Yesterday I took off my rings
I just discovered this forum today and have been reading other's experiences. Although our stories vary there are many things that I can relate to and has made me all teary. I discovered that my husband had a gambling problem almost a year ago and unfortunately we separated in May.
I thought we could make our marriage work but I am not seeing any significant changes needed for me to take him back. To his credit he has been seeing a Gambling counselor but it's not really enough for me as I just do not trust him at all.
Since we have been separated I have been seeing a gambling counselor, became a member of a place called Flourish and have taken care of my mental health recovery. It's been such a heart breaking journey and I have finally come to a place where my 20 year marriage has to come to an end. Even though I found out the extent of his gambling a year ago, it has been nearly 13 years of dysfunction as he has had quite a few breakdowns. I can say that I was also in denile and noticed more his drinking problem rather then the gambling problem.
At the beginning of the year I could no longer turn a blind eye and once you see something you can't unsee it.
Yesterday was heartbreaking as I took my rings off, yet after a big cry it was okay. Another reason why I chose yesterday to take them off is because my husband returned the house keys to me and that was my reassurance that My rings have a safe place to live. (meaning they wont end up in the hock shop).
I'm glad I found this forum as I haven't really talked to others who have experienced this and I feel my road to healing my heart is sharing my story with those who get it.
Thank you for sharing your stories and that this forum exists