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  • 11 months now

    Chart your progress in working to overcome your gambling concerns and your ongoing recovery. Inspire others & take us all on your road to recovery!
    pamela
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    Re: 11 months now

    Sun Jan 24, 2016 7:54 pm

    Hi Dave..well done on being gamble free for so long.Yes the damage is horific and most of us will be paying off those debts for a long time to come BUT we aren't adding to them and thats the important thing.I am a lot older than you Dave and I have nothing to show for my working career.And now that I don't gamble any more it saddens me where it didn't before BUT I am not gambling so that is a plus and it is nice to be able to buy things ,like food, so as bleak as my finances look my life looks better and that is my reward
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    Elouisa
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    Joined: Sat Sep 19, 2015 7:46 pm

    Re: 11 months now

    Mon Jan 25, 2016 5:28 pm

    Hi Dave congratulations on over 21 months gamble-free. Top effort.
    Yes our time is robbed from us along with our money making a bleak future.
    I'm glad they weren't around when I was young! So many extra years to battle the addiction.
    Thanks for posting and sharing your journey.
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    Suzy1
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    Posts: 187
    Joined: Fri Jul 18, 2014 7:10 pm

    Re: 11 months now

    Tue Jan 26, 2016 4:01 pm

    Almost a whole year! That's fantastic, good on you, it's inspiring to see your success. Thank you for sharing
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    Dave68
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    Joined: Sun Jan 26, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: 11 months now

    Wed Mar 09, 2016 11:10 pm

    Well, exactly a year after the first post in this thread, it's now 23 months. Good news is that putting money into a pokie is now something i just have no inclination towards doing. I've only gone into a venue with a mate once in the last several months as well, and i can happily just watch while he plays...but now with the added rider of just seeing exactly how useless the machines are. An anecdote i mentioned elsewhere when i was last in with him, he was playing a 5-line game Big Red, he had put in his $50 and played it down to next to nothing. Bets one 20c credit, and what do you know, on the V-line he got 5 of a kind with the Big Red. Yep, on a non-active payline.

    Yup.....same old crap. Nothing changes for him, and it took me 15 years of pokie playing to realise that nothing would change for me too if i kept playing them. So since then, i've stayed off them and haven't spent a coin in anger on the pokies.

    I still do play pokies though, and that's on the facebook apps. BUt with mere harmless tokens, and to be honest it's kine of like a throwback to the old Super Mario days of the 80's for me. I enjoy the games, as most of them are the ones i used to lose thousands on, but now i just play with the free tokens, and when i run out, i just stop and wait until another day when i get free credits reloaded. Great for me, as i get to enjoy the games, and pay nothing for them! Would i have done this years ago had they been around? I can't answer that, but for me now, they are the perfect substitute for what was a addiction that cost me probably $250K or more in a lifetime of gambling. That's an exchange i am glad to make.

    Financially, well to be honest i guess being so far in debt that's the hardest thing to overcome. I actually thought giving up would have more of an impact on that side of things. There are small signs, like being ahead in a few bills, no longer getting the late payment phone calls on my credit cards and mortgage, and being able to buy an (old) new car for $1950 cash a month ago, but i still am only whittling down that massive debt slowly. I can only be patient i guess, hope for capital growth on my house, nibble down the credit cards and hopefully at some point get a consolidation loan with my mortgage to smash the lot.

    I am so thankful though that the nexus of gambling with money is broken now for me. I haven't gone into a venue alone for that 23 months, and when i have done so with my still gambling friend it's only to watch, and i can do that...even though when he's losing it is actually boring and disheartening. He knows i don't gamble anymore, and he probably know he needs to stop too. Given how rarely we each go in, maybe he's also cutting back too, which i hope he is. I have to admit some of my most enjoyable experiences in my live were at the casino, especially in that halcyon year of 1999, it all seemed so free and easy, so alluring, and i sometimes won a few hundred. But harsh reality is that i've lost 250K at least, probably more if i include my TAB losses from '86 to '02 as well....the sobering reality of gambling all my adult life from age 18 to age 46 is something that haunts me even now. The waste of money, the foregone opportunities, the property price growth i never availed of by buying in the 90's...it all rankles heavily on me now. Those feelings are hard to shake, they are the harsh lessons and realities of being a long term gambler. Nothing will fix that, only by staying away from gambling can any improvement happen. But as i've said before, it's kind of like trying to bail out the Titanic with a teaspoon. There's a long road to still go before i am in any way back to 'par' as such.
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    Dave68
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    Joined: Sun Jan 26, 2014 9:38 pm

    Re: 11 months now

    Sat Apr 09, 2016 8:10 pm

    Today is 2 years since i played a pokie. Or at least played one where you put money into it. Still am a mile away from getting anywhere near a kind of equilibrium from the ghastly loss of money i foolishly did for 28 years, but i suppose it's a small milestone.

    I did go with a friend today and sat next to his machine watching him bet 30c spins.....but i was almost falling asleep a lot of the time and left after about an hour. They don't really hold interest much with me at all now, which is a great thing. I do play the facebook ones, and they are not too bad, the beauty of those is that i lose all the time on them too but it's just free tokens that i am spending instead of $50 notes aplenty.

    All i can say is that if a person feels that they are losing too much, or are sick of losing and watching their money disappear, just think of how much damage gambling for 28 years will do. It's probably as devastating for me when i think of it now as it was 2 years ago when i said that's enough. It's more than half of my working life, and it has mortally wounded any of the standard hopes and dreams that a regular person would have. I'd have had a house by now for sure, instead of a $200K mortgage, and it's austerity measures all round. Funnily enough, i think most gamblers are very austere with their spending, we tend to bemoan and resent spending anything on any other consumer good, a remarkable contrast with our mindless spending of almost all our money on machines.

    2 years down, 26 to go before i am 'square' as such. So yep, when i am 74 y/o i might be finally able to do something. Geez.....i cannot comprehend the foolishness i exhibited for this unGodly time. But it is what it is. That's just where i am, and there's not much i can do about it apart from staying away.
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    pamela
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    Re: 11 months now

    Sun Apr 10, 2016 7:49 am

    Hi Dave..well done on being gamble free for two years..i , like you, have gambling debts that will linger for a long time but as long as I am not adding to themI will get by..its a pity we didnt come to our senses earlier but those machines take over but you have beaten them Dave so you should be proud of what you have done..I play the on line ones as well but then I think to myself that I havent really kicked the habit because I still play even though I dont spend any money.so soon they are getting the flick too..keep up the good work Dave
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    ang
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    Joined: Thu Feb 11, 2016 7:28 pm

    Re: 11 months now

    Sun Apr 10, 2016 4:12 pm

    hi dave,, congrats for being two years gamble free that is great to achieve that amount of time,, like you i have a large debt to pay back with nothing to show for it ,, i could have had a deposit for a house as i rent but when you are in that zombie like state that the machines turn you into you actually just want to get money to keep on feeding them and the few wins that you have will never get you out of that debt..if i can stick to this challenge and actually get to two years like you i should have made some sort of dent to my debt so no more gambling for me either i want to move forward and it wont be over for me till i have paid off this debt...so good on you dave be proud that you have achieved this
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    Jo-Anne
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    Joined: Fri Feb 12, 2016 10:40 pm

    Re: 11 months now

    Sun Apr 10, 2016 10:13 pm

    Hi Dave....congratulations on 2 years....an amazing achievement.....I'm so happy for you. :) :) :) :)
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