Chris2 (3/04/2013)Hi everyone its chris here. I havent posted in a while as I have been focussed on putting into practice some of the small goals , practical and emotional in my own recovery from pokies gambling. Its been over four months and going well. As I posted previously I self excluded from my local club which was the best thing I have done. More importantly I set small goals for myself, month to month. My goals initially were to support myself in believing that I can rise above this problem and I broke it down to even smaller goals of not coming down on myself as we do; but rather continually reinforce to myself that each relapse was a just another lesson to make me stronger on my road to recovery. I read alot especially online. I met with a cousellor for eight sessions over three months face to face. This was free and part of a research clinic on gambling at a university. I found this of great help as the conversation was only about my gambling and listening to myself talk helped me get out of my own head. Ofcourse this forum has helped me continue the road to recovery in all its facets.
What did I replace gambling with? Hmm lets see..I began reaching out again to an old friend who I havent seen for a while. This person had there own issues I didnt want to deal with before but I decided to practice a few virtues in my life more like patience, listening and rediscovering what loving oneself and others really means.I placed my focus on relaxing and enjoying the process for a change and learning to love life again in other ways and having a laugh. I have been spending my money (much less of it! than before) on enjoying regular feel good things like massages, and a nice dinner out and dessert. Things like that.
Patience with yourself, replacing gambling with feelgood options that invest in you and put a smile on your face before you sleep at night is what you can do and it does feel good guys! Take care
Hi Chris, so nice to hear from you. Congrats on making it to four months, that's an incredible effort. Yes, I think sometimes when life gets to us we forget how to be good to ourselves. I've found that doing things like yoga, meditation, eating healthily, going out for a really nice meal and hanging out with friends really changes my mindset when I'm feeling a bit blue - I feel like I'm being good to myself Thanks for keeping us updated! Looking forward to seeing you back here soon . Bri