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My friend gambles $200+ every time we go out. How can I help him stop?

Posted: Mon Apr 29, 2019 12:14 pm
by pabloholder
I know its his money, and his choice and that I can't just force someone to stop.

But he is married with kids, and is also addicted to drugs. I really want to convince him to stop gambling, or at least cut back. He spent almost $1000 on pokies recently, and as a good friend of 7 years I feel obligated to help him out.

Any advice?

Re: My friend gambles $200+ every time we go out. How can I help him stop?

Posted: Mon Apr 29, 2019 5:13 pm
by Mona58
Hi Pablo

Just tell him...?? But its' up to him to stop.

Maybe you can suggest going somewhere else?

Re: My friend gambles $200+ every time we go out. How can I help him stop?

Posted: Tue Apr 30, 2019 2:38 pm
by Calvin (facilitator)
Welcome to the forums @pabloholder

I'm Calvin one of the facilitators on the forums
It can be difficult seeing a friend/loved one struggle with a gambling issue.

You're correct in saying that you cannot force anyone to stop gambling. Your friend would have to recognise the gambling as an issue for himself.

As a friend, you can try communicate to him your concerns for his wellbeing, financial situation etc. Even asking open questions so both of you receive some clarity around why he gambles, what exactly he gets out of it. Sometimes there can be some underlying issues that can motivate people to gamble or use drugs/alcohol. At times it can go hand in hand.

Maybe suggest for him to call the Gamblers helpline on 1800 858 858 or even Directline (drug and alcohol counselling service) on 1800 888 236. That way he has external support if he chooses to reach out.

Kind regards,

Calvin