by Jerry (facilitator) » Mon Dec 18, 2017 10:57 am
Hi Kathy,
It's great that you have started to separate your finances.
Gamblers change when the consequences of their actions outweigh the benefits.
Gamblers often get others to rescue them from the consequences.
They often get people around them to pay more than their fair share of bills and expenses. If a gambler lives alone and gambles their money away when the electricity bill is due, they get their electricity cut off. Consequence. If they gamble away their money when the electricity bill is due and their partner pays for it. No consequence.
Gamblers often get their partners to pay for groceries, fuel, bills, rent, mortgages, credit card debt, xmas presents etc.
In these situations the gambler rarely contacts our service. It is the partner that contacts, as they are the ones on the receiving end of the consequences. His gambling is causing negative consequences for YOU.
Ask yourself, how would his finances be different if he had to live alone.
Separating your finances as much as possible will allow him to start experience some negatives of gambling.