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    POPEYE
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    RE: My son gamling

    Mon Jun 23, 2014 7:09 pm

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    SusanM
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    RE: My son gamling

    Tue Jul 08, 2014 8:45 pm

    Hi Maria,

    I have just read this thread and find it very interesting that your son feels so strongly about gambling at his young age, and the idea that it will make him wealthy etc. You have done great work in putting some boundaries around what gambling he can do and with what money. I note that his friends & family are not interested in gambling so much, and I wonder whether he has visited some online casino sites / Sportsbet etc, and believed their sales talk which can be very persuasive!

    I think the advice about getting him engaged in face to face, healthy activities is a good way to go. Also talking with him about financial management strategies like budgeting and saving for a car etc. When he turns 16 yrs he may want to start learning to drive. A part time job may also be something for him to look at. In this way young people learn the responsibilities of working for their money and how to budget it.

    He may be an entrepreneurial spirit as you say, but most entrepreneurs have stories of bankruptcy and lots of hard work before they make it work It is a rare few who get wealthy through high risk activities like gambling.

    Good luck with it all,

    Susan
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    DAISY
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    RE: My son gamling

    Wed Jul 23, 2014 12:21 pm

    Hello I have just joined today in desperation for help/answers - My son (late 30's) has been back living at home for past few years,and he never seems to have any money. He has a responsible job pays well. Doesn't really contribute to the household even when asked. Just of late he has taken a few small things of mine to be pawned and the interest rates OMG . I must admit I only know a bit of this because I have had to snoop. But just last week I think payday he was at the pawnshop again and he had just been paid. I just don't get it. I desperately want him to move out and YES I offered to pay bond and rent - but still he stays. I can't prove that he is gambling but that's all I can put it down to. Anyone any ideas for me. Daisy
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    Noah (facilitator)
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    RE: My son gamling

    Wed Jul 23, 2014 4:43 pm

    Hey Daisy,

    Welcome to our community! I'm Noah one of the forum facilitators.

    It's really tricky being a parent and trying to strike a balance between showing love and support and drawing a line or putting boundaries into place that would protect you and your son. Gamblers Help Services acknowledge that this is challenging territory to navigate. There are free services you could access to give you some ideas on how you could manage this. Is this something you'd be interested in...? If so, feel free to send me a private message, post below or call 1800 858 858 to speak to a counsellor anytime day or night.

    Also wondering if anyone else has been in this situation (on either side) and has any advice for Daisy?

    Stay in touch.. let us know how it goes!

    Noah
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    DAISY
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    RE: My son gamling

    Thu Jul 24, 2014 9:13 am

    Hi Noah - would love some further help ? how do I send private message
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    GameChanger (facilitator)
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    RE: My son gamling

    Thu Jul 24, 2014 1:37 pm

    Hi Daisy, I've sent you a private message which you can see by clicking on 'My Messages' at the top of your screen and then by clicking on 'InBox' which is in the left hand panel.
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    Noah (facilitator)
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    RE: My son gamling

    Tue Jul 29, 2014 11:12 am

    DAISY (24/07/2014)Hi Noah - would love some further help ? how do I send private message
    Hi Daisy, How did you go with seeking the information around counselling services? How's it going with your son? Keep in touch
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