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    FamilyFirst
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Tue Feb 13, 2018 10:10 pm

    Greetings Everyone!

    Been a while since I posted on here, I still read posts a couple times a week though.

    I guess life has taken over, so trying to find any spare time to do anything is a challenge.. Its a wonder how i managed to ever get time to go sit in a casino or venue for hours on end...

    I'm still enjoying life without gambling. It will be 1 year next week!! I admit that I too have began playing three of the free pokie apps on my phone in the last 3 or 4 months. I have not had any thoughts of beginning to play the real ones at all again, I am still not able to access any money anyway so for me its a little bit of a treat for my downtime, when I'm home having a coffee and a smoke at night once the kids are asleep.

    I began my abstinence last February, in fact just thinking about it now it was a year ago today my partner did a bit of snooping around and found my bank statement and I was kicked out of my house. I'd spent over 24k in 13 days in my latest binge... A day i never want to happen again :(
    So there I was sleeping in on a mates floor for a couple nights and in my swag next to my car in a park for the next few. Washing myself in the sink of the local oval's toilets and all the time i never had any intention of quitting pokies, just tried to tell myself I'll just limit it to $50 a week and she'll take me back...

    Well she did take me back on the 19th of Feb, upon arriving home she handed me a letter and once I read it and wiped the tears from my eyes I felt an overwhelming sense of clarity and knew what I had to do. Right then and there I pledged to quit gambling for good. I've never looked back.

    She wanted me to write a letter for her, I told her I would, I didn't write a letter I started this topic on the forum hence the name 'To The One's I Love'. I don't think she has read it yet, she may have but I'm going to show it to her on my 1 year anniversary anyway. :o

    For those who are doing it tough right now, please take care and please try to remember that the one person that can truly help you though this is you ;) if that inner voice is nagging you to gamble you have to fight that urge and arm yourself with as many tools and distractions as possible. Cut up your cards and set no cash advances, in my case the missus has total control of all money. Tell family, tell friends, hell, I tell 'old Joe blogs' down the shops I'm nearly a year clean and it makes me feel so good. All the support you can get helps so much, building up our self confidence again is crucial in keeping on track.

    One day at a time, I will not gamble today.

    Thanks everyone,
    Cheers, Lee
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    JinxyWolf
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Tue Feb 13, 2018 10:17 pm

    Hey Lee,

    Great to hear from you. I too have been a bit lax in posting on the forum, too much living to do. I hit my 1 year mark on Thursday, can hardly contain my excitement. I even walked into a venue today and walked straight past those demons in the pokie room no urge to repeat the behaviour I fought so hard to stop.

    I look forward to celebrating our one year anniversaries.

    Be well

    JinxyWolf
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    DFP
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Tue Feb 13, 2018 11:20 pm

    Congratulations to you both - very inspiring!
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    pamela
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:26 am

    Well done Lee.a great story with a great ending
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    Suzy2
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Sun Jul 22, 2018 8:40 pm

    So wonderful to read you are still doing well!! So pleased for you and your family!
    Unfortunately after 3 months gf I lost my way again and have continued to live in hell!!
    Im Day 2 and feeling positive and hopeful! Like an alcoholic who cannot have one drink, I am a compulsive gambler who cannot afford to have one push on a poker machine!!! Wouldn't you think that losing a home would have stopped such behaviour? It didn't and I have continued to throw more and more money away!!

    Here's hoping for better days!

    Suzy2
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    FamilyFirst
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Mon Jul 30, 2018 11:24 pm

    Hey everyone
    Thanks for the kind words and further encouragement :cool:

    Hey Suzy2,
    Sorry to hear about your latest slip up, your back posting on here straight away so that's always a good thing.
    I don't know what to say really except maybe try not to dwell on your past mistakes and losses and just focus on your future because let's face it, its a pretty bleak future for all of us if we continue to gamble.
    My way of giving up gambling is just to busy myself with new hobbies and I have my family to lose if I choose to gamble again....

    I still play a couple of free slot apps on my phone but it has never made me feel like going out to the real ones. It's a reminder that if I can't even win on a phone app. pokie how do i expect to win on the real ones...

    Anyway, I'm brewing heaps of beer now, reading heaps of books still, seeing a lot more of my family, still working full time and generally loving my current situation in life. Still broke... but we haven't got money owing anymore :cool: and still saving a little away.

    Hope this finds a few of my old friends in good times ;)
    Cheers, Lee
    17months Gamble Free
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    JinxyWolf
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Thu Aug 02, 2018 8:52 pm

    Hey Lee,

    Great to hear from you, even better knowing that you are still gamble free and enjoying life and your family.

    Heading for 18 months myself and I know you are not far behind.

    I too have found new hobbies to occupy my time, sketching and graphic design being the ones I spend most of my time on. Sometimes I wonder how I ever found time to gamble or the money for that matter. I always seem to be busy doing other things, as for money, there is always another bill around the corner but I'm still managing to save a little here and there. I will say this I'm glad I stopped when I did, I'm 100% sure that if I hadn't I would have lost my home by now.

    So here's to living and loving life........ :cool: :cool: :cool: :cool:

    JinxyWolf
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    FamilyFirst
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Wed Aug 15, 2018 11:53 pm

    Cheers Jinxy,
    Are you still playing much golf?
    I just scored some clubs from my grandparents so it's got me keen to go out for a hit again.
    Haven't been in like 13 or so years... Got pretty good there for a while, when I was a baker.
    I used to knock off at lunch time after an early start and had all afternoon to play at my local course just down the road. Got a hole in one once!
    Anyway, I've got a mate not far from me and there is a cheap course not far from us both so it may be a new addiction forming... :cool:
    Take care all.
    Cheers, Lee
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    JinxyWolf
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Sun Aug 19, 2018 8:57 pm

    Hey Lee,

    Not playing so much at the moment. Too Wet, I'm a fair weather golfer :p . I'm actually paying off a new set of irons right now, not much more to go so I'm looking forward to getting back out there and having a swing. Great game, frustrating, but fun.

    Now that's on my bucket list, getting a hole in one, have come close but alas it wasn't to be. Came runner up in the B grade club championships in May this year so hoping next year I can do one better. I'm sure the new clubs will help :cool: :cool:

    So here's to getting back out there and having some fun :cool: :cool: :cool:

    Take care

    JinxyWolf
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    alexd1
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    Re: To The One's I Love

    Sat Sep 08, 2018 11:13 pm

    Lee,

    I’ve spent the last 30min or so reading all the posts on your blog and can’t express how much you have inspired me to stop gambling!

    I maight post up my own blog to see if I can get lovely support like you have for over a year. I need the help! I’ve been to the dam pokies 4 tines this week and its only Saturday!

    Keep up the good work brother! And remember!

    Every dollar lost gambling is another dollar stolen from your family's future!
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