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Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Thu May 30, 2019 9:41 pm
by jessm86
Hi all, I'm Jess. I am 32 and have had a gambling problem for the last 12 years.
Today is day 0
I have, last November, self excluded myself from 90% of venues within 100km of where I live. Since self excluding I went 2 months gamble free, until I was on holidays and all that work went out the window when I visited the casino. since then I have been gambling online whenever I get an urge.
It is now time for me to get real, get back on track and commit to being gamble free.
I find it really helpful reading other stories/journeys, It's nice to know I'm not alone.
So here is to day 1 tomorrow, committing to get my life back and be honest along the way even if I do relapse.

Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Sat Jun 01, 2019 8:01 pm
by Calvin (facilitator)
hello Jess

I'm Calvin, one of the facilitators here on the GH forums.

Good on you for reaching out for some support. I noticed you have a similar post in a separate thread.

2 months is a big accomplishment in itself and its great to hear that you are willing to give it another go. Sometimes we can really pressure ourselves to not slip up or to change things perfectly, but the truth is, sometimes there are bumps along the way and that is fine.

How has the counselling been going for you ? Are you still continuing this?

Have you tried using the 100 day challenge app? This could be helpful to closely monitor your progress and also to provide you with tips/suggestions along the way.

Kind regards,


Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Sat Jun 01, 2019 9:29 pm
by jessm86
Hi Calvin,
Thanks for the reply
I haven't seen a counselor for a couple of months now, the one I was seeing was over an hour away, but she has referred me to someone else locally and I see him for the first time on Monday.
I did not know that there was a 100day app, but I will definitely have a look at it.
I live in country NSW and because of my self exclusions it is quite easy for me to not gamble when I am home. I sometimes have to travel into the city for meeting with work. They put me up in a hotel and this is when I really struggle to not hit the clubs as I am there all by myself with nothing to do and know there are endless venues within a short distance.
I am hoping my counselor can give me some strategies to help with this. I am also interested in hearing any suggestions on here.

Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Sat Jun 01, 2019 10:24 pm
by Calvin (facilitator)
Hey @jessm86

Good to hear that you're linked in with a counsellor in a closer location.

Remember the more you give into the gambling habit, the more power it will have over you. The power you have, is the power of CHOICE, you have the choice on how to respond or react to certain triggers or urges that you experience.
At this point in time think of some 'What if' questions and try to say them out loud..for example: "What if I do end up staying at the hotel for work and i get tempted to gamble like the other times?" then "What will I do then?". This give you a chance to reflect and think about this scenario so that you can spot it more easily if and/or when it arises.
This allows you to think of strategies or things you can do to overcome this particular urge. Think of hobbies or other activities you get joy out of doing.

Most of all, try to practice patience with yourself, set reasonable and realistic goals, but most all be be kind to yourself. :)

Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Mon Jun 03, 2019 7:54 pm
by jessm86
Today I seen my new counselor for the first time and he is great! he spent 2 hours with me and I just had 1 light bulb moment after the other.
He has also encouraged me to be active on sites just like this one. As I live out in the country there are no GA meetings out here for me to attend.
Feeling really empowered at the moment and feel I have gained a few tools to help me fight that little sh*t in my head who wants me to gamble.
For anyone reading this who doesn't have a counselor, contact someone from this site and they will put you in contact with someone who can help. It may be our choice to stop gambling but that doesn't mean we have to do it alone.

Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Tue Jun 04, 2019 10:54 am
by Calvin (facilitator)
So good to hear that you're finding the counsellor and the forums helpful @jessm86 !

Loving the motivation! keep it up :)

Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Fri Jun 07, 2019 8:54 pm
by jessm86
Hi all. Just thought I would post an update.
Today is day 5 and to be honest I am feeling quite good.
I was really worried about day 3, as day 3 was pay day. But I am happy to say that all my bills are paid and I still have money left over!
Just taking one day at a time. My thoughts still wonder to gambling but I am doing my best to remind myself of all the things I could lose if I give into temptation.
On advise from my counselor I purchased a copy of Russell Brand's book "recovery"
Has anyone else read it? if so did you find it helpful?
Jess xx

Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Sat Jun 08, 2019 8:42 am
by Mona58
Well done Jess!

Stay Strong!


Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Sat Jun 08, 2019 12:20 pm
by dragon007 (facilitator)
Well done @jessm86

Takes a lot of courage and strength!

Re: Jess' 100 Day Challenge

Posted: Mon Jun 10, 2019 9:56 pm
by jessm86
Today marks 8 days :D
The last two days I have struggles with anxiety, it seams to hit me when I least expect it.
But I am doing my best to rechannel my thoughts.
I have spent a lot of time this week thinking about what it is I want to change, the benefits of changing and what is stopping me from making these changes.
Reality is there is absolutely nothing stopping me! nothing, except me.