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  • First day to freedom

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    Peter
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    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Fri Apr 17, 2015 11:24 am

    Hi I had a massive challenge last night. I was invited for a couple of beers after work and knowing at that time the only room open at the pub was the pokie room. I thought about saying thanks for the invite but no thanks. I have no friends outside of work so if I say no to these guys all the time they probably just won't bother asking me next time, so I took the challenge of facing my first opportunity to gamble in over 3 weeks. I also thought it would be a good idea to text the misses about my plans to enter the pub. Sure enough pokie room only it was, bought our beers and the boys put on keno. Then they played the pokies. I felt quite nervous in the room at first but watching someone else play the machines was helping me realise the value of money. All that effort at work and this machine takes it off you in seconds. The boys moved around machine after machine and I had my 2 beers and felt proud of myself for not even feeling like playing. As I said to my partner in my text I was only having 2 beers and leave and that's what I did. I managed to socialise and not waste money. I got home just before midnight and my partner was still up probably sweating bullets whilst I was out because there is a lot riding on this no gambling to work out. We had a chat about the pub and she reckons I'm going good so that makes me feel great. Day 23 complete
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    Neve [admin]
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    Joined: Mon Nov 17, 2014 11:52 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Fri Apr 17, 2015 1:54 pm

    Peter that is fantastic. It couldn't have been easy but you did it! A great step forward for you.
    Hope you have a great weekend,
    Neve
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    AnnaB (facilitator)
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    Joined: Wed Oct 24, 2012 1:15 pm

    Re: First day to freedom

    Sun Apr 19, 2015 4:44 pm

    Ditto Neve's comment. That's massive news Peter. I imagine it's good to experience control and for your partner to witness this. Great effort. :D
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    Peter
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    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Fri Apr 24, 2015 2:10 pm

    Thanks ladies I appreciate it.
    Well Wednesday was 4 weeks and after today will be a month of 100% no gambling. Besides my trip to the pub the other night after work I think my biggest achievement has been since I deleted my Sportsbet app I haven't reinstalled it once this month for a sneaky look. I'm so over all the Sportsbet and others with there constant commercials,No wonder gambling is a massive issue in Australia. Anyway keep going everyone we can beat this **** together.
    Peter
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    AnnaB (facilitator)
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    Re: First day to freedom

    Sun Apr 26, 2015 5:48 pm

    Great news Peter!! To echo your words on this cold night..."Anyway keep going everyone we can beat this **** together" :D .
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    Peter
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    Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 9:47 am

    Re: First day to freedom

    Sat May 02, 2015 8:20 pm

    Haha thanks Anna.
    Well what a tough week I've had. I'll get to the important news first, I'm somehow still 100% clean from gambling coming on 6 weeks which after the mental challenges I've had is awesome. I almost lost my job last Monday, I got stood down for 3 days with pay tho because I had a run in with my boss over stupid ****. But my emotions got the better of me because my boss was pointing at me aggressively and I snapped and threatened to break his hand if he pointed at me like that again. They stood me down while HR investigated the incident as threatening someone was a serious matter. I have an outstanding record at work but come within a bees **** of losing my job. During my interview with Hr they asked me do I have any outside issues at home, I didn't think it was in my best interest bringing up my fight with gambling as I thought it would count against me. But when i really think about it over the years I've had a issue with authority so maybe gambling had nothing to do with it. Anyway I'm now on a final written warning for 12 months so it's time to pull my head in. My partner thinks I'm a thug now for what I did and have noticed that her support over the last week has dwindled which scares me to relapse especially when I'm going to the pub tomorrow to watch the fight of the century between Pacman & Money Mayweather. What's your thoughts people.
    Peter
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    AnnaB (facilitator)
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    Re: First day to freedom

    Sun May 03, 2015 5:30 pm

    Hey Peter, indeed what a week you have had... tough++ and NO gambling. I wonder if 6 weeks a go, if we had described what this week has brought and said you wouldn;t gamble - what would you have said??

    Your observation about maybe having an issue with authority sounds important to you...any thoughts on what you might do with this knowledge?

    Also, wondering, I'm always wondering ;) ...what's plan for pub?...apologies you may be there already - in which case let us know how it goes...actually either way keen to hear how you go
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    Peter
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    Re: First day to freedom

    Sun May 03, 2015 11:46 pm

    Hey Anna, firstly I've been drinking all day so excuse my honesty or dribble. Yep as you asked 6 weeks earlier I would of probably spent $600 on Sportsbet doing what I call angry bets( big bets but no study on form) going thru that work stress. I've thought about my actions this week and I reckon I have done something very similar over the years in various jobs. When I was younger I would just quit my job if I had the shits. I recall when I was 6 and my mums new man at the time asked me to pick my clothes up in the bathroom, I had already had them behind my back and quickly showed him and said what do you think these are sausages and sandwiches. He was in the SAS and 6 foot 4 but I didn't care because he was probably only temporary in my life. Turns out he lasted 26 years on and off with us. I regarded him as my dad but over the last 5 years my parents have split (I think my mum thinks she's Elizabeth Taylor) they now both have remarried and haven't really gave me any attention because of there new lifes. I really don't know my real father so I don't know where my temper comes from. Anyway I went to the pub today to watch the fight and can report even tho I went by myself unsupervised, I'm still 100% gamble free which ATM matters the most. Going now I hope i don't regret this post under the weather. Hooroo
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    Peter
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    Re: First day to freedom

    Thu Jul 02, 2015 11:48 pm

    Well today marks 100 days of no gambling on Sportsbet & Pokies etc.
    But I have invested around $400 total on the stock exchange which my partner says is gambling. So I guess I haven't changed in her eyes. Whilst I'm quite happy with my achievements on the Sportsbet side.
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    Keeton
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    Joined: Mon Jun 23, 2014 2:19 pm

    Re: First day to freedom

    Fri Jul 03, 2015 9:02 pm

    Yes you should be proud of yourself. Going even over a fews days is an achievement in itself because most of us go regularly before we find a way to stop. I've been away from them for two weeks which is a big achievement for me because I was going every week. So 100 Days is something to be proud of and well done. I'm sure you have found that life is better without gambling as I have found.

    Best wishes peter,

    Keeton
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