It's time to stop

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Re: It's time to stop

Postby flipper (facilitator) » Fri Jul 06, 2018 4:52 pm

Hi everyone,

It's worth remembering that breaking away from any addiction is not a linear process. It's a process that will have highs and lows, and How the Eff Did I Get Here, I understand you are deflated at the moment because you had a lapse- but there is a difference between a lapse and a relapse. A relapse is where you go back to old patterns you have moved away from completely, whilst a lapse occurs when someone might engage in the behaviour again but is able to see that it was a slip up and learn from it as they continue on their journey to recovery. So be kind to yourself, it is all a part of the process, and it's what you do from here that counts.

LocalLad how are you going?

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Re: It's time to stop

Postby LocalLad » Sun Jul 01, 2018 11:27 pm

Day 3 down. Made it through the weekend. There were times the machines crossed my mind but I wouldn't say I had an urge to play them. Feeling like I can maintain this but do not want to get comfortable yet.
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Re: It's time to stop

Postby LocalLad » Sun Jul 01, 2018 9:22 am

I'm really sorry to hear that. 71 days is a great effort so I can imagine the disappointment you feel now. I'm sorry I don't have the right advice to offer yet as I'm still a beginner on my journey but I would say if you've done it once you can do it again. Dust yourself off, restart the clock and try to remember the horrible emotion you feel at this moment knowing it affects not only yourself but loved ones too so you hopefully don't end up there again. Best of luck to you.
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Re: It's time to stop

Postby How the F did I get here » Sun Jul 01, 2018 8:15 am

Yep, good you are addressing it now. I was at rock bottom 71 days ago and I am now im back there. Really I dont know what to say, I seem to give everyone all this supportive advice on being strong and forgetting the past and move forward , but I can't myself.
Good luck to you I wish you all the best, dont let the evil beast control you. If you hit rock bottom its so fkn hard to claw your way out,.

Sorry I hate to be such a downer on your post but im hurting bad, just fked up after 71 days gf.
I have a child and its so hard coming to the realization I have fked her life financially with my gambling.
Ill definitely come back a write a more uplifting response when the dust settles.

All the best.
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Re: It's time to stop

Postby LocalLad » Sun Jul 01, 2018 12:11 am

Thanks again for the support guys. Catherine, my gambling is a combination of boredom and the thrill of the win. The continuation more specifically is about getting the free spins. When I play it's like nothing matters until I hear that feature alarm bell. And then if I get a nice total from that I very rarely take the win and leave, I stupidly keep playing for the next free spins which so often don't come and then before you know it any dollar advantage has vanished. A trip to the ATM normally follows that.

Day 2 is done. Spent most of it alone doing a few tasks around home but had dinner with friends and drove straight home after, rather than finding a place with machines. Early days but I do feel a sense of achievement.
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Re: It's time to stop

Postby flipper (facilitator) » Sat Jun 30, 2018 9:52 am

Good morning everyone,

Congratulations on 1 week GF Catherine1, as you said, it's important to know what your triggers may be and I can see you're really building your self-awareness around this.

Welcome again to the forums LocalLad, and well done on Day 1- keep taking it a day at a time. Having a lot more time to yourself may be challenging when your partner goes away, but I wonder what was life like before you started gambling? What kind of things did you enjoy doing? This might be a good opportunity to reconnect with some of these things.

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Re: It's time to stop

Postby Catherine1 » Fri Jun 29, 2018 8:00 pm

All the best with your challenge Local Lad. I too have a problem with pokies. Over the last few years I have been trying to give up but those damn machines draw me back but not any more. I have reached 1 week today gamble free. We can do this. I too am well educated and also have not reached rock bottom. But have realised if I continue on this path there will come a time when I will have blown my comfortable lifestyle. You need to ask yourself why you gamble? I know I have gambled in the past due to stress at work, boredom, for the thrill of the win. I have had to fill the boredom with other activities. Ie: exercise, gardening, cooking, craft etc. I find this website so helpful. You get heaps of support and you realise you are not alone in your fight.
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Re: It's time to stop

Postby LocalLad » Fri Jun 29, 2018 6:22 pm

Thanks guys. Great to see the amount of support on here. Day 1 down. Decided to actually eat lunch on my break and read the news today to distract me from visiting the machines. The start of my 100 days will be an even bigger challenge as my partner has unexpectedly had to go overseas for the next month so I will have a lot of alone time with which to occupy myself. I'm committed to making a difference in my life though, so I will maintain updates on here to keep myself accountable.
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Re: It's time to stop

Postby Springhope17 » Fri Jun 29, 2018 3:50 pm

Hi LocalLad,

My advice is stop now! Tell ur partner if you can so atleast you have someone to be accountable to. The reason why I am suggesting this is I was like you I could see myself spending more and more time and money but all of a sudden I just couldnt stop! I could see it was destroying me but somehow I just ended up chasing my losses and now I am $80,000 in debt! It happens so quickly from spending ur left over to pay to spending rent and bill money.

I would suggest the 100 day challenge so you can adjust to not gambling every week etc and it will help get some separation from the machines.

Come on here and post as much as possible - it really helped me.

You can do this

SpringHope 69 days GF
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Re: It's time to stop

Postby Dockers6 (facilitator) » Fri Jun 29, 2018 3:26 pm

Welcome LocalLad,

Thanks for sharing your experiences, there is plenty of assistance out there including 24 hour gambling help over the phone.

I wonder if anyone else can offer some lived experienced advice to better assist LocalLad?.

Your not alone, and welcome once again.

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