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Gambling has destroyed my life

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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby debsta70 » Mon Aug 21, 2017 11:53 am

Day 13
Havent been on since last week but had a great weekend and going strong

ONE DAY AT A TIME
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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby pamela » Tue Aug 22, 2017 8:19 am

Well done Debsta..the best way to do it IS one day at a time..think of yourself as a non gambler now rather than.a gambler who is trying to stop
Keep up the good work
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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby Miette (facilitator) » Tue Aug 22, 2017 1:38 pm

Well done Debsta! One day at a time!

It is great to hear about what you are planning to do with your savings - sounds motivating to have those goals in place.

Keep us updated!

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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby debsta70 » Fri Aug 25, 2017 1:08 pm

Hooray Day 17,
Went out to dinner last night to a place that has tab/gaming, felt a bit edgy first 20 minutes or so as i could see the machines from where i was sitting.
Had a lovely meal and cappuccino then walked out of there feeling 10 foot tall without entering.
I havent self excluded from anywhere yet and not sure if i will or need to, only time will tell. Working on strong will power and since i go out to dinner alot to places that have pokie machines i feel that going to these places and being able to walk out without playing will make me even stronger.
Worked alot of extra hours this week and looking forward to exciting things to do with my pay next week lol.

ONE DAY AT A TIME XO
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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby jimi68 » Fri Aug 25, 2017 1:39 pm

good one.!!

I think ive done the same sort of thing by looking from outside the venue and noticing how the feelings/thoughts wanted me to go in
(like I did so many times before.)
I then just stood there for ages knowing I don't have to go in even when that little thought pops in.
I just gently push it away and CHOOSE TO TAKE CONTROL.
The urge was only tiny because ive been successfully not gambling for a month now..
and I walked away feeling on top of the world..
I know I don't need to do it anymore....
Be great for you if you can disassociate from the pokies when they are near...
and this experience proves that you can.
I think practicing that attitude that they don't mean anything to you anymore
each time will make you stronger
(as long as you can keep it up)
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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby debsta70 » Fri Aug 25, 2017 3:09 pm

Thanks Jimi,
Yourself and popeye are my favorite 2 guys to read about and listen to, you are both soooo real. Ive laughed and cried at both your posts
Keep em coming

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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby Pea pod » Fri Aug 25, 2017 5:49 pm

Hi debsata well done to you on your days GF. Being in a venue for a meal or coffee is very dangerous for me. It's great you can do it but I have found I have sometimes walked out not gambling and just enjoying a meal but for me after a few drinks the pull becomes to much and I relapse so I have to make the concious effort to avoid them now. You said your not self excluded? I have found it very good to be. It's always the thought of being caught ( which I once was) that's scary and embarrassing. Keep strong debsata and happy Friday. Pea Pod
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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby FamilyFirst » Fri Aug 25, 2017 6:08 pm

Hi Debsta,
Well done on the 17 days GF!
That's a great effort so far, keep thinking how great it will be to spend your hard earned money on the better things in life. I like how you mention that you are looking forward to holidays and such, that's what I'm doing and it's a great motivator to stay GF. :cool:

I've only been to one pub with pokies in the last six months, for lunch with my extended family, but I couldn't see the pokies room. I felt guilty even getting up to go to the toilet... Thinking my family would think I'm trying to have a quick flutter... I'd rather stick to other establishments personally, which sucks cos I love pubs and the casino..

Keep saying no to gambling and it will continue to get easier to brush aside those urges. Well done again and stay strong, one day at a time.
Cheers, Lee
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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby debsta70 » Mon Aug 28, 2017 1:44 pm

Phew day 20,
Struggle town on the weekend but contacted a friend and went to garage sales and Op Shops then out to lunch at a nice cafe.
Been so long since i had done those sort of things and loved every minute. Feeling great today except for Mondayitis at work haha.
I Have a bit of a dilemma mid September as my family and i are taking my dad in a Limosine to Crown Casino for his 90th Birthday.
I cant not go but am a little worried about spending 7 hours there while everyone around me gambles.
As pokies are my only gambling addiction i thought if i feel the need to gamble maybe i could put a few dollars on the wheel or some other type of table game as i know i am very conservative with those types of gambling games. Also i will only have money for lunch and dinner on me plus maybe an extra $30 or so as my partner will have my card.
THOUGHTS PLEASE??
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Re: Gambling has destroyed my life

Postby Jasmine » Mon Aug 28, 2017 2:17 pm

Hello Debsta70,
Glad to hear that you stay strong.
Of course, we are all different but believe me it will not end at the table game. You may stop on the day but it will stimulate your urge badly whichever way it turns out - win or lose. I used to say that to myself all the time...believing in my will power but I always ended up with misery.
Why don't you just enjoy the birthday party, socialising with others (I am sure there must be at least a few people who don't gamble on the day), window shopping at Crown could kill the time too.
Sending love! Stay strong. I am telling you and MYSELF.
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