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USELESS !

PostPosted: Mon Apr 24, 2017 4:18 pm
by Brad
This code of confidentiality in certain circumstances will cause more harm than good.
In the situation where the gambler is in denial, and/or where the counsellor of the gambler does not have the truth, or is missing data, or the situation has reached explosion point - this code will actually accelerate the situation to a danger point.
I have tried to get my 'counsellor', as I am the victim, to pass on certain data to her counsellor to no avail - this is ridiculous - we are asking for help - at least I am!

Re: USELESS !

PostPosted: Thu Apr 27, 2017 4:54 pm
by Jerry (facilitator)
I can hear that you are concerned about your partners gambling. It is a huge step for someone to seek out counselling and it often takes time before they are able to see how their gambling impacts on their lives. Gambling counselors are experienced at helping people in these situations, unfortunately counselling is often a slow process. It can take time before people are able to admit the extent of their problem. If your partner is still attending counselling, then she is still working on the problem
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There are lots of different reasons that counselors need to keep their conversations confidential. Many people are shy about what is discussed in the therapy room and are hesitant to open up if they know their conversations will be shared. It is only by ensuring that conversations in the therapy room are private that people can feel comfortable to share their innermost troubles. There are also a number of legal reasons that confidentiality must be maintained. Confidentiality is incredibly complex and important.

It sounds like your partner is still not ready to change. There are a number of different things you can to do encourage them, although it can be difficult. If you want to learn how you can encourage your partner to change you can read more about how to talk to gamblers at https://www.gamblinghelponline.org.au/helping-others
Or even better, seek out a gambling counselor yourself and work on strategies to encourage your partner. Gambling counselors often talk with partners of gamblers and can provide some great tips.