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    Daizy
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    Joined: Wed Sep 14, 2022 3:13 pm

    Partner of a gambler

    Wed Sep 14, 2022 3:26 pm

    Hi all,

    My partner has been gambling on and off for many years. He has had counselling previously. We have two children together aged 11 and 14. Over the last 2 months the gambling has escalated to the point where partner is using wages and taking loans just to gamble. This is caused a lot of problems financially for family. I am very worried about the future and paying rent+buying food for my family.

    Please help,
    Daizy
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    Pikachu
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    Joined: Wed Jun 08, 2022 3:48 pm

    Re: Partner of a gambler

    Wed Sep 14, 2022 5:24 pm

    Hi @Daizy,
    Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story with us.
    I am a forum facilitator here along with @Printemps.

    Im sorry to hear what you are going through. It must be very hard to take care of two children and worried about things that might happened or happening. I understand you will do everything to try help your partner but when it comes to make the change, it needs to come from your partner. It's will be difficult to maintain the change if the person doesn't want to change. In my opinion, you can try to have a conversation with your partner about your concerns and feelings. This website has some tips on how to make a conversation: https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/he ... nversation. Tho it's about people who have substance use, the techniques are transferable.
    In situation like this, it is important to take care of yourself and get some support if you need. Please don't hesitate if you would like some resources about support for yourself.
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    Daizy
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    Joined: Wed Sep 14, 2022 3:13 pm

    Re: Partner of a gambler

    Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:28 pm

    Hi,

    Thank you for responding. It is with grave sadness a heavy heart that I have accepted I'm no longer able to continue in this relationship.I have applied for separation under 1 roof with Centrelink at the moment (as partner is saying unable to afford moving out) but this is yet to be fully processed by their assessment team. Was wondering if any financial advice support is available to me? One concern is that partner is constantly borrowing money from places like cash converters and I don't want to nor can afford be held responsible for these gambling debts.

    Appreciate any advice
    Daizy
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    Pikachu
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    Posts: 239
    Joined: Wed Jun 08, 2022 3:48 pm

    Re: Partner of a gambler

    Tue Oct 04, 2022 8:50 pm

    Hi @Daizy,
    I'm sorry to hear the relationship is not working... It must be a very hard decision to make.. Thank you for sharing that with us here.
    I don't have much knowledge around financial support counselling. My suggestion would be to talk to your local gambling help agency and talk to them about financial counselling. You can find some information about how/where to look for a local agency through this link: https://www.gamblinghelponline.org.au/s ... your-state
    You can also contact the National Debt Helpline for some direction in this situation for some immediate help/advice, https://www.financialcounsellingaustral ... -helpline/.
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    Pokieseveywhere
    Junior Member
    Posts: 4
    Joined: Fri Oct 08, 2021 7:50 am

    Re: Partner of a gambler

    Wed Nov 30, 2022 7:45 am

    Make a complaint to State Govt office that oversees Gambling, they are suppose to ensure venues identify problem gamblers, you may even receive compensation. Go to town on them, it's the only way to get message across, that we need a complete prohibition on gambling
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