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    Pamby
    Junior Member
    Posts: 22
    Joined: Mon Sep 03, 2018 11:43 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Mon Oct 29, 2018 4:50 pm

    Keep striding ahead..no looking back..you are doing a great job
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    Jc
    Senior Member
    Posts: 130
    Joined: Mon Sep 07, 2015 5:13 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Fri Nov 02, 2018 9:27 pm

    Day 188...
    Life has been so much better these last 6 months. It makes me a tad sad knowing how much of my life I’ve missed out on because of gambling. But you cannot look back only forward...

    A part of me still a tad scared though. Scared of the concept of ‘forever’. How many times have we said ‘I’m never betting again’ only to break our own oaths the very next week...as Gambler’s Anonymous say ‘a day at a time’. Today I’m not going to bet. Because ‘forever’ really is a daunting concept, especially to those of us that loved a punt. It became a part of our livelihood. I’m sure many of us started off enjoying gambling, until the addictive behaviours kicked in. And then we’d spiral out of control. Sometimes I face this like impending doom - like it hits me so hard ‘I’m never going to be able to bet again’. Never. Like not even $10 on a Melbourne Cup horse or a slap at the casino. Like I’m never going go to be able to do that, and its a bit overwhelming. Gamblers Anonymous say ‘one bet is too much and a thousand bets are not enough’. That first bet you make may seem harmless, but it’ll set off the gambling spark that will make me lose control.


    Some days I really feel it. Some days I don’t.
    Have a great weekend folks.
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    dragon007 (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 173
    Joined: Sun Mar 18, 2018 10:07 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Sun Nov 04, 2018 10:53 am

    Hi JC77

    Congratulations on today!

    I think your insights into your gambling thoughts are so important in remaining GF.
    It really is about being focused on today and doing the best you can.
    Take a moment and really try to think of things you are doing or would like to do and keep that in focus.

    Remember, you control what you think about.

    Well done.

    dragon007
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    Jc
    Senior Member
    Posts: 130
    Joined: Mon Sep 07, 2015 5:13 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Tue Nov 06, 2018 8:20 pm

    I never bet on horse racing. Except Melbourne Cup day...

    Today was the first time in like ten years I went gamble free. I have to say I felt like crap.

    What really helps me these last few months is my gym regimen. I exercise and lift a lot and really heavy...not for everyone but its extremely therapeutic for me.
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    dragon007 (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 173
    Joined: Sun Mar 18, 2018 10:07 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Sun Nov 11, 2018 10:54 am

    Hi JC

    I have posted these strategies before in the forum, you might find them helpful.

    * put up as many barriers as you can to stop gambling
    1. set up automatic payments to pay for all your bills - utilities, insurance, rent, loans, grocery cards, etc, pay for petrol ASAP. The less cash you have, the less temptation, the less you can lose.
    2. get rid of any credit cards.
    3. close all gambling accounts.
    4. self exclude yourself from gaming venues, TABS. etc.
    5. delete all gambling accounts on your devices and install banning software.
    6. join a support group - Gamblers Anonymous, Smart Recovery Australia.
    7. speak to a Financial Counsellor - National Debt Helpline - 1800007007
    8. speak to a Telephone Counsellor on Gambling Helpline - 1800 858 858 it is a 24/7 telephone counselling service, it is confidential and anonymous. Because it is 24/7, we can help you get through any though times you are feeling at the moment, help try to get you past that urge to gamble.
    9. create your own First Aid Kit to help you take your mind away from gambling thoughts and urges. Use your senses - listen to music, watch your favourite movie or cat youtube video, smell something nice, eat some nice food or drink, move - exercise, walk, dance; get a massage, call Gambling Helpline, do anything get your mind off the gambling thought, don't try wrestling with it, it is exhausting, best to leave it alone, don't give it any energy by engaging with it.
    10. see a face to face counsellor and talk about your motivations for gambling - (financial, boredom, stress relief, loneliness, excitement, entertainment, etc) and find ways to replace what gambling does for you.
    11. and throw everything at it, sometimes one strategy may or may not work, so the more strategies you have in place, the better chance you will have to get through the moment.

    I hope this helps, keep trying, be nice to yourself and be patient, it takes time.

    Regards
    dragon007
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    Jc
    Senior Member
    Posts: 130
    Joined: Mon Sep 07, 2015 5:13 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Mon Nov 12, 2018 5:06 pm

    Thanks Dragon.

    I’m on to Day 198 today...I’ve been struggling but I haven’t caved.
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    Under the rug
    Member
    Posts: 36
    Joined: Sun May 06, 2018 6:09 pm

    Re: My Last Day One

    Mon Nov 12, 2018 8:17 pm

    Congrats JC. Good to hear you are doing well. I read your previous post and I’ve had the same emotions all of the last week that has just went.

    I even woke up sweating on Friday night after a dream. Walked myself to a machine, put the note in and cashed straight back out.

    Thank god it was just a dream because I’m not sure if I would have wanted to leave if it wasn’t. Melbourne cup sweep at work, I was asked if I wanted to participate. I was never into horses, or the TAB so it didn’t interest me but it was still gambling. I declined and stuck to my guns.

    Day 196 gamble free. Thanks for the motivation JC.
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    Jc
    Senior Member
    Posts: 130
    Joined: Mon Sep 07, 2015 5:13 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Tue Nov 13, 2018 2:43 pm

    Hey Dan, great to see you’re doing well. Its so hard though. I still think about gambling - almost every day.

    Over time it gets easier just to ignore these thoughts...but they’re still there. Which is pretty sad if you think about it.
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    Jc
    Senior Member
    Posts: 130
    Joined: Mon Sep 07, 2015 5:13 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Thu Nov 15, 2018 4:36 pm

    Today I almost relapsed.

    Like I went closer than any other time. I would’ve ‘won’ the bet but lost the battle...

    I had to really calm down after work. Head out, sat down and had a coffee. Bought a ps4 game with the money I wouldve bet.

    The problem is, its an itch that needs to be scratched. Now I know everyoe here talks about substituting activities so instead of gambling, taking a walk, or reading or some other stuff. But that doesn’t ‘scratch the itch’.

    I have no idea what the hell to do anymore. I can’t keep living with this thing on my mind 24/7.

    ??
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    dragon007 (facilitator)
    Senior Member
    Posts: 173
    Joined: Sun Mar 18, 2018 10:07 am

    Re: My Last Day One

    Thu Nov 15, 2018 8:18 pm

    Hi JC

    I don't know if itches need to be scratched, they just fade over time and disappear.

    Give us a call on 1800 858 858 we are here 24/7 and let us help ignore this itch.

    dragon007
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