Time to change. High earner, negative assets.

What are some strategies when trying to quit or cut down? What works for you?

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Postby BriM » Mon May 05, 2014 12:24 pm

Hi Daniel1

Sorry, we've taken down your videos - we didn't think they were relevant!

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Postby Addicted to Footytab33 » Wed Mar 12, 2014 2:47 pm

Hi Ansert,

I know how you feel, I am also on a decent income (when I can get work that is) and its insane how we treat money. I am seeing jobs are becoming a lot harder to get and every tom, **** and harry is trying to get into mining with no luck. First thing, like I did, only have one credit card with a $2000 limit or less and throw the rest away.

Try and set up a budget if you can and make sure all your bills are paid first before any gambling takes place, this has worked for me. basically, it should have the following look in order of priority

1) Expenses - mortgage, rent food, bills
2) General Savings for up and coming large expenses (eg insurance)
3) Fixed amount for savings into a high interest account
4) Spare amount for gambling only

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RE: Time to change. High earner, negative assets.

Postby BriM » Tue Aug 20, 2013 10:44 am

Hi Mel

I agree with everything you said in that post. It's always nice to know you're not alone in something, and gambling can be such an isolating exercise, can't it. I'm really glad you've come onto the forum.

What are some of the strategies you've got in place when you get an urge to gamble? And what leads you to gamble in the first place?

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Postby Merle » Mon Aug 19, 2013 5:25 pm

Hi ,

It is horrible being alone in your thoughts with a gambling addiction.

Im hoping to share information/feedback from those who have been through the same thing.


Even if its a kind word, gesture, story, information.


Its a good idea to get support from other people who really know what gambling addiction feels like.


Knowing your not alone is probably one of the most important factors of getting over the addiction too.


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Postby linda3 » Mon Jul 22, 2013 8:28 pm

Hi I am exactly the same. Earn good money but always looking for cash because I have gambled mine away. It makes me feel so ashamed when I think of what others survive on when I waste so much.
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RE: Time to change. High earner, negative assets.

Postby ansert » Thu May 02, 2013 12:25 am

Different people, same stories, how comforting that is xx
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Postby Loui » Wed May 01, 2013 1:18 pm

Hi Anserl

this sounds so typical related to stress and getting out of control. Describes me. I was in it for a week & relapsed 2 days ago. Now trying to kepp back on track.

I like the idea of putting the money into a no-touch twelve month fixed amount at the bank. Doing this every moth with the leftovers before you can get at them.
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Postby Loui » Wed May 01, 2013 1:07 pm

Strange, but when I had lots of money I never gambled probably because the Pokies were in NSW only, not in Vic.

I identify with your story - you still have enough money assets etc left to give you a false sense of security.

Itis like a government who spends, spends,s[ends when things are good in the economy and then finds itself with nothing when the crunch comes. Almost like what has happend in Europe. narrow that thought down to a single household, a single person and the effects are the same.

While you have ENOUGH you will not miss the money, but sounds as if the day is drawing near.



I know because I was wealthy, and it is a big shock to be poor and not able, too old to get back!

Good luck!!
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Postby BriM » Tue Apr 30, 2013 12:48 pm

K1 (30/04/2013)Hi Ansert

While reading your post I found myself saying "oh my gosh that sounds like me". It's really helpful to hear that another person can think and do the exact same things. I also cannot bring myself to tell my husband. I'm not sure how he would react. Like you, I am in charge of the finances and wish that was taken away from me. How does one broach the subject without good reason? We have just finished building a new home and I am hoping now that once the final invoices are paid I will run out of excuses for taking money out of our account. I have been adding costs onto invoices so that the balance can be spent on the pokies. I really hate the darn things but struggle to stay away. No amount of knowing that however much I win it will always 100% of the time go straight back in and I will leave the venue with $0 in hand. I used to watch people with a big win just keep playing until there was nothing left and wonder why they didn't just take it out after the big win. Now that is exactly what I do. I think being on this site and sharing thoughts and ideas will really help me. I hope that you have taken a few steps forward.

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Hey K,

Thanks for your thoughts and welcome to our community We're all here to support each other, so feel free to contribute to as many discussions as you want!

Sorry to hear you're struggling with the secrets - would it be a possibility to talk to your husband about taking over the finances? In the interim, you might be able to have this conversation without talking about the gambling. Just a thought...

Also, you might want to have a look at this topic thread if you haven't already

http://forum.gamblinghelponline.org.au/350/Whats-the-best-way-to-talk-to-someone-you-love-about-your-gambling

Looking forward to hearing from you soon Congrats for taking the first step

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