It's my first time posting here and I'm slightly nervous.
My fiancÃ© and I have been together for over 5 years, and he has had a gambling problem for roughly 4 years. When it first started it was with the pokies, and he would spend his whole pay check in one sitting.
Eventually his family and I got him into counciling, which helped for a little while. But he eventually stopped going, then his problem turned from pokies to online casinoss and online betting.
He's tried giving up quite a few times and in November last year he did really well and quit for three months but unfortunately relapsed with an online casino some months later. Since then he has been gambling in secret and only telling me when everything has fallen apart. I've tried different strategies on how to help him but he somehow manages to find his way around everything.
Two weeks ago I gave birth to our first child and last night he sent me a message that he has relapsed again leaving us with no money in our accounts. He said he wanted to leave me and that I deserved better, and that our son deserved better.
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He said he was going to sleep and then pack his stuff and go.
Currently he is still asleep and I don't know how to feel. I love him so much, but I also love our son and I can't put him through this. I want him to change but he doesn't want to seek help which he has directly told me. He knows he has a problem but doesn't want to seek counciling.
I don't know what to do. I love him but if he doesn't want to get help what more can I do? I feel like everything is falling apart.
I'm sorry if this is a rather sparse post. I just can't really be honest with anyone else and I need some advice.