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Hopeful_1
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Re: Here goes everything...

Sun Nov 11, 2018 7:32 pm

That's such great news to hear!

It honestly warms my heart that you've been as strong as you have been so far and have been able to get the car sorted.

If I'm going to be honest, I may as well confess that I stumbled today :(

The whole way there my heart was racing. I kept telling myself I wasn't going to gamble and that I would just sit next to my husband whilst he did.

That was a mistake and you know how it ends.

Trying not to beat myself up about it too much.

Day 1 for me again tomorrow.

Well done on staying true to your pledge so far. You should be proud.
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Crtny_b
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Re: Here goes everything...

Sun Nov 11, 2018 12:20 pm

Wow it’s insane reading another persons perspective and experience when it is identical to your own. We will support eachother here.

It’s sunday and we haven’t stepped foot near a pub. I’m thanking the lord. Yesterday I was able to take my car to the mechanic and it cost $600. New tyres new breaks and a major service. I was lucky because my car was playing up and my partner and I kept avoiding taking it to the shop because one, we never had money by Saturday and two if we did we subconsciously didn’t want to spend it so we had it there to gamble.

I have had many thoughts over the last 5-6 days about why we gamble and how much training of the mind is required to beat this. I don’t want to be a tortured and tormented soul later in life filled with resentment and misery. I want to be strong and feel accomplished and unfortunately someone who had a gambling problem at one point in their life.

Remember to keep in mind how unsatisfying any wins even are these days. Gambling is tarnished because of the lack of control we have and therefore is not worth a single dollar that we possess.

Keep in touch. Stay focused. We can do this!
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Hopeful_1
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Re: Here goes everything...

Sat Nov 10, 2018 10:35 pm

Well done on going shopping instead of wasting it on the machines and also for being 5 days gamble free.

They say it gets easier with time

I'm on day 3 but feels like day 300 coz it's the weekend and I have been so tempted to just go and "unwind" for a bit.. knowing damn well it will end bad and I will be angry and sad and miserable again

I am with you on the blame game and how it affects the relationship. When you win, it's all smiles and hi 5's.. but when you lose.. the drive home is usually quiet if not filled with anger and slight panic about what to do until the next pay hits the account.

Would be nice to be free from all that and maybe work on building the relationship back up again

How are you going over the weekend?

You don't need luck - you got this ;) just ride out the urges and I'll do the same. Hope we can check in on Monday with good news *fingers crossed
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Crtny_b
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Re: Here goes everything...

Fri Nov 09, 2018 11:26 am

I know that feeling. Everytime is a blame game with me and my partner. I started to feel like he only likes me when I win when we’re gambling together. It is a terrible thing to do with your partner because it creates so much resentment and blame and an overall stale relationship.


He got paid last night and we went to the gym and the shops an I bought some new work shoes which is small but honestly I haven’t done that because we are always so short on money. I am so thankful. I am so happy. I feel so good today.

5 days gamble free and I feel good. The weekend will be testing. Wish us luck
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Hopeful_1
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Re: Here goes everything...

Thu Nov 08, 2018 8:16 pm

It always helps to have the partner on board.

Mine is somewhat in denial and blames me for being the "ringleader" which is tough at times but he is supportive of me getting help which is good I guess

Today was my first gamble free day for a while and it felt good not to have that ugly feeling in my gut after losing all the money

I am looking forward to many more days like this.. trying to picture my life in the future when I'm no longer gambling and can have some money sitting in the bank for emergencies and small luxuries.

It seems so far away, but I got to start somewhere, right?
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Crtny_b
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Re: Here goes everything...

Thu Nov 08, 2018 12:04 pm

Hello

I was just thinking the same thing whilst reading your comments. It’s great to have a place to vent and people to talk to experiencing the same problems. We can help eachother. I want to be firm on myself and really make this a very serious attempt. My partner seems to be on board so I really am placing everything on the line here.
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Hopeful_1
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Re: Here goes everything...

Wed Nov 07, 2018 8:16 pm

good on you. How have you been so far?
I am pledging the 100 days starting tomorrow 8th November. I gambled today or else I would start today.
Would love to take this journey with you.
My husband and I also gamble a lot and he sounds very similar to yours in that he doesn't like to talk and hates thinking about the money lost etc.
Hope we can help each other through this.
There is so much great support on here though so coming back to read through comments and replies helps.
All the best with your 100 days. Keep us posted please :)
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pamela
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Re: Here goes everything...

Wed Nov 07, 2018 8:51 am

It helps to have plans that will take the concentration off gambling..keeping your mind busy always helps..keep focused and dont think too far ahead just one gamble free day at a time ..
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Crtny_b
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Re: Here goes everything...

Tue Nov 06, 2018 7:59 pm

Still gamble free. But again I’ve onlt had approx. $200 accessible to me and not paid u til Thursday. I feel strong that I will not gamble on Thursday or Friday and plan on keeping very busy on Saturday and Sunday. I find if I make promises or commitments and plans with family members it holds me accountable to engage in activities with them. Fingers crossed. I hope all are staying strong and feeling ok. Thanks
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pamela
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Re: Here goes everything...

Tue Nov 06, 2018 8:45 am

Good luck with your challenge..making the decision to stop is a great beginning..
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