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Another Person, Same Story

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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby Mona58 » Thu Jun 14, 2018 7:08 pm

Yes keep learning. ... its really NOT worth gambling.

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A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.~Confucius
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby suz-free » Fri Jun 15, 2018 2:32 pm

Keep trying Jst, you can quit with will power - we can do this together. I'm at day 2, so tempted to take a day loan (not for gambling purposes but to see me through until my next pay). I haven't though, just hanging in there, believing & praying for better things to happen. I hate the gambling places for what they have done to people like us. Develop a hate for them too, best to stay away from them & try your hardest not to take out anymore payday loans because deep down, you know you will gamble it & lose. It took me a while to see my patterns, every time I took a loan & gambled it, I lost it so now I'm telling myself "no more". Time for a new day, a new chapter, I'll be praying for you too
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby suz-free » Fri Jun 15, 2018 9:15 pm

I ended up taking a small pay day loan tonight which will come in on Monday. I have too many things I need to pay off in the coming days but I have strictly told myself that I will not gamble this loan, will only be used for some of my payments I owe & emergencies (food, medicine, etc). I am at the point where I am going to be a lot more careful, I've lost my loan too many times so not this time. I still advise you not to take a pay day loan as you would need to be very strict with yourself to not gamble it. Take care friend, have a good weekend. I will write here next week to let you know how I went. Would love to hear how you're going too. Tomorrow is day 3 for me. You can also read my posts, "Day 1, fighting for my freedom" You are welcome to write to me there as well as here or pm me for any support or advice.
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby Jst123 » Mon Jun 18, 2018 11:27 am

I hope it all worked out for you Suzie and you didn't gamble the loan. I tried to take out so many loans last week and was rejected as my finances and everything was just a mess.

I ended up getting caught out on the weekend and had to confess everything, to everyone. I am absolutely shattered. I have been kicked out, no trust from anyone. No money. So much self-pity, whole world just feels like its crumbling down.

People said it would feel like a relief if loved ones knew, but now ive just hurt everyone and lost everything.

Dont even know what to say here.
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby suz-free » Mon Jun 18, 2018 4:02 pm

Jst, I'm so sorry what you've gone through. I'm having a coffee right now by myself at Gloria Jean's & thinking of you. If you were here, I'd shout you a coffee & cake & tell you everything will be ok. I have a partner but definitely looking for friends here to share ideas & help each other out. I had no choice but to stop gambling as my partner & especially my 13 yo son have been very upset on me. If I don't make a change, I could lose them & their trust. My son already said he doesn't trust me anymore as I had taken money out of his account last week and gambled it. I'm so ashamed & felt low so I know how you feel. But I want to tell you, things will get better, no matter how bad they look now. Don't look back friend, throw all the guilt & shame behind your shoulder & look forward. Don't let your mind make you think you are a failure & worthless because you are not, you are a beautiful caring person otherwise you wouldn't have come here. Maybe your family can't see your heart but I can. You will beat this, it will just take a little time. I'm sure if you start now, in a couple of months you'll be feeling great. If you have no where to go right now, eg, no money, no place to stay, call the councellors from here, they'll put you on the right path & give you numbers of who you need to speak with. I was hesitant to call them when I first joined here, but when I finally did call the councellors here, it was a blessing to talk to them, they don't judge you at all. I've called them 3 times so far. Once I called them right outside the pokies in tears, they listen & are there for you.
My day going good, I didn't gamble my loan & about to head to the library.
Let me know of your progress & how you are. I will pray for both of us & all here with the same troubles that we can overcome & live in happiness. Suzy
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby happyfeet » Mon Jun 18, 2018 6:02 pm

Hi JST,

I know everything feels like it’s crumbling down on you right now, but please just remember that you have owned up to it, you’ve told the people around you, and now they can help you on your road to recovery. They will support you, as will we, please just keep fighting. Your battle is still going, and we believe in you.

Take it one day at a time my friend.
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby Mona58 » Mon Jun 18, 2018 6:38 pm

JST...

it may not feel like it right now but the burden of guilt has been lifted...

now the tough road to recovery begins...

It is harder to Climb the mountain than to tumble down

Deal with LIFE one day at a time!

Stay Strong!! You CAN do it and You WILL become a better person for the experience!

Mona
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.~Confucius
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby Cazza » Mon Jun 18, 2018 11:09 pm

Hi, hey hopefully this becomes your new beginning.
Yes it makes you feel like crap and you feel like everyone is against you now. But we have lied, cheated sometimes stolen to get our gambling fix. Our partners and families are angry and don't want to look at us or acknowledge us.

We have broken that trust and now we have to earn it back and we have to show that we are going to earn it back.
If your partner won't talk to you. Write a letter, explain what you are willing to do.
Go to GA meetings, meet with a financial counselor, hand over financial control. Show that you are willing to turn this around.

As Mona said it's a tough road to recovery but it is also achievable . You can do this 😊
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Re: Another Person, Same Story

Postby suz-free » Tue Jun 19, 2018 1:42 pm

Hey Jst,
we're all thinking of you here & hope you're ok. Everyday has enough problems for all so do not worry & think positive, you will get stronger. Peace & love to you.

Suzy at day 6
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