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    want2befree
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Sat Jan 05, 2019 6:39 pm

    Newbie and ready to break this habit

    Sat Jan 05, 2019 7:02 pm

    Today I signed up for this forum, I do not want to cut back on how much I gamble I just want to stop. I have tried different things such as giving people my cards so I don’t get tempted, but I always find a way, when you get the urge it’s easy to just walk into the bank and withdraw money. I plan how I’m going to get my money and think about the money i have lost by gambling and am addicted to chasing it back. I have hit rock bottom. I am a single mum and I work 2 jobs, sometimes up to 60hrs a week. I don’t have any debt and don’t owe people money but find that I could be working less and saving more if I beat my habit. I pay my bills but find any extra money I just put it through the pokies. I have so much guilt doing this, I chase what I have lost and when I do win I just put it back in as I want more. I hate the fact that I could be working less and spending more time with my kids if only I could break the habit. The pokies for me is an escape from the busy, stressful world, where I hope to win big and can give my family the life they deserve. Reality is I’m not going to get rich playing the pokies, I just need to have the strength to stop.
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    BrittV (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 319
    Joined: Mon May 14, 2018 11:40 am

    Re: Newbie and ready to break this habit

    Mon Jan 07, 2019 7:52 am

    Hi want2befree, welcome to the forums.

    Well done on coming here, sharing your story and making steps to change.

    There are many in our community with similar stories, triggers and urges to you, and I'm sure they will be able to support you and give you some ideas of things which help.

    I look forward to reading about your journey.

    BrittV, community manager
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    Mona80
    Junior Member
    Posts: 1
    Joined: Mon Jan 07, 2019 1:13 pm

    Re: Newbie and ready to break this habit

    Mon Jan 07, 2019 1:17 pm

    Hi there
    I have been doing this all my life and never won bigger enough to stop
    On the weekend I win 7000 and put it all back
    It never forget
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    Soz501
    Junior Member
    Posts: 2
    Joined: Fri Jan 11, 2019 4:29 pm

    Re: Newbie and ready to break this habit

    Fri Jan 11, 2019 4:44 pm

    Hi I am a newbie too and looking for support. Just can’t do this anymore and don’t want to buy can’t stop. Compulsive poker machine player. Lying to husband feel so bad.
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    How the F did I get here
    Senior Member
    Posts: 248
    Joined: Sun Apr 08, 2018 11:05 pm

    Re: Newbie and ready to break this habit

    Mon Jan 14, 2019 12:29 am

    Hi Want to be free,

    I get depressed thinking of the round the world trips I could have taken my kid on.

    Anyway you are in the right place, I hope we can both do it, for ourselves but more importantly for our kids.
    Good luck and all the best!!
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    Calvin (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 307
    Joined: Tue Mar 27, 2018 4:01 pm

    Re: Newbie and ready to break this habit

    Tue Jan 29, 2019 12:07 pm

    Hello @want2befree ,
    Thankyou for sharing your experience. I can imagine this to be quite stressful for you at the moment.

    Acceptance is key when wanting to change our gambling habits.
    Accepting that gambling is not a source for income. Accepting that what money is spent will remain spent.
    We can only look forward and put strategies in place to eventually stop the habit. This can require lots of patience.
    Try to get back in touch with things you enjoy and things that can help relieve daily stresses.

    Remember that we don't have the power to erase gambling from the world, but we do have the power of choice. Also the power of how we respond or react to gambling urges that may come about.

    Good on you again for reaching out !

    Kind regards,

    Calvin.
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