proud to say that today is day 27 for me. I felt like it could never happen, as I couldn’t last one day without playing the Pokies, but since seeing a face to face counsellor and swallowing my pride, I’ve never felt better.

    My number one tip is never give up giving up. It sounds simple, but as long as you’re not happy gambling then you’re able to do something about it.

    Secondly, go see face to face counselling, it’s so much better than the scary stigma attached to it, and it feels good to talk out my issues to someone, as no one knew I had an issue.

    I’d also recommend self/exclusion, as I was sure id be able to kick my habit myself, I never saw the need to self exclude. I continuously went into the Pokies, so I got my counsellor to self exclude from 20+ Venues, now I have removed the stimulus entirely. I have the briefest urges now and they pass so quickly. I honestly feel so much better about not gambling, far better than gambling ever made me feel.

    Coming into this site has always been a great escape for me as well, keeping open and honest with strangers turned out to be an important support for me.

    Hopefully some of these tips help someone who may find themselves in a similar position to where I was only 27 days ago :)
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    BrisbaneLad
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Sat Feb 08, 2020 11:09 am

    Thanks @BrittV (facilitator) .. my number one tip is stop bullshitting to yourself. I’ve been kidding myself for years. The best thing that has worked for me is making honesty to myself a priority and actually holding myself to account.

    Much live to all on this journey
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    BrittV (facilitator)
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    Re: Our community's strategies for taking control of gambling!

    Mon Feb 10, 2020 9:38 am

    Thanks so much for sharing @Tilney and @BrisbaneLad and of course congratulations again for being where you are.

    You're insights and learnings will be invaluable for many others, I'm sure!
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