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    Bull
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    I thought I was on the brink...

    Mon Dec 17, 2012 11:49 am

    So this all started when I was 21 (I am now 28). My friends bought me a poker table for my 21st birthday. At first we started playing amongst each other, then I began playing for free online, then I started playing for money... I guess you can all see where this is going...

    Eventually I started playing at the Casino. I had all of these rules... Don't buy in more than once. Only go in with the amount of money I could afford to use. Don't get emotional and make stupid decisions. Keep a win/loss statement etc etc etc. Did they work? Well, for the most part yes but I still lost quite a bit of money. Playing poker is unlike any other form of gambling because you can actually win as you are not playing against the house (you are playing against your peers). The problem was that I held onto this thought, this logic, for so long that I didn't realise one crucial factor...

    I simply wasn't as good as I thought I was... In 2009, I lost quite a bit of money and I played poker for many many hours per week. The amount that I lost isn't as high as some other people on here but taking into consideration I was a student at university living off a part-time salary, it still hit me quite hard.

    After realising this over some time (which is quite hard for someone like me to admit) I realised that I needed to stop spending so much on poker. I limited myself to going once per month and when I was not likely to make bad choices because I was tired or in a bad mood. I also made sure that I would go only on nights when my friends were busy and I wasn't missing out on an important social event.

    Finally, after some good support from my partner and these golden rules I've come to live by, I've got a firm grip on my gambling behaviour and I've been much happier .

    I wonder if anyone else on here has a similar story?
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    BriM
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    RE: I thought I was on the brink...

    Tue Dec 18, 2012 12:37 pm

    Hi Bull, Welcome to the forum. Awesome work getting your poker playing under control! Thanks for sharing your experiences. I found it really interesting to hear that you banned yourself from gambling on nights when your friends are catching up. When you're gambling a lot, it can be so easy to lose those connections with people close to you. And given that loneliness can feed gambling too, it's really great you've recognised the importance of keeping up with your social life. I think you'll be a real inspiration for other members of our online community. Cheers, Bri (moderator)
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    Bull
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    Joined: Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:53 pm

    RE: I thought I was on the brink...

    Sat Dec 22, 2012 6:08 pm

    Well that's just about it. Poker is a very social game though and people often play it so they can socialise. But at the end of the day, 98% of people I've sat down and played poker with, I've never seen again. It's great in the moment but you're not really building a social network if you're saying NO to your friends so you can speak to total strangers on the same table only until your money runs out...
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