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    For people making and maintaining change in their gambling. Connect, ask questions, offer advice, and share your story in here. If you are new to the site drop in and say hello!
    Hello3 [facilitator]
    Community Manager
    Posts: 82
    Joined: Thu May 21, 2020 8:49 am

    Re: can I see the light

    Thu Jan 28, 2021 2:12 pm

    Hi @pamela thanks for sharing with us, I can only imagine how significant this change is for you.

    You are so right on how we can change how we react to situations and reflect on what's important in life.

    Self-care is also key during these times.

    Keep fighting, keep going and I will happily join you in making lemonade! :);
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    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1922
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: can I see the light

    Thu Jan 28, 2021 8:34 pm

    Thankyou
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    pamela
    Senior Member
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    Re: can I see the light

    Thu Feb 18, 2021 8:32 am

    I have just suffered a massive loss..the passing of my partner of 18 +years..
    This was after a very short illness so it has come as a real shock.
    I was talking to my counsellor and I was saying how easy it would be to loose myself at a pokies venue where nothing mattered.
    Bright lights ,music,anonymous faces..
    I have no intention of going,but it is easy to understand why we do/did it.
    Life can be and is really tough at times,but we can face these issues without gambling.
    I am proud of the fact that although that feeling of numbness you get while sitting in front of a machine-guns appealing right now.I know I am strong enough now to acknowledge the thought but not act on it
    Now I just need to concentrate on healing my heart and preparing for my future without my partner and without gambling
    Don't give up the good fight
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    Hello3 [facilitator]
    Community Manager
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    Re: can I see the light

    Thu Feb 18, 2021 9:06 am

    HI @pamela I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your partner of 18+ years, I honestly can't even imagine what you must be going through. I can see that even in the face of heartache and adversity your resilience is incredibly inspiring and your will power is strong. What are some things you can do to look after yourself today? We're here for you.
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    Damaged_Armour
    Member
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    Joined: Tue Dec 29, 2020 3:17 pm

    Re: can I see the light

    Thu Feb 18, 2021 6:09 pm

    Sorry about your partner Pamela. Sounds like you've got it sorted. Stick to the plan and stay on top.
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    There's No such thing as "Just Once"

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    pamela
    Senior Member
    Posts: 1922
    Joined: Sun Jun 29, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: can I see the light

    Thu Feb 18, 2021 9:05 pm

    Thankyou..I have just kept myself busy..no time to think..and yes I am much stronger now than I was 5 years ago
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    FamilyFirst
    Senior Member
    Posts: 192
    Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 7:38 pm

    Re: can I see the light

    Fri Feb 19, 2021 11:43 pm

    Hi Pam,
    I'm so sorry to hear about your sudden loss.

    Life can be so cruel to us sometimes. Remain strong and you'll pull through, your a strong woman Pam.

    Lee. xxxx
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    JinxyWolf
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    Joined: Wed Feb 15, 2017 8:51 pm

    Re: can I see the light

    Sat Feb 20, 2021 5:37 pm

    Hi Pam,

    My condolences on your loss.

    Know that we are all here for you in this difficult time, we have your back.

    JinxyWolf
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    pamela
    Senior Member
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    Re: can I see the light

    Wed Feb 24, 2021 9:08 am

    Thankyou for your kind words.
    When this happened ,I realised just how far I have come.
    And for all of us.
    I thought at first ,how easy it would be to sit with my grief in front of a poker machine and lose myself in the noise and anonymity.
    It was a thought, not an urge.
    But of course I didn't....there are other ways ..my place has never been so clean..
    Don't give up the good fight..
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