My realisation that my marriage can’t be saved because of gambling

[Jimap]

Hi @Andy thank you and good luck with your journey..you can do this

[Greentree4]

Thank you for sharing Ana. I felt like I was reading my own story. I too cover up for my husband. I make excuses for him. He has gambled a mind boggling amount of money and it seems like he has zero remorse. I wonder if I am being a fool by staying. He didn't care about me or our children. The risks he took with our lives. I am pregnant too. The stress is enormous. I try and to him. He gets angry. He told me he would get help. He hasn't. He has swapped online gambling with playing chess online, for free. I look at him on his phone and it makes me sick. I have to manage everything while he sits there feeling sorry for himself, because he can't gamble. I'm in his way. Should I get out of his way and let him live the life he wants? I seem more disturbed then him. Life goes on for him. I wake up everyday thinking, what's going to happen to us. It's heart breaking. We had the best life. And now it could all disappear in an instant.

[babyshark1]

Hi Greentree4

Welcome to GHO forums, and thanks for sharing. Please continue to use the forums and protect yourself and our kids, seeking professional help- as appropriate alongside the support you receive here.

We welcome you warmly,
babyshark1

[Pikachu]

Hi @Greentree4,
Welcome to the Forums.
I am so sorry to hear how you feel about the situation. It is tough to see someone you care and love like this. The important thing is to take care of yourself. I have included some resources for you in the welcome message we sent you. Please don't hesitate to let us know if there is anytihing we can help you with.

[Pinacle2020]

@Jimap

Thank you for all of your posts in this chat. I can relate so much. It is almost as though you are writing down my thoughts. Gambling has horrible impacts on those around the gambler, whilst the gambler is caught up only in themselves and when they can next gamble. It’s horrible, particularly if you have your own issues (illness, family issues, etc) and are needing emotional support yourself as the gambler doesn’t seem to be able to do this.

[Jimap]

Hi @Pinacle2020 sorry to hear that you are going through something similar to my own journey. Not having gambling in my life now has given me a lot more happiness. I hope that you also can find some happiness in your journey of recovery from this whether you are with or separated from your partner. It’s very sad for our children but I also think my separation has done my children a world of good even though it has taken some time to see this.
You are a strong and brave woman and I am sure your children will see this also…take care