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Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Mon Sep 14, 2020 10:13 pm
by JinxyWolf
Hello all my Peeps :cool: :cool:

So here I am in Regional Victoria counting down the days until I can leave my little town and go for a drive. Who would have thought that the prospect of going for a drive could be so exciting. Still I must admit I am one of the lucky ones, I'm working and our little shop is still open for business. Oh and I am sooo loving having to wear a mask for 8 hours a day :p :p but what must be done :D

Anywho, so things have been pretty quiet here lately, the world continues to turn and the pokies in Victoria remain silent - the only good thing to come out of this pandemic if you ask me. I'm continuing my gamble free journey, it has been 3 years and 6 months since I last played to pokies and if that's not a reason to celebrate I don't know what is :cool: :cool: :cool:

I was thinking just the other day actually that I just can't figure out how I ever had the time or money to gamble, I mean seriously by the time I pay bills, buy groceries, pay the mortgage, paying off my car there is not a lot left in the old bank account. I actually find it very hard to part with my money these days, I procrastinate and think and go back and forth, "Do I really want that $20 DVD?" :p and to think that 3 years ago I had no quarms about stuffing $500 into a poker machine in one sitting. Crazy how your value of money can change given time. That's the trick of gambling, it skews your value of money. Money just becomes numbers on a screen, the bigger the number the better your going, until the inevitable happens and you see that big fat ZERO in the screen, damn it :( I've worked with cash my whole life, being in retail it is a cash business and working in a Tatts outlet you handle a lot of cash, it's easy to loose the value of a $50 or even a $20 note when you see them everyday in the quantities I see them but nothing destroyed my value of money more than the pokies.

So that was kinda long winded wasn't it :p

Stay Safe All and Stay Strong

JinxyWolf

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2020 12:26 pm
by pamela
Hi Jinxywolf..well done on reaching 3years 6 months.a great achievement.
I agree about the warped ideas of money.When I gambled..like you,I never cared about losing $500 or more in a sitting,but now..i am like the complete opposite.
I LIKE having money ,for a change
I wish you all the best over there and hope it styles down soon
Stay healthy and thanks for sharing

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Wed Sep 16, 2020 10:47 am
by Calvin (facilitator)
Hello @JinxyWolf

Well done on reaching 3 years and 6 months. Amazing work!!Definitely worth celebrating!
I really enjoyed reading your reflections about your journey and also how you've noticed your thoughts have changed over the years in relation to the value of money! You're correct in saying gambling makes you lose that value of money.
Glad to hear you're keeping busy with your business! Hopefully soon we will all be able to enjoy a nice drive!!

Keep up the great work!

Could you share a few tips for those currently struggling with gambling and are sitting on those beginning steps towards change? I'm sure your support and tips would be very helpful to many!

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Sun Sep 27, 2020 6:48 pm
by JinxyWolf
Hi Calvin,

So finally went for that drive and it was awesome :cool: :cool: :cool: :cool: FREEDOM!!! :p

So my biggest tip for those starting this journey would be to give up access to quick cash. This step absolutely helped me with my urges when they hit and hit they did. In the first month or so I was being bombarded with urges to gamble. You know that little voice in that back of your head that just won't shut up, nudging you to "come on go just this once" "come on just put $20 though it's all good" "go on you can just go once" LIES so many LIES. My brain was lying to me and I couldn't trust it any more.

But I could trust my Mum, so she got my bank card and I got $20 for emergencies. Want groceries? went shopping with mum, need petrol? took mum to the petrol station. If I wanted a dvd or clothes I would get Mum to give me the exact cash I needed not a penny more. I could still pay my bills using internet banking so that was fine, cause you know we all love those bills :p :p but at least I could pay them without having to go to mum and ask to put them on her credit card and lie to her face about where all my money went. Here I was a 35 year old woman and I had no control over my own finances. This is what my life had come to, this is what I had allowed gambling to do to me. Thank god for my mother, she took my card and stood firm, she was my rock and she was one of my biggest supporters. I couldn't let her or my dad down again, this was my chance, this was my path back to living my life with out gambling being a part of it. Slowly I regained my confidence in being able to manage my own finances, it was scary, it was hard to trust myself again but the more distance I got from gambling the more my confidence grew. If I thought I would be tempted, mum got the card back. For example the first new years eve I faced gamble free, I knew I would be tempted because it was an annual gambling binge so mum got the card. The first holidays I had since being gamble free, mum got the card because I knew I would get bored (a big trigger for me) this also forced me to find other activities to fill that time.

Quick access to cash is just a convenience for most people but for a gambler it is a huge problem. Urge hits, get cash, loose cash, feel crap. That was the cycle I was in. By giving up access to quick cash the cycle changed. Urge hits, can't get quick cash, what now?, do I wanna go get cash?, how long will that take?, why do I want to gamble?, what will happen if I do? Urge is gone, feel awesome for not giving in, one more day of being gamble free :D :D

I also remember this one piece of advice that someone on this forum much smarter than myself :p gave me soon after I started my journey and that was -
"Don't say I will never gamble again" this just seems impossible and kinda scary "Simply say, I will not gamble today" very achievable and before you know it one day turns into 2, 2 days turns into a week and then a month and then a year. Just keep stringing those days together.

Stay strong guys, we all deserve a gamble free future.

JinxyWolf

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 12:38 pm
by pamela
hi Jinxy, you have certainly come a long way from your first post.You obviously had great support from your mum,which is huge
I ,too,often quibble over paying $20,or$50 on something..,but never cared about losing all my pay in one sitting
Weird..but it is all about changing the way we think
And i am pretty certain.I won't gamble today, came from me
It has always been my Mantra😃
Its a tough thing to give up,but we are proof that it is possible as long as you work at it
Hope things will start to get better for you in Victoria soon

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 7:18 pm
by JinxyWolf
Thanks Pamela,

Your probably right about the quote, it's been a while since I first saw it but it has always stuck with me and I try to share it with others on the forum when I can because it is so true.

You have always been a great source of information and support during my journey and I will always be grateful for that.


:D JinxyWolf

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Wed Sep 30, 2020 10:32 am
by pamela
You're welcome..I am just so grateful I got off that gambling merrygoround and have started living again,
I want everyone to be gamble free Unencumbered by the chains of gambling

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:21 pm
by JinxyWolf
Hi my Peeps,

Hope we are all going well and still on the wagon and if not there is always room for one more :D :D

Kinda bored tonight again, nothing on TV, so binge watching Elementary :cool: .

3 1/2 years ago when boredom hit I would gamble, so filling these times of boredom was an important step on my journey to becoming gamble free. First it was watching movies, then it was rediscovering my love of art and watching how to videos on Youtube, as you do :p and my art now fills a lot of my time when I'm not working. I have actually had a couple of pet commissions for customers which is pretty exciting. Got another one from my aunty of her daughters dog for Christmas so just about to start working on it.

So kill that boredom, rediscover old passions and keep that demon off your back for good.

JinxyWolf

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Wed Oct 14, 2020 11:28 pm
by pamela
Jinxy you have certainly come a long way..its amazing how much better life is when we get off that merrygoround..
Enjoy your art,its a special talent.one I wish I had
Keep safe during these unusual times

Re: 12 Months of Freedom..And Lovin' Every Minute

Posted: Mon Oct 19, 2020 11:05 am
by Calvin (facilitator)
Amazing work @JinxyWolf , love hearing about your journey.

That is a great mantra to use @pamela ! :D